Thai gold digger on the road
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Nui and I have been living unmarried and happily together for 10 years. Without (major) problems thanks to clear agreements. This piece is about a friend of Nui, friends for 15 years. I call her Sasa, unmarried, 40 years old now and well educated. Share a lot on Line, exchange photos about restaurants and the meals there, among other things. Innocent pastime.
The years are counting, also for Sasa, so looking for a partner, on the internet of course. That resulted in a number of relationships, all of which ended. A Dane, smoked too much. A Singaporean, had too many Chinese features. An American, turned out to drink too much and not enough in the wallet. A 5-day trial week with an Englishman on Samui was broken off after 2 days. I will miss a few but…. alla.
At a certain moment Sasa asks Nui how it is possible that she can put up with me for so long, an old chap. Nui answers something like there is no cow that fur or has a spot on it and you have to accept that.
Now a retired American soldier is on the hook, a goldfish it seems. First the pecunia. Appears to have a full wallet. Income at the level of a colonel after some googling! Rare, too good to be true! So message to Nui.
Then the question to Nui whether 100.000 thb per month is enough to live on. While she now has to live on barely 20.000. Message to Nui.
I ask Nui to let Sasa know that such messages are not in good taste and that they make me a little tired. But yes, good friend. You do not do that. But the first signs seem positive. There will be an iPhone from the USA and also a gold ring. The lucky one can happen. Message to Nui.
After overcoming the Covid-19 restrictions Dave landed and has been in isolation. Then they will have to get married, but mother Sasa suddenly thinks 58 years is a bit too old, but if the sinsod exceeds 1 million, she will die. Getting married and a party for all of Surin. The congregation will know how rich their daughter is now. Message to Nui.
Now the messages follow each other quickly. A photo of a ring with stone, price tag still attached, 135.000 thb. A neck necklace with Sasa's name in gold. Another picture of a new ring.
Because Dave is a bit older, offspring becomes a bit more difficult and that is a point because of the guarantee that is attached to it. So look out for possible medical intervention. 500.000 thb. Message to Nui.
In short, it makes me tired, which is more serious Nui is somewhat infected by these kinds of envious messages, but understands how I stand. I refuse to get carried away and keep my leg stiff.
What I am now curious about is whether this is recognizable and what the bloggers advise?
You ask if this happens often.
I think it is almost standard in Thailand, Vietnam, Philippines and China.
It belongs to a culture where there is a lot of wealth difference between the various population groups.
Even my Thai wife was once approached in my presence by another Thai who wanted to say that her Farang friend would never sit on public transport with other Thai people because he had his own car.
The phenomenon also occurs in Vietnamese and Filipino people, as I understand from Philippine and Vietnamese colleagues.
This is also reflected in the caste system in India.
It seems that it is more the rule than the exception and that the Netherlands is the exception.
Well, that's how it starts! It was just like that with me. Married a girl from Isaan straight from the rice field hehe.
Couldn't speak a word of English when I met them but that wasn't a big problem as I could already express myself quite well in Thai.
When she arrived here in Belgium she was of course 100% dependent on me and that went very well in the first few years. Many other men with a Thai were jealous because I had met a "good one"! I sent her on a Dutch course and that's how she came into contact with other Thai women and then the fence was over! Why do you not seek richer ones? Those "girlfriends" who have nothing to do, some of them, do nothing more than destroy someone else's happiness and so my ex became less and less satisfied because she was not yet "rich"! Eventually she got to know a "richer" and our relationship ended in divorce. She then lived with her “rich” for a few years, but he in turn kicked her out because she was too jealous… Now that I have inherited quite a bit of money from my mother, madam wanted to come back but… hola Paula, no longer with me haha. She should have stayed… Look before you leap! This is not to say that a marriage with a Thai cannot go well, but the chance is very small. I used to know dozens of Thai women in Belgium and at least 90/95% of them started a new relationship or relationships, so I speak from experience!.
For me only hearsay and reading stories. It doesn't happen in our neighborhood or in the family. So my wife worked in Italy and Switzerland for a number of years. Originally a financial manager with the police in Chonburi and Pattaya. Currently still doing things as an accountant for the police in Uttaradit city and for the suburbs (subsidy specialist and fundraising from the government).
I have my Belgian, German and Dutch pensions, some insurance money due to an accident at work (shake company) and my AOW.
Not excessive,
1. I live in a village quite large, sprawling and secluded.
2. My "clean" family is pretty much everyone here.
3. Have 2 brothers in law both companies here and in bangkok, hua hin and chonburi area
4. I work and live here with and with my wife and mother-in-law and live like THEIR and the uncles, aunts, nephews, nieces up to the 20th degree.
5. We do NOT brag about what we have or don't have.
6. Me and the wife have 5 direct and 4 more people working for us indirectly for deliveries. Have NORMAL prices at perfect quality (were and food test always perfect). Pay an above standard wage and are very open about the benefits, costs and obligations.
7. Have NORMAL standard transportation/\. No BMW and NO Mercedes. a Honda and a Ford
8. The 2 brothers-in-law also have their own company here, but a local administrator is above it and I unexpectedly act as a kind of inspector.
Occasional incidents in 14 years or so, but never any problems.
9. Go to the temples almost weekly (4 units). Have an exceptionally good relationship with the chief monks (uh, often relatives somewhere).
Help if something needs to be done. Often walk in eh ′′ farmers ′′ clothing and therefore NEVER problems.
(Long black pants, broken t-shirt, bare feet and slippers (no toe).
Live in and on the field or indoors at 20 and 48 degrees. In the field also under a bamboo, grass hut itself rice and some chicken and water. Sometimes just get something else with the motosai.
10. My wife is in charge of agriculture and other agricultural subsidies here and we participate socially. Nothing extraordinary.
SO NEVER too often but rarely is asking about money or bidding what do I have.
Oh my condo is in Jomtien and have a teak house near Hua-Hin Cha-am_but the village and close friends DO NOT know that.
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Within the own family circle there is never actually boasted about money.
The reason is clear.
Boasting about money within the family costs money because the one with money almost has a maintenance obligation for other family members.
Can you imagine what it costs to boast in a village where almost everyone is related.
A beautiful story that I've been dreaming about for 25 years... falling and getting up and continuing
Kees
As long as there is money, this gentleman will be able to lead a good life in Thailand.
Perhaps the family will contain more and more members and investments will increase.
I wish him good luck.
The story is very recognizable. I even know that many Western men try to avoid their girlfriends meeting other Thai women for that reason
Bragging each other is something Thai women are notorious for. When my wife initially stayed in Belgium, she was included in a circle of Thai women. Every time she came back from that, I knew that they had turned each other's head off again.
Fortunately, my wife is not the social type and she quickly left those afternoons for what they are worth.
She told me how she felt uncomfortable in that company on several occasions. Now she has two real good Thai girlfriends and they are honest, correct, sweet ladies.
Not long ago in Thailand she went to a hair salon that I had recommended to her. The hairdresser was married to a Farang (whom I know a little and whom I wanted to please indirectly). When she came back she told me never to go there again. That lady hadn't stopped boasting about anything and everything throughout her haircut.
Since I know who that man is, that is pure fabrication because the man in question is anything but wealthy.
My wife has lost them as a customer anyway.
standard story.
Very recognizable.
I think it occurs in most countries where there is a big difference between rich and poor and origin and social class are decisive.
Many Thai ladies can outbid each other, that's right.
But in many of those stories my mouth falls open about mood making with gifts by foreigners.
Or quite invented because people also want to 'bid' or due to lack of oxygen under the 'roof tile'.
No wonder that many disappointed and alone are allowed to move on in life over time.
Correct cry gold diggers.
My wife has been working with many other Thai and other Asian women for years in various production halls. It's the same old story. Outbid each other, envy, brag. If you participate, you have many friends, lots of fun, party every weekend, lots of casino visits, gambling, lending each other money, and in the long run always an empty bank account. It's never enough. My wife always says that they can't live without each other, but still want to distinguish themselves. They do that by polishing up their circumstances: husband a high position with ditto salary, a house like a palace, money in the bank, land and property in Thailand. The opposite often turns out to be true. The many Filipino women she has as colleagues take it easy in that respect. They focus much more on their Dutch partner.