Reader Question: Can Thai dating sites be trusted?

I met my current life partner through ThaiLoveLinks. I came back from the Netherlands 4 years ago and was looking for the right place to 'rent', but alone is also alone. In the 1st year I stayed with 3 different women, 3 completely different types in completely different environments. I had a straightforward profile about myself and an extensive profile about the woman I was looking for. I didn't feel like endless writing and calling. If it doesn't click, it's pointless. I got in touch with no. 4 and thought it wouldn't work out because she didn't match my profile at all but after 3 years we are still…..I used to chat a lot because I liked it then and to gain experience doing. I think it works better (higher chance of success) than visiting bars and hoping you find someone there. It is also suggested that you just have to go into the country to find the right one, but do that if you can't speak Thai. I have been alone for a long time in Thailand after a divorce and I can speak some Thai, but if I see a nice woman in a shopping mall, how can I know that she is single (with or without children)? How should you start such a conversation? I think a dating site is the safest (on all fronts) and if someone responds to your unpaid profile and you want to know more about it then pay membership for 1 or 3 months. Go meet her, that's easier from Thailand than you have to book a flight…. 1 week together says a lot more than 1 year of daily chatting. The feeling that someone evokes in you in real life is very important and don't forget the background. Good luck.

Tagged was(is?) free. Sort of FB. Dateinasia was (is) free.
Times no longer used. After all, I'm busy.
Women come in all shapes and sizes, from serious to grabbers.
As you “fall in love,” keep looking at the situation from under rose-colored glasses.
And that is not only for the Thai woman, but for every woman.
seen, heard, experienced enough in my life that it can just turn around.
The weirdest situations in relationships.
It never matters how good you are, there is always something that will show up
As I said, am taken and in a relationship with a Thai. Consciously searched for a woman in my age group.
Not a young peep chick, but maybe it would be better?
Don't know what your X has been up to, but do know that it can happen to you.
And that can be within a month, year, 10 years, can just happen.

I think the real question is not whether the dating sites are reliable, but whether the ladies you find on them are reliable.
No one can answer that question in general. You'll have to figure this out for yourself. It is important to understand the Thai culture, which looks at relationships differently than in the West. You also need people skills and your expectations about give and take must be realistic. A relationship with someone from another culture can be beautiful, but it is not the path of least resistance.

Tagged is still free, I play the pet game on it.
I met my wife in 2007 vis Thai Love Link.
First an unpleasant (asking for money) experience with a woman from Korat.
Happily married to a woman from Khon Kaen for over 10 years now.
She has lived with me in NL since 2009 and now that I am retired happily together here in Thailand

Dear Walter

I may be able to help you a little.
I have a lot of knowledge with teachers. These are in the 50 years.
But you get honesty in return. I don't know what you're looking for, but these don't depend on you. These are women who are looking for a good man who is not touchy.
And good cooperation. these women have never worked in a bar.
These women have their own money, but they are also looking for a better life.
If you are interested, give me your email address and I can tell you more and also send photos, but you have to make the appointments yourself. And this these are not good in English.

I also met my wife through Thai love links. And now I have been married for 3 years. My tip is to try to find a woman who works herself and then a better job. Teacher, nurse. Other government agencies. There are many good women but unfortunately also bad ones. But in the Netherlands it is no different.

Walter I don't know how much experience you have with relationships. But it's the same story worldwide. Different ladies have different intentions. One is already happy if she can find a guy. The other only has genuinely serious intentions. The other prefers to have about 5 (foreign) friends who prefer to sponsor her as much as possible. Take a look at the different stories about this. Read up on the culture of the country where you think you want to meet a lady. In my case, I've had quite a few relationships. Both in the Netherlands and the former Eastern Bloc. These often revolved around only 1 thing. And that is money. But a Thai also has expectations in that direction. After all, we all need to be able to eat, drink and live somewhere. In Thailand, the family also needs help. A few years ago I went to Thailand. Eventually I met my current girlfriend there. I met her on one of those Thai dating sites. On such a site you have to try to separate the wheat from the chaff yourself. I can even write a manual for that)) But it mainly comes down to using your common sense. And keep an eye out! My girlfriend has been living here for a year and a half. She even works. Learns the language. But one thing remains difficult .. Many pennies are for Thailand. But I had read up on the culture and was prepared. One last tip: avoid the barmaids. And ask yourself if it is realistic whether a lady really likes you.. Even though my girlfriend is half my age..

Walter.
I've known my wife for 8 years through dateinasia.com, I've been lucky and haven't complained for a second. Six from Khon Kaen, not from Pattaya or the like. Has completed university, with diplomas, political science and management. So watch out a bit
Good luck Walter.