Reader question: Dowry yes or no?

The sinsod is often many times higher than the real amount. After the wedding you get the money back, served only to impress those present. By the way, make this clear if you want to do it that way.

I think you should adapt to the culture of the country you are staying in. So getting married in Thailand means paying sinsod. Or do you want to spend the rest of your life with a disappointed family? Do not forget that these people have to live on it and possibly also have to pay for the sinsod of their son who is getting married.

I was recently at a wedding of a Thai helicopter pilot from the Bkk police and a doctor. The pilot's family contributed heavily and even had to sell land for it. The wedding was simple, a 10-course Chinese menu, but that was celebrated in the house of the bridal couple. Large party tents on the street and the catering provided the food / drinks. I expected more from it but think it's a great solution to celebrate a cheap wedding. I could walk there so that was nice.

I think you should pay sinsod anyway. You ultimately have to know the amount yourself. It can go from 1000 euros to 100.000, up to you sir! You probably also have to pay for the wedding party, but you will receive many envelopes with money back, usually about covering the costs. Oh yes, the monks who appear at 6 o'clock in the morning also want an envelope per man.

That is of course not true. Decent Thai people return the sin sod (a custom for the face of the family) right away. It is not for lazy life of parents and other relatives. But there are bad families who rub their hands at the sight of a Farnag potential son-in-law. Never, never, never start, not even monthly donations that exceed the salary of father-in-law. I just put this on the table 30 years ago, I'll never ask anything from you but don't mess with us. That has always gone well, although there have been a few home runs on my wallet that I have turned down. Also, moving in with us, for free, is not an option. Advice put a dot on the I in advance and never start. Also don't lend to Thai by the way. Again decent families don't do this. If they do exert pressure, well then you are still waiting

It is customary that you have to pay a dowry otherwise the party will not take place. Over the years I have sung at many weddings and attended shows and the necessary puppet shows. Recently a Norwegian threw a million baht on the table, only to get half of it back. However, he was so drunk that her brothers ran off with all the money. The game was played so cleverly that he still had to pay half a million otherwise she had to come back home, and the guy fell for that too. A bunch of hustlers, drunks and gamblers. I'm going to give it a wide berth and marriage should be banned anyway, because that is often your death sentence, or your ex, or handing over your assets, and things almost always go wrong sooner or later. Stay free or be friends with each other, and enjoy life and don't let yourself be financially trapped in a country like Thailand, because once you give there is no end. Had an ex who had already been married 4 times, I heard too late, and then she wanted to surprise me when I arrived in Korat. The story was that Mommy wanted to see me so badly. She meant my ATM of course and already saw it, a large house with a supermarket, and I immediately turned around when half the village had left and I saw black labels everywhere on the tables. I hadn't been seated for even a minute when I got the drinks bill for 59.000 baht. Quickly take money and never see it again.