We women are superior to men
I was bent with laughter when reading the article 'Men are superior to women.' Knowing my brother Joseph very well, he too has been devastated by the reactions to his story. In particular, he enjoyed the reactions of readers who realized that he wanted to poke fun at the differences between Thai and Western women in a funny way.
Still, he was taken aback by some less flattering reactions to his humorous writing. I visited him with my husband on Sunday afternoon to cheer him up a bit with a bunch of flowers, because that was necessary.
Female friendly
Fortunately - with a delicious glass of wine - that went very quickly and we had a very pleasant afternoon. You should know that he is very female-friendly and women from his circle of friends and acquaintances run away with him. His girlfriend also loves my not-so-squeaky brother. However, he was deeply moved by the fact that one reader called him a pig and another attributed him an inferiority complex and also thought the article was the stupidest thing ever read.
Tastes differ and that's a good thing. Fortunately, I was able to reassure my brother with the conclusion that the majority of the readers saw the joke.
Cultural differences
Oddly enough, my husband, myself, and also my brother and his girlfriend were in complete agreement about the differences between Thai and Western women. In our collective view, these feigned major differences simply do not exist. Tensions and/or differences of opinion can occur in any relationship, but you must be able to resolve these among yourselves. For sensible people it makes no difference at all whether you are of Asian or Western descent. Understanding each other is key. Together we fully agree that cultural differences exist, but respect, understanding and love for each other are concepts that can provide a good solution.
For the record I would like to say that all four of us are of Dutch descent, but think we know Thailand reasonably well.
Men versus women
Yet a discussion soon follows, especially between us women and our partners. Both men try to piss us off by stating that Thai ladies are more caring and go out of their way to please the man. Well, both gentlemen knew that nonsensical remark. We let the men hear a memorized story: “A woman can deal with stress and bear serious problems. She smiles when she actually wants to scream and sings when she actually wants to cry. She cries when she's happy and laughs when she's scared. Her love is abundant. There's just one thing wrong with her. She forgets what she's worth.”
We are not financially dependent and many women cannot say that. Fortunately, we have no less in our march and however feminist it may come across to many men: we can stand up for ourselves and are not dependent on men. Unfortunately, we cannot compete with a super slim Thai figure and bronze skin. Nor do we have that seductively exotic look that, if we are to believe it, so many men get lost.
Yet we Western women are no less smart or intelligent than men. If we should be able to manipulate men just like Asian ladies. After all, we women are super intelligent and far above man, for was it not a woman who gave birth to you?
We women, however, very generously want to be equal to men. But if it should? Men be warned.
By: Josephine Boy
So there was no scientific research behind this statement! We've been tricked! Pained the brain for nothing! The editors of Thailandblog.nl may take its readers a bit more seriously. It's a shame how she thinks she can play tricks on us! And now for one of those meaningless goodies that the female readers have to vote well again. I'm going to ask for my subscription money back!
Dear Bacchus, I haven't slept a wink for a night because of the grief you have suffered. You are undoubtedly a very serious man who, literally speaking, is not to be trifled with. To reassure you and allow you to continue reading this nice blog, I have written to the editor that I will personally pay your subscription fee. After all, I don't want to deprive the many readers of this unique blog of your nice comments. Expect a nice article from you on the blog soon, because I am convinced that you can do that perfectly. Best regards from me Joseph and a hug from my sister Josefien.
Josephine, this is the best answer to the May 30 “We men are superior to women” comments.
I thought it was a great piece I laughed my ass off.
Anyone with a little sense could read between the lines that this was not intended and that it informed the woman.
you don't have to have a university degree to understand this.
Joseph keep it up I really enjoyed it my compliments.
Joseph is fooling us again.
Above this post it says: By Joseph Jongen.
It reads: Josefien Jongen, Joseph conjures up an all-knowing sister here.
Joseph, Young Young, you can do it!
Nice article, enjoyed the comments as well.
Nico B
Dear Nico, Thailandblog is a very serious blog and who am I to fool someone? After all, that is unheard of. It's an editor's mistake to put my name above the article. Josefien has already complained about this.
I really liked the previous story and although not loudly, I laughed quietly inside. That there are people who have no humor is painful (I've had this experience with a joke on Facebook before - even lost a friendship over it), but I think intelligent people (I count myself among them) can quickly catch the joke see.
I also find the above interesting and well written. Only as a (recently) divorced man I cannot agree that women are financially independent. During our marriage, my ex has always hated the women who asked for alimony and who still kept their hand open. Guess what happened after the divorce????? I can pay for 12 years and the lady has clearly stated in e-mails that she will not be working.
What about financial independence? If you don't pay, you will be treated as a criminal and the LBIO will go after you wherever you are.
It's different here in Thailand. The women depend on their male halves (although they are often the ones who contribute most to the household). In the event of a divorce, they may go out empty. They are entitled to half of the household and house and land. In practice, they often get nothing.
Is that perhaps the financial dependency? That they only get something during the marriage and after a divorce they have to see how they earn their living and therefore go and work in a bar? And the western woman? Independent, because the man has to pay whether he can or not.
Didn't I read last night that even in Germany, the determination of alimony is based on a fictitious income, so what he could earn and not what he actually earns ....!!!!
Where is the independence and independence there? To me that is exploitation. Independent and self-reliant means: providing income yourself by working.
So that's out.... sorry for being so serious...
Yep, I fell for it too…. hahaha…. I still stand by my opinion!!!
Sjaak, is there a grain of truth in it after all? That women are superior to men? Or is the man stupid enough to allow himself to be punished like this?
A divorce is often like the penalty kicks in football. The final phase after a draw. How much do you resist? Since the question of guilt in the event of a divorce has been removed from the law, the alimony obligation should also have been removed. That is emancipation. But that did not happen at that time due to a mainly male parliament with voter proxy, on the contrary. Why? It would cost the state too much money.
I have been divorced twice in NL and have never paid a penny in alimony. My “former” wives, whether emancipated or not, have to hold up their own pants if they want to stand “on their own two feet” if necessary. But I have always taken good care of our posterity and I still do.
By the way, I have an excellent relationship with my second ex. She had and has a job and can therefore take care of herself. And if she can't afford something, I will lovingly help her. That's another way to do it.
My motto is: "don't complain, but play the game according to the rules." Then it turns out that much more is possible than expected.
What's that called? Do you know any tricks, ways or means to avoid revealing yourself as a victim? I can't complain, but have to live by the rules of the game, which only benefit an ex? We have not grown apart. And I'm not going to go into this any further. Overall, both are partly to blame for the failure of a marriage. She just doesn't see it that way.... she thinks it's just me. She believes she has the full right to alimony and support and does not wish to work. How about the emancipation of women. I have that luxury and need to spend the money I've worked for years on this woman. My girlfriend sometimes asks me how it is possible that I have to give my ex more than I can give her, who really does everything for me. And don't get me started with Thailand is cheaper than the Netherlands. My unemancipated girlfriend would also work for 200 euros: 10 hours a day, six hours a week. And that to support a so-called independent woman. Does she have to work for her?????
There are no game rules. They are archaic relics from a time when a woman could not go to work. Let me laugh….. there is no such thing as equality, only a skewed right.
Both pieces are wonderful to read. Please more of such pieces. Also for the many reactions that people get on it.
Dear Josephine. I have to agree with you on a few points
many women are smarter than men and can manage quite well.
But look around you most women dress up when they go out.
Tell me what is elegant about a woman in long pants, usually with short haircut.
sporty shoes, so seen from the back a man.
but I am still happy with my own Dutch wife.
and yes the humor in some bits are not for everyone
From this side. regards with respect.
Dear Ruud, I too sometimes dress up in long trousers that can be very flattering. Do have long blonde locks because a short haircut does not suit me. Shoes and handbags have a certain appeal to women. I regularly wear pumps, but in my work I prefer an easy shoe. In my opinion, the NOS news announcer Annechien Steenhuizen looks very good with short hair and she still has a charming feminine appearance. Personally, I don't like men with mustaches or beards, nor tattoos. It all remains very personal both from the eyes of a woman and from the point of view of the man. Enjoyed reading your and many other comments. A respectful greeting from this side too, Josefien
Nice piece, enjoyed it. And, whether the woman is superior to the man or vice versa, after all, who cares? The main thing is that we can live happily together.
From experience I know that many men should be really happy to have a woman by their side, otherwise they would die of hunger and in their own filth because there are plenty who can't even fry an egg and or are too lazy to own their own house to clean.
You just have to take negative comments, that is the fate of the writer. I wonder, by the way, whether it is true that we live in a soured society. Expats, winter visitors, tourists.. should be happy that they can live in a beautiful country, that they can spend a pleasant winter here and, tourists, that they can travel in a beautiful country. A good piece of humor every now and then should be possible. preferably leave that bleating and those negative reactions behind and look at it from the bright side, a good laugh is healthy, by the way, or should this statement also be scientifically substantiated?
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