Jealousy in Thai

dear Khun Moo, yes there is jealousy, if my wife's girlfriends ask a little too much attention from me, they hardly come in the door anymore, even if I say it's nothing and that I didn't marry her for nothing but I think that also has to do with a certain security they want, imagine I'm going off with a friend of hers, the shame but certainly the loss of a secure financial future, they have no reserves or safety net such as pension etc

Let's kick off the striker. Women and jealousy are two hands on one stomach.
Women all over the world are jealous. They tenaciously guard their territory, even if they give it away the next day by running off with another.
A Belgian ex-girlfriend had the obnoxious habit of giving me an extra hug when I was talking to her peers. She left her poop behind, as we say in Belgium. I now speak of my professional career, for example during a staff party, a reception, etc. Our relationship has therefore not lasted.
That's the shortsightedness of jealousy.
A true woman has the intelligence to let you be the macho, but to know that you will always be with her. It often goes wrong there. Because if she doesn't invest enough in you, she will lose you.
I am thinking, for example, of Goedele Liekens, relationship therapist and sexologist, who regularly told women what power a man's morning erection gave them. A man who takes your hand in the morning will not cheat. Unfortunately, how many women are too stupid, or too selfish for that…
What strikes me after all these years in Asia is that the women there are more extremely jealous than in Europe. You don't have to agree with me. I remember girls I picked up for the night and after a text from a former girlfriend went wild, started throwing everything in the hotel room, even though they had no relationship with me at all except for that one transaction.
Cathereya, a girl I used to hang out with in Bangkok, we danced in soi 4 and she wanted to go to the Insomnia, but I didn't, pushed a friend into my hands. Do what you want with it… Then she danced until 6am and then came banging on my door for hours because she knew I was in bed with her friend. Whole hotel to shame.
It only becomes frightening when the jealousy takes on paranoid forms. And that happens more than you think. That's the infamous situation where your girlfriend or wife takes the kitchen knife, jagged and unsharpened, and cuts off your dick early in the morning! It is, in fact, a morbid psychotic jealousy.
Only if the surgeon is there within the hour, and your scrotum has been cut off nice and fine and has not yet been thrown to the mutts, do you have a chance to keep your manhood. It is true that from now on you won't have much feeling anymore, due to nerve endings being cut off, so climaxes will still be wishful thinking from now on.
The Isan women are famous and notorious for it. Just as the dishes are notorious for being too spicy.
But you can expect extreme love from those women, with nights that take you to heaven or hell. Where you lose yourself completely, like with a solid shot.
Is that something for you? Look before you leap!
Shoemaker stick to your last.

I think jealousy is tied to personality as well as socio-economic development. The fear of loss (of love, affection, security, the roof over one's head, income, care, etc.). I didn't count, but it could well be that jealousy is more common in Thailand than in the Netherlands: the consequences of your partner running away are greater. Whether it plays more with women than men I dare not venture, of course there are women who become furious when their partner throws / receives a wrong look from someone else, but there are also men who get to the boil when their loving attention from / to someone else.

So what should I say? I know jealous people (man, woman, Thai, Dutch, ..) and many more people who are not. A little jealousy can still be healthy (feeling completely and totally unmoved by potential temptations from your other half isn't really against a heart on fire), but if you have to tiptoe because otherwise your lover will blow the fuses ? That will cause a lot of stress and conflict and put a relationship to the test. I probably wouldn't keep that up, but luckily I haven't had to experience that myself (yet).