What my wife and I are going through is indescribable. My wife has had a stalker for more than two years now, a Fleming we estimate to be in his eighties. Every month he invariably sends 1.000 to 1500 baht to our joint account.
Our thanks are great, but since the beginning of this year they have amounted to around five thousand baht. We do not feel comfortable with this and have therefore talked to our bank, the Kasikorn bank. After two hours the result of the deliberation came from above… we cannot refund it because we are not in possession of all the correct numbers, because there are three XXX in the middle. The Kasikorn bank has retrieved the correct number, but does not want to give it for privacy reasons.
But now the best. We are in possession of this idiot's home address and his bank only needs to enter this into their system so that we can refund the full amount and stop this idiocy. Here too, privacy is an important factor and we do not touch his bank account here either.
Tomorrow then go to the police for further advice because sleeping rich does not have to be done this way.
Submitted by Theo
The question remains, of course, how did that man get your bank account number.
My wife sold something to him in the distant past, which he then paid into her account.
How do you describe that nicely hihihi
Probably a Fleming of possibly in the 80's, I thought there are also data that you don't see on your bank book.
If the address is known and the problem is too big, then you still go to that address to talk to the best man or is there also a privacy objection to that?
Dear,
He once visited us and took over a piece of furniture from my wife. That's been a while, so that's why.
Just like the others write, maybe the man is wrong with the account number and I should write him a note that otherwise I will transfer the money to a good cause. Hoping it stops.
He did try to meet up with my wife for a few months, but that died a quiet death, what remained were the transfers, which is why I call him a stalker.
If you have his address, have you ever sent him a letter? And if the police can't help either, I would transfer money to a charity (no, not my bank account).
I would say: just standard, automatic deposit into a blocked account.
Wait for him to die and then return the money to the heirs.
I wish I had a stalker like that.
Preferably a lot.
But maybe it's not a stalker, but someone who transfers money to the wrong account.
Perhaps you could write him a note since you apparently have the address.
Why does Theo call him a stalker and indeed the man cannot be wrong. As long as he does not hear that it has ended up with an unknown person, he will continue to deposit money. Extremely sorry for the person for whom it is intended.
Send the best man a nice bunch of flowers and a thank you card.
You can also state that it is enough.
But the 80-year-old may want to give away some money.
That happens more often at that age.
Otherwise, it will soon go to the state.
Just go and talk to that man instead of immediately calling him an idiot or stalker.
I would send the man a friendly note, in juicy Flemish, expressing your thanks for the contribution and that you give quite a few rounds of it every month in the beer bar / from eating out / giving to the Watt, but that you wonder why one Belgian subsidizes the other Belgian so sweetly…
You are guaranteed never to hear from it again.
i wouldn't have a problem with that and as someone said if you'd rather not have it deposit it into a thai orphanage account or something. then something useful happens to it or help poor people in your neighborhood then you will still see the result of your good deed
If you/you are having SO much trouble with it……Close this account and open a new one………finished…….
Then the money is returned to the Fleming… at high costs. Win-win for Belgian and Thai banks… a shame.
If an account has been closed then you can no longer deposit anything into that account, that will no longer work and if the best man does this at a bank office, he will be told immediately and otherwise it will no longer work via internet banking.
Well, I also think it's a bit overly stalker and idiot.
Indeed think that, the man thinks I have some money left, am old, I send some money to her.
She sold me this and was very nice, maybe she could use some money.
Could also be that he is in the beans and sends wrong, but idiot and stalker goes too far.
You have been able to write a letter for 2 years to clarify this.
You have his address, do send him a thank you note, ask why and if it's a mistake.
And if so, whether you can return the money to his account. Maybe he even has an email address (doubt this)?
A privacy issue, bank account number? In my account all numbers are freely viewable, weird. But ok Thailand maybe different.
Totally wasted time, going to the police. What do you think the police can do???
I can predict what the reaction there will be: they do nothing, because they do not break any law. You can't report the loss of something either, ha ha. They send you back to the bank.
It will even be difficult for the agent to suppress his irritations.
Two options are left: do nothing and keep receiving the money or send the best man a letter (or maybe he's on Facebook).
As suggested above: there is a very good chance that the money is intended for someone else who may need it badly. What is a realistic possibility that underlies the error is the following: the best man clicks on someone in his internet banking address book whose name is somewhat similar to your wife's.
It is therefore your moral duty (in my opinion) to inform that man as soon as possible and if the money is indeed intended for someone else, then send it there.
Close the account and open a new one.
Could it be that this man – if you know him – has no heirs and is thus trying to prevent 'his fortune' from going to the state when he dies?
Then he has good intentions, right?
You may not be the only ones getting money from him.
Older people have their way of thinking and thanking…
Strange story. By having sold something in the distant past and have been depositing money for two years now. If you have the address, then you go and talk to that (old) man. Maybe your Thai wife has something to hide too.
Dear Theo,
Why to the police? Wherever but certainly in Thailand, what are they supposed to do with this? That's none of the police's business because nothing illegal is happening.
1. Let it go, you and your wife are not threatened right?
2. Send a letter asking what the money is for. Who knows what you'll find out.
3. Visit us when you are in Belgium for an explanation.
Maybe the man has dementia?
If you need to know something from a Thai, the answer is always privacy. Going to the police doesn't make any sense, I knew a Swede whose scooter was stolen the day before he left. He was allowed to pay it to the landlord. The thief, a woman from Sanpatong, was apprehended and the scooter returned to the lessor. The Swede heard about this through citylife but has never heard anything from the police.
Or even worse for the elderly sender: a mistake by his bank in your favor that he himself has no idea about.
I endorse the thought of Peter (formerly Khun), 80+, perhaps demented.
It is strange that you did not attempt termination much earlier by writing to the man, do so anyway, he still continues to pay and you really want to get rid of this, takes some effort, but you close the account and the amount is returned to the man, then it's over and this little weird story is over.
Paying to an institution does not solve the matter and would be a nonsensical act.
Success.
Sjaakie
I would say donate it to a local charity, you help others, that gives a lot of satisfaction.
Succes
On your advice:
– Don't go to the police.
– Call or write to the man what is going on.
– Change bank account.
Option three is not an option for us, we will follow option one. We carried out option two with the result: “Aleeee, don't bother me with your nonsense and I am DEFINITELY not going to give you my bank account. ”
We are left with a bill of the man with three XXX in the middle. HIS BANK AND KASIKORN KNOW THE WHOLE NUMBER BUT DON'T GIVE IT.
What kind of country am I living in and where is this going???
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