Letter from Ning
Ning, Cor Verhoef's wife, occasionally looks over his shoulder when Cor reads Thailandblog. We asked Ning to shed light on what she sees coming along. "Never think that Thai women are from another planet."
If you have come from the other side of the world looking for an exciting Thai lady, you will surely find it.
If you are looking for a shy and tender woman who is a perfect housewife, you will certainly find it here.
Or if you want a bossy woman – complicated Facebook relationship type – you certainly won't go back home dissatisfied.
But beware… if you're walking down the street, or going out of town, or even looking just around the corner from your office, these kinds of women are there too.
Let me put it this way: if you happened to meet me somewhere, you might say: gee, she looks a lot like my ex. So the question is, who is your ex? A Dutch? A Spanish? A Russian? A Thai? An Indonesian? Who?
Women are women, no matter where they come from. You can go to the top of the Himalayas and find someone who looks like Thai women.
The weird thing is, when you fall in love – it doesn't matter who she is and where she comes from – and you doubt whether your relationship is going to work or not, you suddenly recognize her nationality. Then you dig into her family history and try with all your might to understand her background. You wonder if she is really with you because of love or because of your money. This could even happen if you marry a woman who is from the same continent as you.
If you are disappointed in one Dutch woman, do you think all Dutch women are like that?
One person cannot carry all the facets of a light.
So never think that Thai women are from another planet. We're just people. We know how to cheat someone. We know how to piss off men. But – tie it in your ears – we also know how to love and love to be loved.
Look, we've got something to do with that! I would like Ning to write more often, she hits the nail on the head!
Super that's how I feel about it Ning finally a statement from a woman.
This will loosen things up again, hope you look over Cor's shoulder more often from now on.
Look, that's a short and powerful piece to which I can add little.
You eventually just meet your love somewhere (by luck, coincidence, or a predetermined fate). Each person is unique, find the one that suits you and don't try to hang everything on a peg "that stems from her / his background as ... (Thai, NL, farmer, entrepreneurial family, ....)" . Matter of following your heart and using your head.
Sure, well written and I agree. But at the same time I dare to say that Thai women are DIFFERENT, yes. I got to know four of them well and the fourth is now my girlfriend. When you meet a Dutch woman, it quickly becomes about your relationships in the past: what worked, what didn't work and why/why not. I think that's good and I ask such things myself. If not in Thailand. None of the four have shown any interest in my past, not even now! I don't know if it's courtesy but I suspect not. I can of course ask about it, but wait and see if the question still comes spontaneously. I don't think the past plays… (the future does – it needs to be taken care of)
Hello Franky. I completely agree with you. It's exactly the same with me. No weird questions from and about the past, where I would have nothing to hide there. It doesn't even affect them. On the other hand, I don't ask about her past either. We all have a past. And that's a good thing. For we live today on yesterday's experiences. And that sometimes saves us from doing strange things now. I wish you a nice week-end - also the other readers of course.
Yes, “women are women”, that's a truth like a cow (oh, maybe not such a useful comparison). Men do not come to Asia to find an “exciting, perfect or bossy” woman, but to find a BEAUTIFUL woman. That is the primary motivation, the rest comes after that.
Dear Oliver
You speak for yourself here I suppose. You don't have to go to Thailand to find a beautiful woman, there are plenty of them here in the Netherlands.
Of course, you may not be able to get one here. Because you may not be mom's prettiest. There is no difference between a beautiful Thai or a beautiful Dutch. As Ning says here in her letter.
If you go for beautiful and the rest will follow. Chances are it won't end well. And yes, back to the Blog
Well done Ning. I hope in response to your letter that Pon will also give her opinion. I'm afraid it will come across as very un-Thai
All women, including the Thai, come from Venus. So they differ little from other women and all types are everywhere. And indeed, you can also love and be loved intensely by the Thai.
Mmm…. If this blog would have been Philippines, I would have immediately believed that it was a Philipina who knows how to say this so beautifully.
However, I have yet to come across a Thai lady who makes such wise statements.
Ning's reaction is and remains very welcome in my eyes.
Anyway ”This is amazing Thailand”, and everything is possible.
Incidentally, it all fits like a bus, let there be no misunderstanding about that.
So, finally a response, which I have been waiting for for years, very good and you can do more or other Thai beauties, too bad for the exploiters, but this opens many eyes of the gentlemen who think they can buy love, outside the hours with a happy ending, so think before you start, and now look at it through different glasses...
They can also cheat and piss off in the Netherlands, really.
It is and remains a great country and a matter of adapting, but beware, but you have to do that everywhere.
Success.
Sawasdee ka Ning,
Very correct your piece and nice to hear / read the wife of a Dutchman.
All women are (almost) equal.
In my opinion, the Asian woman is different in one respect.
They are more focused on the man.
They are more helpful to the man in many respects, where a Western woman will quickly say: “Hello, do that yourself or something like that.”
Sounds very black and white, but then I think it's clear what I mean..
And your figures remain disgusting and very annoyingly slim!!
Hahaha, just really jealous.
I'm waiting for your next bit.
Greetings,
Louise
Louise gets it, being a woman of course. I have a great example! My wife (Indo) 66 has a sister 76, you would say they have the same attitude towards men. My wife was 9 when she came from Indonesia with her parents, I met her when she was 16 and we are now almost 43 years old. married. Her sister married an Indo in Indonesia and immediately emigrated to Brazil. We come on holiday with them almost every year and you notice the difference in treatment from woman to man. My wife is Westernized and thinks indeed, do it yourself and there are many other examples.