The land of the free

Yes Peter, I think your analysis is correct. Thai are much freer than farang, in everything you can think of.

“Live today and see tomorrow” is the motto of most Thais. Yesterday has been and they look at almost everything from the practical side. Why make it difficult when it can be done easily. Moreover, don't think too much, because that also has many disadvantages.

I think all this has its origins in Buddhism. “just because I think differently doesn't mean I'm wrong”. Many of their customs have an ancient history, such as the sinsot, for example. The Thai like to hold on to such customs.

It is difficult for the farang to understand the Thai way of thinking and are often dismissed as stupid or nonsensical. I too have been really biting myself and I still find it difficult. Well, strange people those Thai.

What makes it even more difficult are the class differences and/or whether someone is from BKK or from Isaan. You have thieves and cheaters everywhere, I will exclude them for now. To begin with, you should look at Thailand through Thai eyes and try to understand why things are the way they are here.

To do this you will first have to empty your bowl, because it is difficult to fill a bowl that is already full.

The Dutch like to look at things negatively and their idea is the right one. EVERYTHING in life has two sides, try to find the positive side like every Thai does. You live a lot easier and all worries fall away from you.

3rd point
Thai lazy or practical ? Does one contradict it more closely?
Seeing a Thai working in the Isaan if it is not immediately necessary. ? Pay salary preferably per day or at most per week. If too much at once, he will not come for the next few days.

Doesn't corruption also have to do with laziness? Rather work for nothing than work for it.
Pay advances on work? Don't, you'll never see them again.
Occasionally fell on my face? Yes ! Not bitter, but learned and wiser.

In a private house, the floor is generally neat and clean, after all, that's where you sit and eat. Do not put your hand above eye level (the disadvantage is that you are taller if you are falang) eg on the refrigerator. It sticks.
The daily waste is layered under the house on stilts instead of the container that is collected here every 2 days. Practical or lazy?

I don't scatter money around as a falang, it's also the only way to be seen as an equal and get some respect instead of a pitying look.

Again, don't generalize here. there are also many Thais who work 14 hours a day.
But for "rather lazy than tired" there will definitely be a Thai translation.
There is often enough work here. But it is often impossible to find employees. Skilled or unskilled

Let's get straight to the last topic Thai women businesslike and skilled in marketing.? Selling love, attention and sex? Yes, of course, but is this not an extension of lazy and easygoing?

Almost every woman I know here thinks it's quite natural that she or a family member or even her own daughter sells herself or at least has no problem with it.
Still much easier and less tiring than working for a modest wage in a shop. Losing face is no longer an issue here. It's established and you're seen as stupid if you don't do it.

Each village has 4 karaokes and a “bungalow park” on each approach road. One village pops into another and every representative young woman earns something on the side.

As a falang you only have to indicate that you are up for it and in the coming months you will be overwhelmed with offers”. It beats, sweeps and sucks for the right amount of baths.

Lack of education is indeed a cause. But have you ever tried to teach a Thai something. The old guard even tries very actively to stop the young people if they want to learn something above the age of 14. Considered nonsense. girl is going to get married anyway or better become mia noi and boy better go to work in Bangkok.
No stories, but close-up experiences.

Selling love, attention and sex, I have nothing against it, (I'm not a saint, as a consumer also nice and easy, no consequences, nice and non-binding) but elsewhere it's just called prostitution and no marketing.

I know it can be very hard work, but it also has something to do with laziness. Especially because the reason is not always that eternal poverty, but often the desire for luxury. And… much of the money is spent on booze and gaming. Also such an ineradicable folk custom. Alcohol is a huge problem in Thailand. Difficult country for a non alcoholic like me.

As a conclusion then more that I hold Thai women in high esteem. In the right circumstances and with a bit of luck you will find the sweetest life partner. If she is also not jealous (already a bit more difficult in Thailand), has no greedy family and a little school, then you can't believe your luck.
If you're unlucky, you end up with a life-threatening, jealous and sour money wolf. But yes, you also run that chance in NL and divorces are more expensive there.

Thailand remains the land of possibilities for the adventurer, provided that you keep your eyes open and manage your money wisely. Otherwise it's a quick one way return.

yes guys , no female reactions so far, it's something !
I actually don't think Thailand is that different from the rest of the world.
I have not lived in the Netherlands since 1987 and class companies can be found everywhere, I was in California, New York, quite a bit of class, lived in Italy, poof what a class society, France the same but not so clear…and yes now Thailand.
I think that every individual creates his own world, contacts that I have here are both upper and middle class, and of course the lower and that mixes up pretty easily.
The difference is that the tops have an orange color and the low ones are red.
isn't that the case everywhere?

maybe it's a difference that I'm not in a Buddhist environment, I don't know, but in my in-laws the gentlemen don't drink, I'm the only one who drinks a decent glass of beer with my in-law...
I am also the one who puffs a cigar, no one else.
my family here has helped me a lot, with all kinds of Thai ceremonies, visa laser, driver's license, house book, rental contracts, car purchase.
my brother-in-law even guarantees me financially because of course I have no banking history in Thail;and.
and is that special?
I do not think so.
I also received so much cooperation in my profession as a painter, from transport to hanging, pubicity and photography that has never happened at this level in the fantastic west…and certainly not in France where I have lived for the last 14 years.
The French are prone to selfishness, I can't say that about Thais.
in short, everything will be wrong in Thailand, and yes if you are used to Europe or the USA it is a bit complicated with the visa, but how are Thais treated by Schengen or the USA?
horrible.
they almost do not enter fortress Europe, you have to move heaven and earth with proof, bank accounts, property papers and god knows what more. And yes, when your girlfriend or boyfriend finally passes passport control, where you are also asked to prove that there are 37 € per day in resources, then the person must go to the police within 3 days to report, otherwise this counts as a crime.
Isn't it wonderful that knowing Europe?
give me Thailand , with air conditioning .

so we complain? oh…

Sometimes I think I live in a different Thailand than the Dutch people who express their opinion here.
With the Thais with whom I am friends (or in my circle of acquaintances) have a very normal family life
Of course it is true that many Thai men drink way too much, just like many in the Netherlands. Drinking a lot is of all times and everywhere. But here too, the same applies: especially in the villages.
In the villages boys already drink a lot and also use drugs (jabai)
I spent my early childhood in a village in Overijssel and many people were already taking it there.
Just like here in Thailand.
The trend in Thailand, as in the Netherlands, is that the youth who go to higher schools / university consist of many more girls than boys. The pupils from the villages often spend more than an hour on the bus to visit the school (and back again, of course).
You also see a lot of women in all sorts of important positions. I feel much more than in the Netherlands.

And the sex.
A lot of women don't put up with it if their husband cheats and or gamble away all their money. They often go on alone.
Many girls and women in well-known places such as Pattaya etc also have such experiences. They try to earn as much as possible to give their children a good education.
I do respect that.

I notice that the many posts in Thailand blog make me think much more about all sorts of situations and problems in Thailand.

I experience it as very positive.

GJ

Yes you are right discussion has been going on long enough and everything has been said. Nice that it appeals to everyone.
My closing reaction: I think it's a pity that the subject is always discussed from a Dutch / Western or Thai point of view. The "strange" thing is that I haven't felt Dutch for years, but just a citizen of the world. Been to many countries. I am not comparing one country to another. But what's wrong is wrong in every country. This cannot always be made up for with the remark “cultural difference”.
Furthermore, I enjoy following all the discussions in this blog and I live with even more pleasure, but sometimes also with some surprise, in Thailand.
We wish you lots of fun and discoveries in Thailand.