Thai bride, only for old men?
For those who can receive the Belgian VTM: on March 22 at 2155 (Belgian time) there will be the program “Moerkerke en de Mannen”. A portrait about Flemish men who have a preference for Asian women.
In the fourth episode of 'Moerkerke en de Mannen', Cathérine Moerkerke goes in search of men who absolutely want an Asian woman. Just for sex or because Asian women are so easy? Or will they really find the love of their lives?
Cathérine talks to Andreas, among others. A young Gentenaar who breaks through the cliché image of the Western man in Asia. He finds little excitement in the many strip clubs in Thailand and his Thai girlfriend wears the pants at home.
In Moerkerke en de Mannen, Telefacts face Cathérine Moerkerke, as a woman, steps into a different man's world for eight weeks. She follows men with a special story, and is very curious about things that as a woman she understands little about, such as celibacy among priests. Direct, straight to the point, but always charming, Cathérine gets a lot of men's tongues loose in her reports, which results in surprising portraits.
You can see 'Moerkerke and the Men' on Tuesday at 21.55 pm on VTM.
More information: vtm.be/moerkerke-en-de-men/thai-bride-only-for-old-men
Why are there men who prefer Asian ladies? Well, because there are always people (men and women) with a certain preference: red hair, blue eyes, very slim, plus size, nice and dark, beautiful snow white... So of course there are men and women with a soft spot for " exotic” which could be Asian, for example, or African, or Latino… To immediately link sex to this is very short-sighted….
And it is of course no surprise that the woman is wearing the pants. But it is unfortunately no surprise that there are people who think in the stupid image of “old sex-hungry man looking for a young woman to exploit”… But it will take a lot of programs (not sensation-oriented) before that image diminishes. I fear.
Thai bride just like any other looking for love?
I think I understand that eea is structured as follows. The Thai bride of a foreigner seeks love and financial security. Love is the hardest to find and security is often found in an older groom. There is another side to that. A woman who opts for economic marriage does not need much sex with her partner. That's another reason for her to choose an older partner, sex but not 3x a day with a partner that doesn't really get you excited. I wonder if this will spark an interesting discussion.
An opinion often arises from knowing nothing, or half knowing, and is often based on double standards, thinking you know better, and generalizing other people, whose proper reasons for their marriage are not known at all. Often when one partner is slightly older than the other, you get these so called (better knowers) who start to speculate, why this couple got together, and if in their opinion this can work out. These so-called experts emerge from a culture where almost every 2nd marriage ends after a few years. Even if a Thai woman would say that she is very happy with her older husband, these people will continue to complain skeptically, because it has remained strange to them. A world would be good first, if everyone would let the other in his own value. Most of the time, those men who find themselves willing to work on such TV programs are of the kind who keep this sensational world alive. Someone who appears too ordinary or too intelligent is of no interest to this thrill-seeking TV audience.
I'm curious too, Eric.
The hypocrisy is herein: the inescapable idea of Europeans (and all Westerners) that you can only marry OUT OF LOVE.
All other reasons for marriage, according to our 'European political correctness', are only tricks to subdue and enslave the woman.
“If you marry for economic reasons, your wife must provide sex, even if she does not want to,” is the reasoning.
It's sanctimonious reasoning! Why?
Well, a very simple example.
Angelina Jolie, for example, surely marries Brad Pitt… and not her heating installer. A gynecologist from Harderwijk will also not marry his cleaning lady. A truck driver from Zwevezele will also have a hard time with a female quality control manager from a biscuit factory.
I just want to say!
Yet we stubbornly keep telling ourselves that we always marry only for love.
I am tired of engaging in such reasoning with my circle of friends. You go to Thailand for sex and when you get married, she wants your money. That's how simple we keep it lately.
Exactly as if Thai women don't have feelings, can't have the same expectations as us and can't think for themselves.
What pride and derogatory attitude of Europeans.
An hour ago I walked in the Big C of Amnat Charoen, a backward hole in the Isaan.
A very well-groomed old gentleman, at least 70 years old, no doubt a surgeon from France, Holland, Switzerland or so, with snow-white hair in a wave and a beautiful blue suit, walked arm in arm with a Thai beauty that knocked you over, big , slim, heavenly face, breasts, stiletto heels and an expensive dress. What a figure! She would have been 28 years old at the most.
It was BEAUTIFUL TO SEE. I wish them everything and suppressed my jealousy for not spending so many pennies on female beauty.
And yes, Thai people also know she's in it for the money, not just Europeans who know everything better! But she's quite right.
Who knows who else can make them happy, besides her 70-year-old surgeon…
And if he's happy, what are we talking about?
Love seems to me to be the main reason for entering into a relationship or marriage, but certainly not the only one. A bit of affection is what people are looking for, someone who takes care of you and cares about you. Someone you care about and want to take care of. Both partners must feel comfortable with the relationship. A wealthy lady would - so my gut feeling tells me - prefer to find a partner who is financially just as good or better and not a simple soul who barely gets bread on the table. People are, in a sense, selfish: that woman certainly has a good chance of meeting a nice man with nice assets, so why settle for a nice man without any assets? Why would a man settle for a nice woman when he can get a nice woman who is beautiful? So people often end up together who are both satisfied and don't have the idea that they can get "better".
As long as those people are happy together and respect each other. In my opinion, love remains the most important foundation, but as a couple together where “caring for each other” comes first, that's fine, right? If an old man/woman hooks up with a young man/woman and they become best friends who take care of each other in all kinds of areas, that's fine.
Do I look strange when I see a cliché old fat, dirty man with a gorgeous young lady? A bit, I doubt that love has the leading role in both (it could be!). But if they are both satisfied and respect each other, fine, Then the thought is on my mind "I don't know if I myself would be happy when I am old with a treasure that could be my granddaughter, and I don't know if I woman in bed with a fat old bag, I'd run screaming at the mere idea and find a nice man my own age, but if they're both happy? have fun”.
The idea that in a relationship that has been concluded for more economic reasons, people do things against their will (read: sex against their will or rape, scrubbing the floor until it bleeds, etc.) is of course ridiculous. Then the one who is badly off will probably take off. Exploitation is in a person's character. That couple who are the same age and seem happy, terrible things can happen behind doors. Unfortunately, abuse/exploitation still occurs, between people of all kinds, which is of course sad and we must combat it, but making the link with foreign loves or a large age difference is pathetic and short-sighted to put it nicely.
Still, I hope that this program is not another sensational show with stupid, incorrect, stereotypes that people can go off on. In many relationships, the partners are simply quite satisfied or very happy, even if that is with a foreign partner. Well, that makes for boring TV… and viewing figures are unfortunately quite important. Nevertheless, I can also enjoy a program where ordinary people encounter human things -differences and similarities. For example, I found the Dutch series Liefs Uit very successful, the Belgian version (name?) from a few years ago was unfortunately of the loser TV level. Wait and see.
When I said years ago in Belgium that I was going to Thailand, I immediately saw on the face what people thought. Later I met a woman who had been to Pattaya once and told me what I came here to do. I was mentioned as a sex tourist. She only knew Pattaya and what happened there.
She had never heard of Chiang Mai. So give everyone the same stamp.
I am also an old man, 71 and have a girlfriend who is 63. I love her but not in a young man's way. Most importantly, her good knowledge of English, we can communicate very well with each other. Furthermore, when you are older, there is someone who takes care of you in a normal day-to-day way. Now I am still healthy and well but I know that this can change soon.
Her interest is that her old age be taken care of; I have an appointment with my son for that. I hope he respects this.
In view of the attacks in Brussels, the program has been adjusted and this broadcast will not take place. For your information.
The broadcast is now the 29th of March… And yes, enough nerd men who bring a lady from afar to be her national in their own country.