Reader question: In love with a Thai after holiday, does that have a chance of success?

Steve whether it has any chance of success depends of course on the two of you together, but I think you have to think about it very carefully.
it will probably take a long time before you can live together given your age and working in thailand will be very difficult.

to get her to the Netherlands will not be easy given her prison background.

I think it will cost you a lot of money to support her if she has no job and a child.

it seems to me, given my own experiences, very difficult and I personally wouldn't start it, but that is of course up to you and your feeling

Best friend. you don't know what you're getting into. Dozens of stories like yours end badly. Very rarely it succeeds. My advice; Take it easy and don't commit! If she lasts 5 years without always looking at your euros then you can move on. However, I'm afraid she won't last. In any case, "be careful sol" as my grandmother said.

Very short but concrete advice: give in to your feelings, to your crush and go for it completely.

However, as soon as it becomes even a little about money and you have to regularly go to your bank account for her or her family, then you throw her out because it will certainly make your life very miserable.

Then you can write to us again asking what to do now!

Much happiness together!

From the story that she was in prison for drugs, I understand that before this she had wrong friends, led an unstable life, possibly traceable to working in the bar and going with farang.
That had its influence and scarred her for life. You meet her in the bar and she is madly in love with you and you think you have found the one. What she's looking for is someone to take her out of the bar, give her a good life where she can house her child. That goes well until the money runs out or she gets tired of you or she meets someone who gives better perspective. Hundreds of farang have experienced such a situation. Already talking about getting married and taking it with you to Belgium has no basis. Go with her to the province to relatives and see how she behaves there. In Pattaya, all the ladies have that extra make-up and poker face they need to keep themselves entertained in farang. If that falls away, the true self emerges and that appeals to you, you can think further. If money is a side issue for her and the relationship is the main thing, you can go further. Otherwise, continue your search before the flapper tap runs out.

Yes, the history does not speak in favor of the person concerned. However, I still know of those who have been in prison for finding drugs in their home. The owner of the drugs, a Frenchman, had smelled trouble and had just left for the house search. This lady in question also spent two years in the monkey house before it was accepted that the drugs were not hers, did not use herself (blood test) and was released.
Whether the relationship will succeed? Who can give a sensible answer to that? The questioner should use his own mind and put everything neatly in a row… what is his “crush” based on? Fun in bed at three weeks? Or was there more? We can only guess at the true reason of the lady in question and we certainly cannot generalize, you will have to figure that out yourself, but a proven fact is that there are quite a few for whom the most important thing is: someone who gives “them” a better life than what they currently have. Judging by what you write, it won't be easy. I personally, also a Belgian, would certainly not start a “holiday relationship” with just about anyone and anywhere. You don't get to know each other better from a distance, unless you want a LAP or PAP relationship, and this will not be a cheap relationship, because of the great distance and the family situation of the lady in question, you can count on that.
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