Reader Question: Are dating sites reliable for connecting with Thai women?

Partly true, but remember that the ladies themselves also become selective as they put themselves in a better position. A dating site has everything from Isaan ladies from the countryside to hi-so ladies from BKK. It's also part of the game that's right. Chat a bit and get attention. Many are also there with a setting to chat a bit and see what comes of it.

Indeed, 90% of men look for the top 5-10% of women. Middle class lady, with a nice job somewhere around BKK, speak good english etc.

The offer of Falang is not large compared to Thai ladies. But the top 5% of Thai ladies are very good at taking care of themselves and therefore automatically become more demanding in terms of partners, whether it is a Thai or a Falang. They usually already have salaries of 30,000-50,000 baht per month and in some cases even more.

As a Falang, you should also start to realize that these ladies are more demanding. In very black and white, if you go to a dating site as a 65-year-old, you have little chance, while as a 30-year-old with a well-paid job as an engineer, you do arouse interest.

The above is often only about the first impression and the first few messages. With internet dating, presentation and your profile are extremely important. As a Falang you will get a whole stream of messages anyway, but if you filter everything out with 'No speak good English' etc. then there will be few left. If they are a bit nice messages back and forth, then it quickly switches to Skype / facebook / line / whatsapp etc.

That package of requirements from the Thai lady in turn also entails a problem, that 30-40 year old Falang who has a well-paid job, usually in Europe or the US, and the Thai lady has of course figured that out for a long time. So he must either be able to travel a lot or be able to move around. That makes the rinse completely thin. Or she must be able to move to Europe, if she can do something with her papers there. But because she also has her affairs in Thailand well organized, you have to come from a good family to get her this far.

If you want to have a little success with a dating site, be realistic, also view the reactions from your own position. If you keep looking for the impossible in vain, then it won't get you anywhere.

Furthermore, if you get reactions from ladies who live in Pattaya, I would personally have a bit of an aversion. They can be nice ladies, but if you know a bit about what's going on there, you don't have much appetite for a lady who says she works behind the counter at a hotel or works at the optician. They usually have another hobby after work or it is a bar girl, they also often look for some extra activities via the Internet. But place of residence does not always say something, many ladies from that scene also simply mention their original place of residence. And vice versa, ladies with a decent job can also have a gray past, so to speak, this is Thailand 😉

Also thrice nay Ron44,

They are all looking for a lender!
Whether you look for them via a dating site or you 'discover' each other there! They are all looking for the same thing at first!

First find a lender and then love will either come or not.

You must be lucky! Whether you are looking for a woman in Asia or in Europe!

mvg

Retired. The lady is 33 years old. An age difference of, say, 30 years?
Isn't that asking for trouble? The theft has nothing to do with the theft, of course, but I do wonder why pensioners so often want a young female,

Gino,

Clearly, 50 and 33 gives a much more realistic picture than 65+ and 33 in my opinion.

About the barmaids, that is disappointing, I have seen plenty of pranks from the barmaids in the time that I was there myself 🙂

If you happen to be a regular customer in a bar, a mama-san is still sensitive to it. (The lady herself keeps a low profile because she earns more from you if you come back more often, they also know very well when they can or cannot do a trick to a customer, so to speak) But if they are thrown out in one soi do they have work the next day in another soi, it's that easy, or even sometimes in the bar next door. Most owners or mama-san's don't really listen to customer complaints, unless they misbehave in the bar itself or if one of the ladies tries to harm them personally then the turnips are done. She often leaves cold what usually happens between lady and customer.

The only thing is indeed that copy of their ID, if a bar owns it, you can still find it via via. But the more seedy bars often don't even have a copy, those girls can almost come and go as they please. In terms of salary, most get some salary in the better bars, but keep in mind that this is only something like 5000 baht anyway. The rest comes from lady drinks and tips and that is usually paid every day. At many bars they don't get a salary anyway and everything comes from the drinks / tip and bar fines and from customers. That little salary that they might lose, they have made up for it if they steal some stuff, especially if they were already planning to leave anyway.

The tam-tam does indeed work smoothly in Pattaya, but the mutual tam-tam is usually kept out as a Falang. Plus it usually only embraces the immediate neighborhood, a lady who works in Soi 7 Pattaya will not be known so quickly in Jomtien Soi 5 and vice versa

I agree with you that with a lady from a better bar you have something of certainty, with a freelance lady you run a much higher risk.