Bram, a man of 43, had always been the calm, demure figure, a contrast to the sometimes chaotic world around him. He worked as a customer service clerk, a job he appreciated for its simple routine and the sense of accomplishment he got from helping people.
Bram was certainly not a woman magnet, on the contrary. He was not exceptionally handsome, his build average rather than striking. His dark hair was thinning and he had a slight tummy tuck that he tried to hide under oversized shirts. His glasses gave him a thoughtful look, but there was also something vulnerable about him.
Bram had had a lot of bad luck in love affairs so far. His relationships were usually short-lived and somehow always ended complicated and unsatisfactory. His last relationship, with a woman he had met at work, had ended abruptly when she met another man. He was pushed aside hard. It had hurt him deeply and left him with a painful sense of insecurity. Could he ever fall in love with a woman again without getting hurt? In addition, Bram was inexperienced and often felt uncomfortable around women. He was never quite sure what to say or do, afraid of saying something stupid or giving the wrong impression. He was the man who was always at the back or on the sidelines at parties, a quiet subdued observer rather than an active participant.
Despite his setbacks on the love path, Bram remained hopeful. He believed there must be a woman somewhere who would appreciate his quirks and accept him for who he was: a somewhat lonely introverted man. He decided not to wait at home, but to seek happiness a little more. He had heard and read good stories about Pattaya. Ultimately, it was this belief that brought him to Pattaya in search of adventure, romance and hopefully love.
Pattaya
Pattaya, a city that never sleeps, Bram went out on his first night. He walked down the Beach Road boulevard to Walking Street. Once there, he was immediately impressed by the spectacle that took place there. The colorful neon signs, penetrating music and the many partygoers created an exuberant atmosphere. After some walking back and forth, his eye fell on a nightclub. It became his first destination: 'The Diamond', a nightclub known for its beautiful Gogo girls. Joy, a beautiful, young and slender Thai woman of 28 years old, worked in this club. She danced as you would expect from a Gogo girl. Her body moved like a graceful, untamed wind, illuminated by neon lamps and filled with the hope of many admiring male gazes.
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There was a sultry atmosphere in the club. The music was rousing, the scents of perfumes and booze mingled into an intoxicating cocktail. Joy, not only danced well, she was also more beautiful than everyone else. Her skin glistened in the neon light and her body moved to the beat of the music in a way that took Bram's breath away. Joy was an enigma, seductive and wild. Behind her strong appearance seemed to hide a vulnerability that intrigued Bram. He was attracted by her unbridled energy, her exotic appearance. Bram couldn't take his eyes off Joy.
Joy
In the following nights, Bram visited the club repeatedly. Every night Joy danced, hypnotically, moving her body in ways that both puzzled and fascinated Bram. He longed to touch her, to feel her soft tan skin under his fingers. Bram returned to the club night after night, obsessed with Joy. She danced almost every night, but sometimes she wasn't there, which Bram couldn't understand. When she was there she smiled at Bram, whom she now recognized as a regular guest. His desire for her grew by the minute, a blazing fire burning inside him.
After talking to some Dutch people, he now understood how things worked in Pattaya, he could buy her freedom with a barfine and then have fun with her.
One evening, after getting some courage, he took the plunge and paid the barfine for Joy. They decided to have a drink elsewhere on Beachroad and let the booze flow freely. It was necessary for Bram to ease the tension a bit, because he was nervous about what awaited him that night. When after about an hour Joy offered to go to his hotel, he quickly paid the bill and they walked hand in hand to his hotel. Bram saw other men looking at Joy, who radiated a lot of sensuality even when she walked.
Sensual night
Joy was experienced and kind to Bram, who she had to help take the necessary steps. The night was filled with sensual touches, shy kisses and hesitant discoveries. She seduced him with her experienced hands, made him moan with desire. It was a night of erotic tension that meant seventh heaven for Bram.
After this night, two more nights followed, but Bram's holiday was nearing its end. And what you can expect also happened. Bram fell hopelessly in love with Joy. He had never felt such passion before, a burning desire that lit up his whole being. His mind was constantly on Joy - the smell of her skin, the taste of her lips, the sensual curves of her body.
During the day, when the nightclub was closed, he walked distraught on Beach Road and Second Road, went shopping in Central for the umpteenth time. He was restless, all he could think about was Joy and cursed the time that crept by so slowly.
Declare the love
Knowing that his vacation was almost over, he decided to visit Joy at the nightclub on the last evening and declare his love to her. He would express all his deep feelings for her and ask if they could start a relationship.
After telling Joy about his love for her that night, he anxiously awaited her reaction. Unfortunately, Joy saw him differently. She loved Bram, she said, but not in the same way. For her, their time together was just part of her job, a way to make a living. A relationship was not an option for Joy, she liked her job and she told Bram that she also slept with other men. She broke his heart with her honesty, with her refusal to reciprocate his feelings.
“You are special, Bram,” she said softly, her eyes filled with compassion. “But I can't give you what you're looking for. For me, this is just my job.”
Bram's heart broke, he was short of breath. He quickly paid the bill and fled the nightclub, once outside he took a deep breath. And he walked briskly back to his hotel, knowing he hadn't even said hello to Joy.
That last night he couldn't sleep and stared at the ceiling. He was confused and sad, yet there was some kind of acceptance in his pain. He had loved, intensely and uninhibitedly, and he would always carry that experience with him. The memory of Joy, of the passion they shared in the neon-lit nights of Pattaya, would forever be etched in his heart.
The next day at Suvarnabhumi airport, Bram boarded the KLM plane on its way to Amsterdam. He swallowed the lump in his throat and felt a warm tear roll down his cheek.
From now on Joy was only a sweet memory…
An unpleasant experience for Bram, but I appreciate Joy's honesty and openness. She could also have played a game with him and completely stripped him financially.
How sad for Bram, but just maybe. saved himself a lot of trouble.
Why pathetic?
Bram has had the time of his life, and also the luck that he didn't end up in an impossible relationship.
A beautifully written story. If it hasn't happened yet, chances are it will happen someday. Pattaya …living in a fake world.
Bram has gained another experience.
Perhaps he will approach his next holiday differently with his new life experience.
Single women enough in Thailand.
You can not ignore it.
No matter how old you are, no matter how ugly you are,
This is such a relatable story. Got pretty crazy about a freelancer myself the last holiday. After spending 9 whole days together, I am very impressed with her. Now back home, it's hard to let this go. She stayed behind and continues her freelance life because she has no other choice. We still have daily contact and she indicates that she also loves me and has never been happier. I'd like to believe her, but there's a lot of sobriety in me. What to do, also think about this daily. Now agreed to be together for a month next year to see if it's real love. It is very complicated, because I know that in the meantime she is still having contact with other men because of her need for money. Am I going to plunge into an impossible relationship or should I withdraw already? So complicated, because I have quite some experience with women from Thailand and this is the first time that I really feel so lost.
Osen,
I think the best method is to support her a little financially.
That already shows from your side that you are looking for a relationship and from your side it is serious.
Many of these types of folds are looking for a reliable partner.
Most have children and their parents to support.
Some are just after money.
Next year, visit her family with her.
That already indicates that it is also serious for her.
Thai ladies themselves sometimes want to be loose about what their real intentions are.
you could ask another Thai in the Netherlands via video connection what she is up to.
She will also get an impression of life in the Netherlands and perhaps also more information about you.
good luck.
Totally wrong to advise sending money. Nonsense! Osen has not spent a week and a half with that lady in question. Do you think she is not professionally and professionally engaged with other men for the other 50 and a half weeks? What does he know about her? Why try to construct a relationship with money? And why does he have to show that he is serious? He doesn't even know that yet. In addition: staying away from the family and not propagating to please any in-laws is the best advice you can give. A Thai woman who strokes and spawns you because she is looking for a farang to support her family is the most disastrous thing you can encounter. So: take it easy, keep your head down, use common sense and act out of reason and never out of indulgence to appear sympathetic. And never buy it.
If you have that much experience then you know that this kind of relationship is asking for trouble.
It's also simple because every time she gets into trouble and you don't come across the bridge with money she jumps back into the circuit. Most freelancers already have a decent network and earn around 10.000 bht a day. I myself lived above a bar for a year and the ladies helped send emails to the farang. Some had 4 or 5 sponsors who transferred money every month. In addition, they were sometimes bought out and received a salary at the bar where they worked.
The ladies had more than 100.000 bht a month.
And that was a bar afterwards on the 3rd road.
There are bound to be exceptions, but with 30 years of experience, I say stay away from it as long as money is involved.
Osen, A lady who has many changing contacts will find it difficult to bond with 1 person (according to a psychologist).
If you feel lost, watch out! Never act from a heavy heart. Apparently you've fallen head over heels in love. Acting from states of mind always leads to disappointments. You cannot have any expectations towards her. Impossible! Let's spend some time on that first. Also don't think you love her because you can't. Those nine days you spent hanging out with each other can never have formed a basis for that. That you feel so lost says something about what your life in the Netherlands is like! That she says she is crazy about you, misses you and has been very happy those nine days: fine, right? What should she say then? You're back, she's home, doing her job, her choice, no need for money. Everyone has that. If you are still curious about her next year, you can always make arrangements for this. Never send money! That is definitely asking for trouble. Money changes every relationship, and the relationships are instantly skewed. If she likes to receive your money, she will never honestly and spontaneously tell you how she experiences you: after all, you have become a sponsor. In return, she will tell you what you like to hear. What's wrong with letting your sobriety speak again?
Thanks for your advice! Yes, I think it is mainly the situation here in the Netherlands that makes me feel so much for her. Will take it easy and see if there's more to it next year and I'm especially ready for a relationship with her. Yes, she has a child, parents plus a bank debt so I get this. Believe that she is honest, but would she also love me if I did not support her from the Netherlands. time will tell
Well if I could give some advice to Bram there are so many women in Thailand who do a normal job and would like nothing more than to get to know an honest farang starting in Central bv I was there a few years ago on a friends visit with wife and daughter and by strolling there alone I was approached and invited myself to take a walk along the beach after her job time, which of course I did not go into, also last year daughter / wife in the cinema in Bangkok was alone for less than half an hour or was spontaneously approached again by a nice lady (saleswoman) so if I ever had to be single I would definitely go into it.
Know a friend who bought his lady from the circuit, gave her a small shop in her native region as well as a nice house on her rai and because he was still flying back and forth, the lady had secretly gone back to Pats to earn some extra money …
Good luck to Bram
Patana,
The freelancers also go to central, take a walk along the beach and go to the cinema.
In principle, these can be found wherever farangs come.
These are the more savvy ladies, who know that they are seen in a bar as a bar lady and at Central as a nice shopping lady.
You will not often find the females who have a well-paid permanent job as Farang.
Most comments are about the story. However, I would like to give a big compliment to the author of this wonderful story: Farang Kee Nok. Your writing style is magnificent and your Dutch language skills are excellent. I hope to read many more stories from you!
he is already working on a new story, I heard, will soon be on Thailandblog.