Hand over mouth in Thailand

By Gringo
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April 15, 2021

Have you ever noticed that many Thai women regularly cover their mouths when you are talking to them? Why are they doing that? Is it shyness? Is it a shock reaction from yet another very direct remark from a foreigner? Is it fear? Is it shame for an open mouth?

Science

I don't have an explanation for it and science doesn't know exactly either. A recent article in De Volkskrant states that little or no research has been done. But most scholars agree that the hand over the mouth is an attempt to stifle emotions.

Cultural statement

The article claims that the hand over the mouth is a universal reaction in people, regardless of where they live and what culture they belong to. There would be no cultural explanation for this, but I doubt whether that also applies to Thai women. I do think it has to do with Thai culture in one way or another, but I can't explain it. Do you?

Source: www.volkskrant.nl/de-gids/wat-doet-die-hand-voor-our-mouth-if-we-shock~b07b1ec8

16 responses to “Hand over the mouth in Thailand”

  1. Rob V says up

    No, I have seen practically no difference between Thai or Dutch men or women. Maybe it's the setting? Wait staff will behave differently than a friend or relative I guess?

    • Rob V says up

      I've seen it in series with school-going girls. It is possible that some girls received this in their upbringing with traditional role patterns: girls should be submissive and helpful to higher persons on the ladder (brothers, partner, parents, ..). This includes subdued behavior, which you suppress by covering your mouth when laughing or giggling. But here I am theoretically fishing, the girls in the Netherlands sometimes covered their mouths when laughing. Whether that actually happens more often in Thai schools.. no idea. In practice, between adults of all ages here or there, I have never really observed a difference.

  2. Daniel M. says up

    I have not read the article in De Volkskrant. So this is just my personal opinion.

    I don't think this is a real Thai phenomenon. I think it occurs worldwide. But perhaps also very much in Thailand among teenage girls.

    It gives a very relaxed impression or appearance. They feel good about themselves. A little rascally, to attract attention or curiosity. Probably especially towards boys and young men. They see something they find funny and hope that they will be addressed by the person they are looking at. Probably also looking for good – read attractive – (male) company, possibly for friendship or a relationship or just for a “nice date”.

    Can also be towards (male) friends, to provoke their reactions or get them 'out of their shell'…

    In short, a kind of tactic.
    Could also just be without an ulterior motive, just because they are happy.

    I think it also occurs within a family atmosphere, for example when 2 sisters joke together in front of their father, for example to get more attention from him or to put him in a good mood.

    Whatever it is, it's always cute to watch.

  3. Jack S says up

    In Japan, women do this too. Even more than in Thailand, where I hardly noticed.
    Could it be related to the past, about 100 years ago, when the women here still blackened their teeth, or when they still chewed a lot of betel nuts? In Japan it was also customary for women to blacken their teeth and in Indonesia, especially in Bali, the canine teeth were shaved off. The reason was that man would then look less like an animal. Well, I don't know if they kept their mouths shut.
    But I can imagine that in the days when black teeth belonged to the ideal of beauty, the white ones, which people undoubtedly also had, were hidden behind the hand. Later the black teeth disappeared, but the hand remained….
    If I'm right… I don't know, but these are my thoughts on this…

  4. John R says up

    hand over the mouth: is also done if the teeth are not in order and a burst of laughter cannot be avoided.
    In Indonesia I see a lot of bad teeth but little laughter.

  5. l.low size says up

    With the 3 eternal "pranksters" on TV (throwing cake, hitting each other's head, so-called slipping) a number of teenage girls are in a dent of laughter! Most of them with their hands in front of their mouths.

    Maybe that's a habit like making themselves smaller when they pass in front of someone.

    In the Netherlands, people cover their mouth when yawning.

  6. John Chiang Rai says up

    I also think that there is not much difference between us Farang and the Thais in keeping their mouths shut.
    The only difference I could think of is the fact that many Thais may like to hide their emotions.
    They may not want to expose their burst of laughter to their funny, odd, or even stupid reaction that caused that laugh.
    Moreover, it is not immediately a nice or appetizing look for your opposite to let him / her look far into your neck.
    That's why I think it has to do on the one hand with decency towards your interlocutor, and on the other hand perhaps with your own sense of shame not to give another person the opportunity of what you don't want to see yourself.
    For me it doesn't have to be a laugh at all, an unabashed yawn where someone opens their mouth often behind their ears, without coming up with the idea of ​​shielding this with a hand, I personally find it very painful.
    Even a three-year-old child in Thailand is already taught to cover his mouth when yawning because it does not make a decent or appetizing impression to others.
    Would the latter suddenly be different when laughing?

  7. Sjaakie says up

    Hand over mouth to show friends who tell something nice that it's completely crazy.
    My wife's sister in front of her mouth because she knows that she smells terribly from her mouth, but does nothing to prevent that smell.
    Hand to mouth also for strengthening the reaction to what someone else says when it's bad news. I myself am not a hand in mouth holder.

  8. aduard says up

    Due to the difference in culture, in my opinion, you see this especially when "others" enter into a conversation with each other, think more of the Western ways that are foreign to them, with friends I see this phenomenon more often, I call it adolescent giggling.

  9. Dr. Kim says up

    In ancient times it was a sign of respect and decency. In the Persepolis, for example, one sees a relief in which a courier addresses the Prince and holds his hand over his mouth. So it was made thousands of years ago. Mind you, the hand is then held about 5 to 10 centimeters in front of the mouth.

    In Persia I also saw this later with a merchant, who praised his wares but kept his hand over his mouth. After thousands of years, therefore, still a custom of decency. The use by the girls is different, I think.

  10. Geert says up

    Thais often eat spicy food with a lot of garlic.
    Maybe they also do it to cover up their smelly breath, this is what my Thai partner tells me.

  11. Jan says up

    Something different and I don't know if that is also the case in Thailand. If something has happened and women are talking on the street, they often have one arm in front of their chest/belly and they hold the other hand by their throat. Also such a remarkable fact. And oh yes. I often see older men walking or standing with their hands behind their backs. Is this to keep the balance or is it meant to say: “I'll keep my hands to myself”.
    Recognizable? And there are many more 'actions'.

  12. PaulW says up

    In China where I lived for about 17 years and still spend a lot of my time, it is also common for ladies to cover their mouths when laughing. My Chinese wife told me at the time that it is taught by the parents, it is a form of respect, especially towards an older person or richer. Or to hide bad teeth. But it is becoming less and less common, especially in the big cities among the new generation.

  13. Dree says up

    Reminds me of my former neighbor and very beautiful woman but when her mouth opened you saw many rotten teeth that's why she always smiled with her hand over her mouth

  14. Marc Dale says up

    Occurs in many more countries in Asia. Especially when (smiling) laughing.. Too bad, because their (smile) smile is so attractive

  15. John Scheys says up

    That is a form of embarrassment and therefore shyness. The same is true in the Philippines…


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