Nei varume vokuMadokero vachitendeukira kuvakadzi vokune dzimwe nyika vane mwero wakaderera wedzidzo?
Neiko kuri kuti varume vazhinji kwazvo vokuMadokero vanotendeukira kuvakadzi vokune dzimwe nyika vane mwero wakaderera wedzidzo uye mipimo yose inobatanidzwa mukukurukurirana uye zvinetso zvinobatanidzwa nemisiyano yetsika?
Kupindura mubvunzo uyu kunosanganisira njodzi dzakawanda. Kusarura uye zvichidawo kutonga kwakarurama kunokurumidza kuuya pakona, asi mubvunzo hausati wapindurwa, asi nzvimbo chete inotorwa pamusana pekunzwisisa kwedivi uye kwega kwega. Chokwadika, nzwisiso yakadaro haichinji maidi.
Icho chiri kunze kwechikamu chekororamu kutsanangura zvizere matambudziko akaoma ehukama, kana izvi zvaibvira zvachose, asi zvichida zvichabudirira mukududzira chiitiko chinozivikanwa kune imwe nzvimbo. Nekuti ini ndinogona kutsanangura zvizere, kana izvi zvichibvira zvachose, asi pamwe zvinokwanisika kuve nyanzvi pachangu, zvinofanirwa kunge zvichigoneka kutaura chimwe chinhu chine musoro pamusoro pazvo kana kuti kujekesa chikamu chisingawanzo kutaurwa.
Sezvineiwo, varume vazhinji vanokwanisa zvakakwana kupinda muukama nemukadzi/murume wekuMadokero angave anga ari muvakidzani wavo, asi hazvigone kurambwa kuti hukama uhwu hunowanzo kutadza uye kuti kune boka revarume risingaiti. kushanda zvachose kana kuti havadi. Nzira iri nyore yekudzinga boka iroro ndeyokutaura kuti havazowani basa nemukadzi wekuMadokero, asi kunyange kana chiri chokwadi, zvinoramba zvichifadza kuzvibvunza kuti sei? Pasina panikiro ine chokuita netsika nomugariro wenzanga, asi chii chiri mugariro iwoyo ipapo?
Mukana wekugadzira mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu wauya pedyo neni mushure mekuverenga bhuku rinonzi Mismatch rakanyorwa naMark van Vugt, iro risingatauri zvakajeka nedambudziko iri, asi rinoratidza mune imwe pfungwa yakawanda kuti kune maitiro ekuchinja munharaunda, umo vanhu, mupfungwa yakati, vanosiiwa. Iye, sokunge zvakadaro, akaparadzaniswa nezvinoitika zvaanotarisana nazvo. Kubva pamaonero ekushanduka-shanduka, kukura kwemanzwiro emunhu kunosaririra kumashure kwebudiriro yetekinoroji nehurongwa hwenzanga yaanogara mazuva ese. Izvo zvinogadzira, asi kusvetuka kwekufunga uku ibasa rangu, kazhinji mamiriro asina kugadzikana kana iwe uchida kugovera mamwe epedyo uye epamoyo pfungwa nemumwe munhu. Munharaunda yedu yakaoma, umo dambudziko rose rakatotsanangurwa uye rinotsanangurwa nevanodzidza nezvepfungwa uye rakapiwa nzira yakakodzera, hatidi kuratidza kumashure kwerurimi rwedu, nokuti usati wazviziva iwe uri mubhokisi rausingagoni kuwana. kunze kana kuti unowana chiseko.
Uko munhu wese anofanirwa kutarisana nekuoma kwenzanga iyo inotitarisira kuti tinzwe tine chivimbo uye tisingaratidze chero utera, zvakaoma kuvaka mabhiriji kune imwe. Takazvidzivirira nemateko akati wandei anodzivirira manzwiro edu akadzama. Munhu netsanangudzo haana kuchengeteka mukati make, nekuti hapana anoziva kwaanobva kana kwaanoenda. Zvisinei, kusachengeteka chinhu chinoshorwa munzanga yokuMadokero. Isu tinofanirwa kufara, kuoma uye kunakidzwa nehupenyu uye iwe unozviita nekuratidza kunze kwakasimba. Kufumura kusachengeteka mukati hakusi chikamu cheizvozvo.
Mumaitiro echinyakare ainyanya kunyanya murume aiita zvakaoma, ukuwo mukadzi akashandisa masimba ake akapfava kuti ape murume iyeye chengetedzo nekumuchengeta. Ukuwo, murume iyeye akapa kugadzikana uye mari. Hukama uhwu hwakabva hwazununguka zvakanyanya. Kusimba kwemuviri kushoma uye kushoma uye izvi zvakapa vakadzi mukana wekukura zvakaenzana uye kazhinji kupfuura izvozvo kumurume uye akapihwa izvozvo.
Varume vakawanda vave kunetsekana nedambudziko rekuti, kubva pakuona kwemhindumupindu, vachiri kufunga kuti vari mubasa ravasina tsika. Mabasa akajeka ekare ari kupera uye kushandiswa kwemutauro kuri kuenderana. Kunjanji hatisisiri madzimai nevarume, asi vafambi uye chikwata chenhabvu chevakadzi cheDutch hachina vatambi asi vatambi uye murume wekupedzisira. Mune mamwe maprofessional ichiri kusvinwa, nekuti secretary haasi secretary. Hapana kana munyori wechirume (aripo) aripo.
Zvingabvira here kuti uku kusajeka kwevarume nevakadzi kunotungamirira kukuvhiringidzika mune vamwe varume nevakadzi uye kuti chikamu chevarume kunyanya kuedza kugadzirisa kuvhiringidzika uku kuburikidza nekutsvaga mudiwa achiri kuenderana nemafungiro avo? Nokuda kwechikonzero ichocho, vanogona, vachiziva kana kuti kwete, kutsvaga mudiwa anenge ari padyo ne 'midzi' yavo kubva pakuona kwekushanduka-shanduka. Mudiwa akakurira munyika umo budiriro yemagariro emazuva ano yakapfuura, wavanogona kuvaka naye bhiriji kune nyika yemanzwiro. Kunyangwe izvi zvisinganyanyi kuwanda, zvakafanana zvinoshanda kune vakadzi vekuMadokero, hongu.
Sezvineiwo, hukama hwakawanda uye michato muMadokero zvinofamba zvakanaka. Zvisinei, nhamba dzisingafambi zvakanaka dzakakwirawo zvinoshamisa. Kare vanhu vaigara vari pamwe chete nekuti chakabatanidzwa naMwari hachifanirwe kuparadzaniswa nemunhu, kana kuti kungoviga nyadzi dzekunze. Zvisinei, vanhu vemazuva ano vakazvimiririra vanoita marudzi ese ezvido kune mumwe wavo uye kana mudiwa asingachasangana navo, mhinduro inototsvagwa mukurambana. Hongu iwe unogona kufunga izvi sekubudirira, asi hazvigone kurambwa kuti kune zvakare downsides. Mutambo wevakundi nevanokundwa. Mubvunzo unofanira kupindurwa, naizvozvo, ungasava wandabvunza pakutanga. Mushure mezvose, chii chakaipa nemunhu ari kutsvaga mufaro nemumwe wekune imwe nyika? Pamusoro pezvinangwa zviri pamusoro, kunewo mativi anonakidza kune izvi uye zvinotungamira, semuenzaniso, kupfumisa tsika uye kunzwisisa kune imwe nyika. Zvinonyanya kukosha kuwana mhinduro kumubvunzo wezvipi system yedu inopa kune 'vakaneta' vanorasikirwa.
Munzanga yedu, (zvinonzi) dzimwe nguva zvakaoma kuti vakadzi vakadzidza zvikuru vawane wokuroorana naye akakodzera. Pamwe rusaruro kana kusaziva kwandiri. Zvakadaro, munzanga dzakasimukira dzine tsika dzine mukurumbira dzevarume, ichi chiitiko chinozivikanwa. Varume vanogona kuroora pasi pechinzvimbo chavo chenjere, asi vakadzi havagone. Naizvozvo zvinoita sekuti kukura kwedzidzo yevakadzi kuri kuvaisa padambudziko mumusika wewanano, zvichikonzera kuti kusaenzana kutsva pakati pevarume nevakadzi kwabuda.
Ndinoziva kuti ndakasiya mitongo pamusoro pekusiyana kwezera muhukama pakati pevarume nevakadzi, asi izvi zvakare zvinowanzoitika mukukanganisa kwevakadzi. Kusaenzana uye kuomerwa kwemagariro umo vakadzi vanozviwana varipo pasina kupera. Kana paine nzira yekuenzana muhukama, inguva refu. Ticharamba tichisangana nazvo here kana kuti tichaenda kunharaunda ine vanhukadzi vasingadi kudanana nemurume. Sangano umo vakadzi vanodzokera kuVenus uye varume vanosara vakundwa paMars.
Zvikonzero zvikuru zvehukama kutarisira kwakanaka uye bonde. Kana kuti varume vanoda zvokudya zvavo nechinwiwa pasina kunetseka uye vanofunga kuti vangazviwana nomukadzi wokumwe asina kudzidza. Nenzira, ivo vanofanirwa kuziva vese vega uye ini ndinoona hukama hwakawanda hunofadza. Matambudziko anouya chete kana varume pachavo vanotanga kuita kuti zviome kupfuura zvazviri. Uye hongu ini generalize.
Kururamisa kudiki: mutorwa haasarudze mukadzi wechiThai, ACHANGE Akasarudzwa.
Muchiitiko changu, ndakasarudza
Neniwo nekuti agara achiti hamheno kunwisa kwandaiita. Ndava muwanano inofadza kwemakore anopfuura 40 zvino
Ndinofunga kuti rusununguko rwekusarudza runofanira kunge rwuri izwi guru. Hukama hunoshanda zvakanaka kana vanhu vakasarudzana vozviitira. Mukadzi uyu ane chinzvimbo chakasimba mune izvi uye ndinonzwisisa kuti sei uchiti mukadzi wechiThai anosarudza, asi ini handiite senge kuvhara mutoro. Inowanzoonekwa mumhando dzakaderera dzemhuka. Idi rokuti rusununguko rwokusarudza harubviri munzvimbo dzakawanda rinopawo zvokudya zvakawanda zvokufunga. Kutengeswa kwevaranda kwemazuva ano kuchiri kuitika. Hunhu mukusiyana kwahwo. Isu tinofanirwa kuita nazvo uye kupesvedzera kunogoneka chete kusvika pamwero wakaganhurirwa.
Iwe unogara uripo iwe pachako. kana kuti kudiwa kunofanira kuva kukuru kwazvo zvokuti ungada kurongedzerwa.
Ichi chinyorwa chinounzwa nenzira yebhadhini hachikodzeri kuverenga. Zvakaitika kwandiri pano ndezvemakore makumi maviri chete uye ndinoona mafarang akawanda ane mikwende yepfungwa shoma kupfuura vakadzi vekuThai vakapedza dzidzo yeyunivhesiti kakawanda kupfuura vakadzi vekuMadokero. asi zvose zvisiye zvazvingava.
Kune varume vechidiki vakawanda kupfuura vakadzi muThailand, kubva pazera rekukura (kune imwe nzvimbo muma30-40s) pane imwe nzvimbo apo kune vakadzi vakawanda kupfuura varume. Kana isu tichida kugadzirisa chiyero chakatsvetwa chevarume nevakadzi vanoroora, ini ndinopa zano: tsvaga hukama nejaya reThai kana tsvaga mukadzi akura wechiThai. 🙂
Mukuru ndiye ari nani nekuti chiyero chemurume/mukadzi chakatonyanya kutsveyama ipapo. Kune kuwanda kukuru kwevakadzi vakura vari pasi pemakore makumi matanhatu nemashanu+. Ndosaka varume vese vechikuru ivavo vachienda kuThailand?
Zvinyorwa: Thai Ministry uye CIA Factbook:
- https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Thailand
- http://web.nso.go.th/en/survey/pop_character/pop_character.htm
Ikoko kungava kwakadaro, asi majaya akawanda haawanikwi nokuda kweroorano nomukadzi. Vamwe vacho vanoita zvechingochani (fungidziro dzinobva pagumi kusvika pamakumi maviri) uye vamwe vanova mamongi. Zvikuru majaya akawanda anosvika makore makumi matatu ezera ari pakati penjodzi dzomumigwagwa. Icho chikamu chinotsanangura chinongedzo.
Chokwadi 10-20 ngochani uyezve iyo nhamba yepamusoro inobatawo varume asi kwete vakadzi? Ndizvo zviri kunze kwenhamba dzakajairwa dzandinoziva. Handizvitendi izvozvo kunze kwekunge wagona kuzvitsigira. Ndokumbira upe kwaunobva kana imwe referensi yaunobva pazvichemo izvozvo.
Pasi rose, nhamba dzinowanzova pakati pe1 ne5%. Dzimwe nguva yakakwirira, asi izvozvo zvinoratidzikawo kuva mubvunzo chaiwo: wakambodanana nemumwe munhu wepabonde rimwe chete, wakamborara nemunhu wepabonde, nezvimwewo. Chirume kune chevakadzi chakaenzana zvakaenzana mune imwe kudzidza, dzimwe nguva yakanyanya kukwirira pakati pevarume kunze. Tichifunga kuti nyika haigone kukamurwa vatema nevachena muvanhu vane 100% vakananga uye 100% ngochani, pamwe nekugamuchirwa kwevanhu, pamwe inotsanangura kuti nei zvikamu zvakasiyana zvakanyanya. Pabiologically hapazove nemusiyano wakawanda pakati pemunhu akazvarwa muThailand, Netherlands kana Congo. Iye zvino nyika dzakaita seThailand neNetherlands dzine mukurumbira wekushivirira kukuru (hakusati kwave kugamuchirwa / kuremekedzwa!) kweLGBTI +, asi zvese izvo hazviiti kuti zvive nemusoro kuti sei kwaizove nevazhinji varume vanoita ngochani kupfuura vakadzi muThailand kupfuura vese. dzimwe nyika . Kutaura kwakadaro kunofanira kutsigirwa.
Kana ari mamongi: MuThailand kune mamongi angangoita 300.000 kubva muhuwandu hwe69,8 miriyoni, kana 0,4% yehuwandu, kana tora nyore uye uite 0,5%. Izvozvo zvichabatsirawo zvishoma. Uye varume vechidiki vanopinda muThailand vari kuita vashoma uye vashoma, kwenguva pfupi uye pfupi. Izvo zvakakodzera ndezvekuti hafu yegore, asi mukuita mavhiki mashoma, mazuva kana kunyange zvishoma pane izvozvo. Kutangwa kupfupi ikoko setemberi kunozoita musiyano mudiki pamusika wehukama.
Zvinoramba, sezvandakanyora, kuti pakutanga kune varume vakasara, avo kubva kuzera repakati vanoshanduka kuva vasara vevakadzi. Chokwadi, nokuti varume vanofa nguva isati yakwana. Uye izvo zvinoenderana ne traffic, mapoka ebasa mavanoshanda mavari, kunwa uye zvichingodaro.
Zvandiri kutaura ndezvekuti nyaya inowanzonzwiwa "kune vakadzi vakasara" inoda kuiswa mumaonero. Icho ichokwadi, asi varume vanozviona sechokwadi chakanaka kushamwaridzana nemukadzi akanaka, asina kunyanya kukwegura,. Kunyange kana tikatarisa chiyero chevarume nevakadzi, "makororo anobatsira mukadzi anoshaya" anofanira kusarudza mukadzi mukuru. Ini ndinozviona sechikonzero kune iye uye nharaunda yekutsanangura kuti sei mhino chena yakura ichipinda muhukama neshizha regirini reThai.
Imwe tsananguro ine musoro inoratidzika kwandiri seyokuti vamwe vakadzi vanongotengeka zvishoma (kutaura pachena), semuenzaniso vatova nemwana uye basa riri nyore. (Vechidiki) varume vanowanzodzima kubva pane izvozvo. (uye hongu, kunewo vakadzi vakazvimiririra vane mabasa akanaka uye mapepa vanogona kuita zvakanaka pasina Thai kana murume chena-mhino). Zvine musoro kuti vakadzi vakasurukirwa avo vakaderera padanho rekugarisana, vachitsvaga zvese zvepfungwa / zvemagariro rudo uyezve zvishoma (yemari) chengetedzo, vangave vachiri kuda kuwana murume. Murume wokune imwe nyika, kunyange kana iri sarudzo yechipiri, isarudzo inonzwisisika zvikuru. Uye nyaya yekuti murume ari kuwedzera kuita zvisina maturo kutaura zvisina maturo ("iwe wakanaka", "varume veThai hauna kunaka" "Thai varume, ngochani dzakawanda" zvichingodaro), zvakanaka ... murume anofarirawo kupuruzira wake. ego, iyo yakanaka magirazi eruvara. Uye kana vose vachifara nehukama hwakadaro, ITA! Ndinovashuvira mufaro wese pamwe chete.
Zvemagariro zvese zvine musoro, asi ini ndinoda kunyura munhamba kuti ndivatsigire nechokwadi chekunakidzwa.
Zvakanaka kune vanhu vane hanya kuti kune vakadzi vakadzidza zvakanyanya chete muNetherlands.
Kutaura chokwadi handisini tsvarakadenga yaamai.
MuNetherlands hapana mukadzi akambonditarisa.
Kusvikira ndauya kuThailand ndakaerekana ndaita semutambi wemabhaisikopo.
Vakaroorana kwemakore 15 zvino uye vanofara chose
Sei? Nokuti vanhu kazhinji vanofanira kusangana mumwe nomumwe muupenyu chaihwo kumwe. Pakati pemhino chena neThai, izvi zvinowanzova munzvimbo yekudyara, varaidzo, mahotera uye vashanyi chikamu. Aya kazhinji mabasa ausingade madhigirii epamusoro. Mhino chena dzicharatidza mufananidzo wakasiyana-siyana maererano nedzidzo, basa, nezvimwewo. Nekutanga kwakadaro kwekutanga muChirungu chakareruka (zita rako ndiani, unobva kupi, unoitei). Hauzotauri zviri nyore nezvenyaya dzakaoma senge nyaya dzemagariro kana (brrr) zvematongerwo enyika.
Kuwedzera pamuganhu wemutauro, kusaziva zviri kuitika munyika yemumwe munhu kunorevawo kuti hazvisi nyore kuti unzwe kuti munhu wacho ari padanho ripi revanhu. Izvo ndezvechokwadi kuwedzera, saka mushandi webhangi akadzidza anosangana nemumwe munhu asina madhipuroma, zvinosvika kune hunhu: izvo zviviri zvinowirirana muhukama? Zvakaipa hazvo ndezvekuti mutsauko wezvido unomuka kubva kunharaunda yekwakabva unozoonekwa gare gare uye somugumisiro misiyano inobva yajeka uye inogona kuratidza kusawirirana.
Zvimwe zvese zvandakataura hazvina maturo mumaonero angu, varume vekuMars, vakadzi vekuVenus. Murume/mukadzi asiri wekuMadokero 'tsika'. Pff, zvisina maturo. Ini ndiri murume chaiye, asi handina kurasika iye zvino nekuti nzanga yasiyana nekare. Chingondipawo mukadzi ane mudzimu, ane zvaanotaura, anogonawo kuseka newe uye anonzwirana tsitsi. Ini dzimwe nguva ndakaverenga mabhuku eDIY nezve varume vachipesana nevakadzi vane matipi anopenga akadai sekuti 'kana iwe semukadzi uine sink yakavharika kumba, usazvivhure iwe pachako. Rega murume wako azviite kuti azviratidze, izvo zvakakosha kumurume. Uye kana riri dambudziko guru, ngaasarudze kuhaya kambani zvimwe anganzwa kuti chinzvimbo chake semutungamiri weboka chakanganiswa.' Magora anoseka anodzvova. Ini nemudiwa wangu takamboshanda mugarden, ndakaisa ma tiles mahombe padivi, ndokuenda kubasa, ndikadzoka ma tiles ese adzokera panzvimbo. Ndakambo shamisika asi ndichifara. Kukuvadzwa mukukudzwa kwangu? 5555 Kwete, ndakabva ndangoziva kuti mudiwa wemoyo wangu akanga asiri muchinda mudiki asingagoni kuzvibatsira aizomirira gamba rakatasva bhiza kuti rimubatsire. Zvimwe chetezvo nokuchengetedza imba: akati kwandiri: “Rob, pandinosvika kumba ndichibva kubasa, watochenesa imba yokugezera pashure here?” Pandakati ndakanga ndasarudza munhu wokuThai nokuti vachiri kuziva nzvimbo yavo uye vachinyatsoteerera murume wacho, akaseka zvinonzwika, 'varume ivavo vanopenga uye vanonzwisa tsitsi' ndiyo yaiva mhinduro yake.
Zviri nani kungonakidzwa nehupenyu uchinyemwerera woona kuti wasangana nemurume kana mukadzi akanaka here kana uko. Pasina kufunga mune stereotypes senge 'mukadzi ane hanya' kana 'murwi anotasva bhiza' uye 'kana mudzimai wangu aine dzidzo iri nani kana midziyo ipapo ndinonzwa kudada kwangu kwaparadzwa, handisi kutanga' (ndingati zvakanaka kana uchida Haana kutsamira pauri zvachose, kunze kwekungomupa iwe chete sehunhu, ndizvo zvazvinoita. Denga pamusoro wako, chikafu chiri patafura, hapana kunetseka nezve mabhiri uye munhu akanaka anozadzisa iwe. uye wamunogona kunakidzwa pamwe chete.
Mubvunzo hauna kururama uye wakarerekera divi rimwe chete! Kune vamwe varume vazhinji vekuMadokero vanongo sarudza wekuroorana naye, ane dzidzo yakasimba. Uye kunewo varume vekuMadokero vanoenda kushamwari yekune imwe nyika ine (yakanyanya) dzidzo yakanaka. (Ndakasangana nemudzimai wangu muna 1996, apedza kudzidzisa mathajom.) Havasi vese vari kutsvaga varume vekuMadokero vanoda shamwari ine mwero wakaderera wedzidzo. Mukuwedzera: mazwi emubvunzo anoratidzawo kuti avo varume vanotsvaga ivo pachavo vane imwe nhanho yedzidzo? Izvo zvandisina chokwadi nazvo. Ndinotenda, zvisinei, pazvikonzero zvepfungwa, kuti vazhinji vevarume vekuMadokero vari kutsvaga (mutsva) wekuroorana naye kune dzimwe nyika ivo pachavo havana kudzidza. Ivo vanotenda kuti vanogona kuuya mune yavo varinani neditto asi wekune imwe nyika.
Mubvunzo wekuti sei varume vekuMadokero vachitsvaga mudiwa wekune imwe nyika hauna kutariswa. Shame. Asi anogona kuuya!
Bram anosvetuka kubva pane imwe musoro kuenda kune imwe mukupokana: mundima dzekutanga kuedza kunoitwa kutsanangura rudzi rwechirevo chedambudziko, asi anogumburwa pamusoro pekutaura kwechinzvimbo muDutch akanaka.
Kunyange ipapo anozivisawo mhinduro se "nyanzvi neruzivo", asi anoshandura kune chimwe chinhu chinoratidzika sechinyorwa kubva kune rimwe bhuku. Kamwe kamwe chimiro chechirevo chinotsvedzerera. Panzvimbo penyaya yake, Bram anongoerekana atanga kuita quasi-sainzi.
Mubvunzo hauna kururama. Zvingave zviri nani: nei vamwe varume vekumadokero vane mwero wakaderera wedzidzo vachisarudza ditto vadyidzani vekunze?
Kana kuti kune "vazhinji", ndinokahadzika, ivo havasi muhuwandu. Varume vazhinji vekumavirira vanongosarudza zvemumba.
Ndinofunga kuti varume vekuMadokero vanosarudza mudiwa wekune imwe nyika ivo pachavo havana kudzidza (!) Vanosarudza, zvine musoro, maererano nemusimboti wekushomeka kushoma, uye nekudaro vanopedzisira vaine mudiwa asina kudzidza. Izvi, ivo vanofunga, zvinosangana nezvimwe zvezvido zvavo zvinoita kuti hukama hugare hwakanakisa: kugamuchirwa nekuda kwekuenzana kunofungidzirwa, kutaurirana pamwero mumwe chete, uye kunzwisisika mupfungwa.
Izvi hazvitauri chinhu pamusoro pehuchenjeri hwehuchenjeri hwemurume wekuMadokero ari kutsvaga mudiwa wekune imwe nyika ane dzidzo yakaderera. Ndiwo mumwe mubvunzo. Zvakare zvinonakidza kutarisa.
Pakupedzisira: Bram Siam haapinduri pachake mubvunzo wake, kunyange zvazvo ari nyanzvi neruzivo, uye mubvunzo nei varume vekuMadokero vachisarudza mudiwa wekune imwe nyika unoramba usina kupindurwa.
Dzidzo yeYunivhesiti muThailand yakangofanana neMBO pano, hapana chimwe uye hapana zvishoma
Ndakanga ndatoona kuti handichatauri nezvemwero wenjere dzevarume vekuMadokero.
Wadiwa Tom ndine urombo kuti ndinopokana newe pane iyi.
Dzidzo yekuyunivhesiti muThailand inofarirwa naNuffix, semuenzaniso. Ikozvino ichokwadi kuti zvinoenderana nekuti wakadzidza kuyunivhesiti ipi uye kuti iri masters chaiyo kana masters mushure mebhachura kana koreji (HBO) level.
Saka iwe unogona zvechokwadi kukosheswa seyunivhesiti kana seHBO. Mune akasarudzika mamiriro inogona kuve MB PLUS. Izvi kazhinji hazvibvi padanho redzidzo, asi neruzivo rwemutauro wechiDutch.
Nyika yezvokurapa kunyanya ine maonero ayo pane izvi. Izvi hazvishande kuThai chete asi kune vazhinji vanachiremba vekunze uye vanamukoti vakazara paHBO level vasina kunyoreswa murejista yeBIG.
Izvi zvinoshandawo kune magweta, maakaunti uye zvimwe zvinzvimbo zvehunyanzvi izvo zvinosuruvarisa kuti unofanirwa kuve neruzivo rwemitemo yeDutch neEuropean.
Gweta reThai rematsotsi haringarevi chero chinhu muNetherlands kana kuEurope yese, saka zvakatonyanya kuderera pane MBO.
Hi Rori,
Ndinoziva vakadzi vazhinji veThai vane dzidzo yekuyunivhesiti vasingawane basa muNetherlands, vanoti dzidzo muThailand yakaderera.
Mubvunzo waBram Siam ndewekuti wakapotera nemukadzi wedzidzo yakaderera, uye kana zvakadaro: nei?
Anodiwa Jan
Iwe wakave nehukama neThai kwemakore mana, fungidzira nekuda kwekureruka
Kuti unogara pano
Iwe uchiri kugara uchienda kuThailand izvozvi, asi gara uchiziva wega, iwe unoti
Uye murume wese anogara pano papingi gore
Uye iwe zvakare unoti zviri nani kumirira mukadzi muNetherlands
Wakamirirei hahaha mwana
Fungidzira iwe uchidanana muNetherlands nemukadzi ane vana vaviri
Mukadzi haashande nekuti anochengeta vana vake
Ipapo hukama hwakadaro hunodawo mari
Iwe unodawo kuenda kuzororo, nezvimwe
Nyaya yangu ndeye ben 53 years and she is 44
Gara muThailand nemudiwa wemukadzi
Uye ane 1 mwanakomana ane 20 years anongoshanda saka anozvibhadharira zvese
Tagara pano kweanopfuura makore 5 zvino uye tiri kuva nenguva yakanaka
Usamboda kudzokera kuNetherlands
Uye mubvunzo kuti sei mukadzi weThai akanyanya kana kusadzidza hazvina musoro kwandiri
MuNetherlands haubvunze mukadzi akanaka mubhubhu kuti dzidzo yako ndeyei
Unodzvanya nemukadzi kana kuti hauite
Zvakanaka, ndakatiya nemukadzi uyu, Thailand yaive nyika yakanaka kugara mairi
Zvakangoitikawo kuti akarega kushanda mubhawa
Ini pakukumbira kwangu, saka ndiri kumubhadharira pano
Hapana chinopenga pazviri zvakadaro
Kwaziwai, ad
Wadiwa Aad, ndinoda kukuziva, nekuti ini ndinodawo kutamira kuThailand uye ndinoda kunzwa / kuverenga matipi anobatsira.
Mubvunzo wakanaka wandinofunga, nekuti kune zvikonzero zvakawanda zvakasiyana, haugone kupindurwa nechikonzero.
Varume vazhinji vanotapukirwa nehukama hutsva, semuenzaniso, vachakurirwa pakushanya kwavo kwekutanga kuThailand nerunako rwemukadzi mudiki, kwavakange vasisina mukana munyika yavo.
Mumwe anonzwa kuramba achidzokera mumhando yechipiri yepwere, uye anofamba zvishoma pakati pekukahadzika nekurota, uye kuchengetedza ego yako inosundira chokwadi kure sezvinobvira.
Hongu, vazhinji havafungi pekutanga nezvedanho ravo redzidzo, ndoda kuti kuwana dzidzo yakanaka muThailand kunowanzo kuenzana neupenzi.
Ndizvo chaizvo zvakapesana kana izvo zvisingazivikanwe izvo vamwe varume vari kutsvaga, uye vanofarira kushandurwa kubva kune imwe hafu yavo yakanaka kuva murume akanaka ane Chai Die.
Kusiyana netsika dzekuMadokero, mukadzi weThai anoziva nzira yekuzadzisa nenzwi rine hushamwari uye kunyemwerera kunokwezva, izvo chaizvo izvo vakadzi vazhinji vedzimwe tsika vanofanirwa kutaurirana kwenguva refu uye kazhinji zvebhizinesi.
Kune varume vazhinji, kusanganisira neni, chiitiko chisina kumboitika umo chete kuremekedzana uye chiyero chedzidzo hachiite basa.
Ini pachangu ndakaroorana kuMadokero nomukadzi akanga ane mwero wakanaka zvikuru wedzidzo uye, sezvineiwo vamwe vakadzi vazhinji vemazuva ano, akanga asunungurwa zvokuti akawedzera kufunga kuti akanga achindigadzirira mitemo, uye nokuda kwake oga.
Panhambo nenhambo kuMadokero unoona vakadzi avo, munzira yokuenda kurusununguko, vakarasikirwa noukadzi hwavo hwose, nepo nenzira yakafanana vakashandisa chaizvoizvo mitoo iyoyo yourume iyo yavanovenga varume vazhinjisa.
Ini ndinoshivirira kusunungurwa uko munhu wese ane kodzero dzakaenzana uye mabasa, uye ndakaona izvozvo nemukadzi wangu wekuThai kwemakore mazhinji.
Asi chokwadi munhu wese achava nezvikonzero zvake.
Ndima yekutanga inotanga na 'nekuti' nezvimwewo….. yakadamburwa pakukopa, ndinokumbira ruregerero pamusoro pazvo, asi hazvikanganise kukura kwenyaya.
Nedzidzo yakapedzwa yeHBO uye makore makumi matatu nemasere eruzivo rwebasa, ndakasvika pakuziva mukadzi anotapira, asina hunyanzvi hweThai kubva kuIsaan anondiita, uye ndinovimba, anofara. Ndine makore 38, iye ane makore 61. Kuzivana kuburikidza nekufambidzana. Tave tichizivana kwerinenge gore ikozvino, ndaenda kuThailand katatu uye ari kuuya nenzira iyi svondo rinouya.
Pasinei nedzidzo yake yakaderera, iye mukadzi ane njere uye, nerufaro, dzimwe nguva zvishoma zvinovhiringidza zvinofadza uye hazviwire mumuromo make. Dzidzo chete handizvo zvese. Unogona kunge wadzidza zvakawanda, asi kana usiri munzvimbo yakanaka muhupenyu hausati wave chinhu, at least ndiwo maonero angu.
Paakatanga kuonana neni, ndakamutenda nemutsa uye ndakamurayira kuti atsvake munhu wechidiki. Sezvineiwo akandipindura achiti kusiyana kwezera harisi dambudziko kwaari. Murume wake mushakabvu aive mukuru kwaari nemakore makumi maviri nemaviri uye yaive muchato wakarongwa nevabereki vake. Aive aienderana naye.
Kubva pakutanga akajekesa kwandiri kuti aitsvaga Farang kubva kune imwe nzvimbo yekufambidzana kuti ave nechokwadi cheramangwana rakanaka, kujeka kubva pakutanga, pasina kukanganisa uye tarisiro dzenhema.
Mukati moupenyu hwangu hwokushanda, zvino ndakarega uye ndarega basa, ndakashanda navanhu vokuAsia kwemakore anopfuura 40 uye ndakakufarira zvikuru. MaIndonesia, maPhilippines ne“Hong Kong Chinese” apo iyi yakanga ichiri koroni yeEngland. Akafamba nechikepe kwemakore kuMabvazuva semubatsiri weGHV.
Akaroora mukadzi wechiDutch kweanopfuura makore makumi matatu uye murume akafirwa kweanopfuura makore matanhatu. Ndakasangana nemadzimai echiDutch akati wandei kuburikidza nesangano rinomiririra, asi pakanga pasina kana kapu yekofi, haina kungodzvanya. Nemusikana wangu wekuThai zvakadzvanya kubva panguva yekutanga yatakaonana muhupenyu chaihwo. Kutanga kuonana kuburikidza nekutaura uye gare gare vhidhiyo chat.
Pandakaudza mumwe mukadzi wechiDutch pano kuti ndaiva nemusikana wechiThai, mhinduro yake yaiva yokuti: “Hungu, vakadzi ikoko vachiri vakadzi chaivoivo.” Pamwe kutaura uku ndiyo mhinduro kumubvunzo??? Musikana wangu zvechokwadi haazviisi pasi, sezvinotaura vamwe muno muNetherlands. Musikana wangu anondichengeta zvakanaka, haanyunyuti uye anondirega ndichiita zvinhu zvangu. Ndinomuchengeta uye ndinomuremekedza nokuda kwezvaari uye zvaari. Sei mukadzi wekuAsia wekune dzimwe nyika…….pamwe mugumo wazvifunga nenzira iyi, usanyatsotenda mune masanga.
Gerrit, (zita ratove kushandiswa, saka zita rangu).
Sei? Chekutanga ndakaita chepamusoro secondary uye makore maviri kuyunivhesiti. Ndokubva ndamira nekuti ndainwa zvakanyanya. Vasikana hazvina kumira mushe, takabuda hedu asi ini ndainakirwa nedoro rangu kumupfuura. Kana achida kuenda kumwe ndaigara ndichiti enda hako ndakanaka tozoonana mangwana. Chokwadi hapana akabvuma. Ndava nemakore 29 ndakauya kuThailand, ndakaona mumwe musikana wandaida uye akabvumirana nezvandakaita. Kwapera gore ndakadzoka ndokumuroora. Nhasi tine 38 years taroorana, handichanwi doro uye tichiri kupengesana murudo. Akati haana kudzidza uye tave nemakore gumi nematatu tichigara muThailand. Kusambodzokera kune avo 'ini kune' vakadzi vanobva kumadokero.
Hukama hwangu nemukadzi wangu wekuThai hauna kusiyana neukama hwangu hwekare (s) nevakadzi vekuMadokero.
Ichokwadi kuti iye zvino ndava kuona dzvinyiriro shoma shoma yokutevedzera mumwe mufananidzo kuti ndive wavo uye kuti ndiite maererano nezvinodiwa nevanhu.
Zvese zvinomira kana kudonha nemabatiro aunoita mumwe nemumwe, uye zvinotarisirwa nemudiwa wako wekuThai kumurume wake wekuMadokero.
Ndakanga ndatowana ruzivo nezvedzimwe tsika uye ndinoziva kuti zvakaoma sei kuti mutorwa ajairane netsika netsika dzokuMadokero.Unofanira kuvapo panguva yakaoma.
Mudzimai wangu akanga asingagoni kutaura shoko rechiNgezi, asi akanga ane basa rakanaka samaneja mufemu huru muBangkok.
Chainyanyokosha kwaari kwaive kutsvaga murume Honest anomubata nekumuremekedza zvakanaka (hapana chekuita nemari).
Izvi zvaive pachena kubva pakutanga uye ndinogona kubvuma kuti munguva yakapfuura ndakaona zano rerudo rwerudo rwakabatikana muzvishuwo zvisinganzwisisike uye kushushikana kunoperekedza.
Tese tine hungwaru muhupenyu uye panguva iyi tinoziva pakaturikwa clapper, tinobatsirana kuti tizive zviroto zvedu, mumwe nemumwe nenzira yedu uye nemikana yatinayo.
Isu tose tinoshanda nesimba, tinoziva kubata nemanzwiro edu kune mumwe nemumwe uye tiri kuramba tichivaka hupenyu hwedu hwekugovana.
Mushure mematambudziko akawanda akaitika kare naamai (Madokero) vevana vangu, zvinozorodza kuuya kumba uye kuziva kuti mukadzi wangu anofara kukuona, tinopana rusununguko rwakafanira kuti tikwanise kuva isu. , asi zvakare ziva nguva yekuwana nekutsigirana.
haifanirwe kuve yakawanda kwatiri 🙂
Chokwadi mashoko akarerekera divi rimwe chete! Pakutanga kwaSchrijver - sezviri pachena chokwadi chakasimbiswa maererano naye - ndechekuti varume vazhinji vekuMadokero vanopotera nemukadzi wekune imwe nyika ane mwero wakaderera wedzidzo. Haatsigiri chinzvimbo ichi, asi anovaka nyaya isina kujeka yakaitenderedza iyo yakazarawo nemhando dzese dzefungidziro. Unoitei nazvo izvozvi? drivel!
Jan , pedza nonsense zvauri kutaura .
Vakadzi veThai vachiri nemaitiro uye hunhu, kuno kumadokero, vakadzi vanowanzo nyanya kushivirira, ndicho chimwe chezvikonzero zvakawanda nei varume vekuMadokero vachitsvaga mukadzi wechiThai.
the age group of me all i know with a thai wife are all divorced men then all around 40 years vane mukadzi weThai and married to it.
Ini pachangu mushure mekurambana kwangu ndakava nehukama hwakati wandei nevakadzi vechiDutch, pane imwe nguva ndakanga ndadyiswa nevakadzi ivavo.
Havagone kudzidzisa vana, tsika uye tsika, ndizvo zvese izvo zvakasara-bapiro mazano ivo vakanamatira, ndosaka ndakasarudza mukadzi wechiThai, kwete akanakisa, asi akanakisa kwandiri.
Uye mari yacho?
Mufaro unei chokuita nemari?
Ndine urombo kuti wataura izvozvo
Inyaya yekuzvitutumadza, apo munyori anonyatso kunongedzera padanho redzidzo chete pahuwandu hwemadiploma kubva kuchikoro. Kune zvakawanda kune zuva kupfuura kungoita masvomhu kana kunyora, uye chimwe chezvinhu zvandinowana kuMabvazuva vakadzi kukwanisa kwavo kukuita kuti unzwe semurume, uye kukupa pfungwa yokuti unobvumirwa kuvapo. Sezvavanoda kuonekwa ivo pachavo.
Kwemakore 20-30 apfuura, vakadzi vekuMadokero vakave vanowanzo shatiswa zvimedu, avo vanogara vaine chimwe chinhu chekunyunyuta pamusoro, nekuda kwemitemo yekota uye girazi remadziro kufunga, pakati pezvimwe zvinhu.
Zvinogona kunzwika sekuchengetedza, asi ndinofunga kuti nyika ichava nzvimbo iri nani kana tikapana rusununguko rwekuti tive zvatiri kuda kuva, uye kwete zvatinofanira kuva ... Ndinoda mudzimai wangu weThai, uyo, ne nzira, ane dzidzo yekuyunivhesiti, asi anongoda kuchengetana, kunakidzwa nehupenyu, kure nese upenzi uhwu hunotyisa sezvataurwa munyaya ino.
Kupenga nekupokana munyaya iyi kunoitika mudenderedzwa rangu revanozivana navo.
Ndinoziva vamwe vakadzi vechiThai vane dzidzo yepamusoro kana yekuyunivhesiti vakaroorwa nembongoro yakadzidza kubva kuEurope.
Pano neni maChirungu, maGermany neDutch ndivo vakawanda.
Ndinoda kuita ongororo chaiyo yesainzi pane izvozvo.
1. Dzidzo yemukadzi nemurume panyaya yedzidzo yekuchikoro ndeipi.
2. Chii chinonzi social domain uye huwandu hwevarume nevakadzi.
Ndinofunga kuti mhedziso yechidzidzo chakadaro icharatidza kuti avhareji mukadzi wechiThai anorova murume.
Mumakore makumi mana apfuura takasangana nevakadzi vazhinji vechiThai vane varume vechiDutch.
Avhareji mukadzi wechiThai muNetherlands akadzidza zvishoma.
Sei mukadzi akadzidza weThai, ane tarisiro yakanaka yeramangwana muThailand, angabva kuThailand achienda kunyika yaasingazivi uye kune mikana mishoma yebasa kwaari.
Ivo vanonyanya vakadzi vechiThai vane mwana 1 kana 2, vari kutsvaga hwaro hwakagadzikana hwevana, mhuri uye ivo pachavo uye havagone kuzvironga ivo pachavo muThailand.
Hapana chakaipa ipapo.
Tavawo nemakore 40 taroorana.
Varume vazhinji vanoda mukadzi wechidiki, akanaka. Sezvo murume pachake anokura, zvinova zvakaoma kuita chinangwa ichocho.
Izvi zvakare zvine chekuita nemaitiro achangoburwa ekuti vakadzi vazhinji vakura vekuMadokero vachiri kutaridzika zvakanaka mazuva ano vanoda kufambidzana nemurume wechidiki.
Uko vakadzi vazhinji vekuMadokero vaisava nedambudziko rekupinda muhukama nemurume mukuru, vakadzi vazhinji zvino vanodawo vadiki.
Izvi zvinoreva kuti kuvarume vane makore anopfuura 55 ezera, kuenda kunze kwenyika kazhinji ndiyo nzira chete yekuzadzisa chinangwa chavo chekudanana nemukadzi wechidiki akanaka.
Zvakawanda zvakanyorwa uye zvataurwa pamusoro penyaya iyi. Rudo rwechokwadi runogona kucherechedzwa, asi haruwanikwe kune vazhinji, pamwe nekuda kwehuwandu hwekurambana. Tinoona misiyano pakati pavanhu nemiedzo iyo vakawanda vasingakundikani nayo. Kubiridzira uye vanhu vanozviviga mubasa ravo, kungotaura zvishoma. Iwe unofanirwa kuva rudzi rwehukama hurefu uye uve neunhu hwekugamuchira kuti hazvisi zvese zvinoenda nenzira yaungada. Bhuku rekushuvira uye kuyambuka kwezvakanaka uye zvakaipa zveimwe ndizvo zvinoitika zvakanyanya. Ndanga ndiri pamwe chete nemukadzi wangu wekutanga muNetherlands kwemakore 27 uye takanga takaenzana maererano nedanho. Dzidzo yeHBO uye dzidzo yevana yakaendawo pasina matambudziko akakosha. Kunyange kutenda, iye muKaturike ane mwero uye ini asingatendi kuvapo kwaMwari, hakuna kuparira zvinetso zvipi nezvipi. Kashoma kuti tiite nharo dzinogombedzera. Pakupedzisira, zvakaguma nokurambana. Takanga tiri pamwe chete vaduku zvikuru uye muhuduku hwake hwechipiri aida rusununguko, mufaro uye achiri kukwanisa kufamba nyika. Kuita macontacts matsva etc. Izvo hazvishande munzvimbo yakaroora. Akanga ane mari yake pachake uye ruzivo uye unyanzvi, saka mikana yaivapo yokuti aite izvi. Ndizvo zvakaitika. Gore mushure mekurambana ndakasangana nemusikana wangu wezvino wekuThai/Dutch muNetherlands uye akapinda chikoro chepuraimari kwemakore 2 uye zvino mushure memakore makumi maviri zvinhu zvichiri kufamba zvakanaka pakati pedu. Mudiki kwandiri nemakore mana uye handina urombo nezvazvo. Munzvimbo iyi ndakafunga kuti zera rakati zera rakakosha. Mukadzi anogona kuva mwana wako haasi wangu. Rwaiva rudo pakutanga kumativi ose. Pfungwa muhukama ndeyekuti iwe unofanirwa kubvuma kusiyana uye zvechokwadi izvi zvine muganhu mune dzimwe nzvimbo. Hazvisi zvese zvinotenderwa. Munosarudza mumwe nemumwe uye inofanira kuratidzwa. Hapana kunetsana nevamwe uye ipapo kune mumwe nemumwe. Imwe neimwe ine hunhu hwayo. Yekuwedzera uye isiri-yekuwedzera. Ipapo iwe unogara kwenguva refu. Ndichiri kugona kumufarira uye kunyanya divi rake rinonzwira tsitsi uye hunhu hwemagariro. Ndinoda kumuona. Anofarira kubika uye ini ndinoda kudya. EQ yake zvakajeka ine ruoko rwepamusoro pamusoro peIQ yake uye izvozvo zvakanga zvichinyanya kushaikwa mumudzimai wangu wokutanga. Zvakawanda bhizinesi-senge uye kuyera zvese kumusoro uye kugara uchiita zvinodiwa pahukama. Ndichifunga nezve, handina kurasikirwa uye ndine rugare nazvo. Ini handisi mutauri uye handisi kutsvaga nhaurirano dze "level" uye haaziwo mudiwa wangu wazvino. Mashoko mashoma anokwana uye tinonzwa mumwe nemumwe. Kurambana kwega kwega kunokonzera matambudziko, asi kunopa zvibatiso muukama hwako hutsva uye zvakare kuzviona uri nani. Hupenyu hunoenda nekukurumidza uye kumwaya munyu pahozhwa dzese hazvikurudzirwe. Ndinoziva, zvirokwazvo munzvimbo ino, kusave nehuchenjeri hwakawandisa. Nei ichishanda kune mumwe munhu uye kwete kune mumwe, zvakare zvinoenderana nezvakawanda zvezvinhu.
Kutaura chokwadi, handifunge kuti mhinduro kumubvunzo uyu inopa mufananidzo wakanaka weavhareji murume wekuMadokero.
Mushure mezvose, mumaonero angu, murume wekuMadokero anoita kunge asingakwanise kubata kana kusatenda akasunungurwa mukadzi wekuMadokero muna 2019...
Tinofanira kuziva kuti bonde revanhurume pasi rose imhando yepamusoro yevanhu uye zvave kukonzera mafirework mumhuri zhinji dzekuMadokero kwemakumi emakore akati wandei izvozvi, nekuti avhareji mukadzi wekuMadokero ave akanyanya kuzvimiririra uye anoda kukudziridza hunhu hwake ...
Mutsika dzakawanda dzisiri dzeMadokero, vakadzi havasati (izvo) vakazvimirira uye saka zviri nyore kugarisana navo.
Izvi zvinoita setsananguro kwandiri!
Mafungiro avo anotemerwawo nechitendero chavo , ndinoona kuti zuva nezuva , asi usafunga kuti unofanira kutsvaira pasi nemukadzi wechiThai , ivo vanoziva nzvimbo yavo uye havana kuwira pamuromo .
ruremekedzo uye kunzwisisa zvishoma kumativi ose kunogadzirisa matambudziko akawanda .
Sei varume vekuMadokero vachipotera muvakadzi vasina kudzidza vekuMabvazuva.
Chikonzero ndechekuti madzimai ekumavirira akawandisa nekudaro vakasununguka.
Jan Beute.
4th ndima kubva kuchinyorwa, "ndiani asina kunyatsodzidza pano"?
Mavoro acho handina kuzopedza ini, asi dai ndaive nawo ndisati ndaanzwisisa.
Ko kutaura kusina maturo, handina kusangana nemukadzi wangu mubhawa asi kuburikidza neinternet uye kwete, kwete nzvimbo yekupfimba ine vasikana vakanaka chete.
Sehanzvadzi yake, ane dzidzo yekuuniversity akabhadharirwa naamai vake nekuti akabva kumusha akanoshanda kunze kwenyika sananny kusvika 2 years apedza basa.
Verenga chirevo pane imwe nzvimbo pamusoro pedzidzo yeyunivhesiti yakaenzana neMBO kumadokero, asi ini ndinopokana kana mumwe munhu ari kumadokero anoshanda mukuchengetwa kwakanyanya nebepa iroro kana semushandi mubazi rePR rekambani huru kwazvo.
Kwandiri mukadzi ane njere kundipfuura kana tikangotarisa dzidzo nekuti dzidzo inoreva zvishoma kwandiri pane ruzivo rwehupenyu.
Chandichiri kusuwa munyaya yacho ndechekuti munyori ane ani, haana kudzidza here kana kuti kwete, hazviite nekuti handifungi kuti munyori anogona kudaro.
Vhiki rino takaroorana kwemakore manomwe uye pamwe chete kwemakore gumi uye hongu, sezvakaita mukadzi wekuMadokero, kunewo mazuva akaipa.
Izvo zvisina maturo iwe haufanirwe kuve netsananguro yezvese.
Kudzidza kwakakwirira kana kushoma inyaya hombe mazuvano murungu asina fundo ndiyo yaunonzwa zuva nezuva pawairesi kana TV.
Ndakasarudza dzidzo yezvokufambisa dai ndakasarudza dzidzo yehutungamiri kana yezvokutengeserana ndingadai ndakaita dzidzo yepamusoro, asi moyo wangu wakanga usipo.
Kana mumwe munhu akati makore gumi apfuura iwe unoenda kuzororo kuThailand uye iwe ukasvika pakuziva munhu waunoroora, ndingati unopenga.
Sezvineiwo ndakasangana nemudiwa wangu ndikasamubvunza bhudhi kuti wakaita university here zvikasadaro hazvishande.
Tichingokurukura zvedu ndokubva tadzvanya.
Takaroora kwemakore manomwe izvozvi uye tinotaura nezve chero chinhu nezvese, zvakare nezve manzwiro edu akadzama uye tiri kuita zvakanaka.
Vanhu vari kuramba vachiwedzera kune dzimwe nyika uye unogona kusangana nemunhu kwese kwese.
Saka usaedze kutsanangura zvese rudo rwuri pasi rose uye rwunoyambuka miganhu uchingoti "pane chivharo chepoto yese".
Ndine mukadzi anonaka wekuThai, nei?
Ndichazvitaura hangu muchidimbu, HANDIDI mukadzi akahura kana chimwe chinhu.Unoda murume akaora.
Ini ndinonyatsoziva ndinosarudza hukama hwepabonde uye kwete ngochani.
Hwisisa kubva mumhinduro yako kuti haufanirwe nemukadzi akadzidza kubva chero chikamu chenyika. Uye kudaidza mukadzi akasunungurwa murume akaora zvine musoro. Nenzira, iwe hausarudze kuve wakatwasuka kana ngochani. Kutemerwa nemajini ako. Kunyanya vanhu vanovenga ngochani vanowanzo netsekana nemaitiro avo, avo vanonzi makumbo emakumbo vane matambudziko nazvo uye vanoedza kutiza kubva pazviri nekutamba murume mukuru, asi mumoyo mavo imbwende.
Mhinduro yako ndeyechokwadi, asi handingadadi nazvo!
Saka unoita izvozvo RuudB: "Ndinofunga kuti varume vekuMadokero vanobva kuMadokero vanosarudza mudiwa wekune imwe nyika ivo pachavo havana kudzidza."
Kuwana rudo rwechokwadi kana kupinda murudo kune chekuita nedanho redzidzo here?
Kungwara hakusi kwekungova nehuropi hwakanaka.
Rudo noungwaru zve“mwoyo” zvinonyanya kukosha kwandiri pachangu.
Kana mukakwanisa kusangana ikoko, chimwe chinhu chakanaka chaizvo chinogona kuitika.
Kukwikwidzana kuti mukadzi wako akangwara zvakadii kunotaura zvakawanda pamusoro pako.
Chikonzero chikuru chinozivikanwa nemunhu wese. Zvakakwana kutarisa-tarisa uye, kune daredevils, kutarisa mugirazi. Iyo yakajeka uye isingarambike, asi nekuda kwezvikonzero zvinonzwisisika, haitsikiriki. Hunhu hwemunhu hahubatike. Chokwadi pane zvimwe, sezvazvakaita kwandiri.
Kune hukama hunofadza uye hunogara muThailand, ndinofunga, zvakafanana zvinoshanda kune chero nyika pasirese. Uri kutsvaga wekufambidzana naye anoenderana newe. Unogona kuyera izvo 'kuenderana' nezvinhu zvakakosha kwauri. Mutsa unotsvaga mutsa, uye izvo zvinoshandawo muThailand, kunze.
Munzvimbo yangu yebasa uye yemagariro evanhu, ndinonyanya kusangana nevatorwa (hazvina kumbova vanhu veDutch, nenzira) vane mudiwa weThai ane basa rakanaka kana rakanaka kwazvo. Avo vakadzi vechiThai (vazhinji vane MBA kubva kuyunivhesiti yekune dzimwe nyika) havana kusarudza mudiwa wavo nekuda kwemari kana kuchengetedzeka kwemari mune ramangwana. Ini handizive mumwechete expat muno muBangkok akaroora (mudiki) Isan (mubhawa musikana).
Kubudirira uku 'kukodzera' kune zvakawanda zvine chekuita nemaitiro ehupenyu, huzivi uye ini ndinofunga kuti zvine hukama hwakajeka nekurerwa, dzidzo, zvido uye ruzivo rwehupenyu (uye nekudaro zera).
Icho chokwadi chekuti varume vekuMadokero vanopotera muvakadzi vechiThai vane dzidzo yakaderera saka mufananidzo wechinyakare. Pane zvakasiyana, ndingada kutaura. Ndine vana vechikadzi vekuThai vandinoshanda navo (MBA, PhD, 4-30 yemakore uye zvechokwadi kwete yakashata) vasingakwanise kuwana murume wekune imwe nyika akakodzera ………………………
Chris. Ndakanga ndanyora tsamba yangu yekutanga nezve mamiriro akafanana.
Iniwo ndiri mumamiriro ezvinhu apo, ndapedza 2 HBO makosi uye 1 yunivhesiti kosi, ndasangana nemukadzi ane ruzivo uye mhuri ine mari kuburikidza nebasa rangu. Mudzimai wangu ndiye/aishandirwa nemapurisa saaccountant.
Kusiyana nezvinowanzoitika muNetherlands, achiri kuonana nevamwe vaanodzidza navo pashure pemakore 25 kusvika ku30.
Inenge hafu yeivava vakaroorana. Chikamu cheizvi nemutorwa,
Nekuda kweizvozvo, ndine nyika dzinotevera mudenderedzwa rangu re "vatorwa" vekuziva
MaAustralia, maSweden, maNorwegian, maItalian, maCanada, maGerman, maChinese neJapan. Ndine chokwadi chekuti ndiri kukanganwa mumwe munhu.
Dzimwe nguva varume ava vanonyatsova neruzivo rudiki pane vakadzi. Saka zvakafanana zvinoshanda neimwe nzira.
Vakadzi vakangwara veThai vanoroora vakadzi vashoma vakadzidza kubva kune imwe mhando yechimiro.
Muboka ravazivikanwi vomudzimai wangu, vakawanda vevaaichimbova vaaidzidza navo vasina kuroora kazhinji kazhinji vane tsigiro yakazara yavabereki uye padzimwe nguva kunyange vana vehama kana kuti hanzvadzi dzavo.
Iri boka re "kumanikidzwa" kuroorwa uye zvakare kutarisa (avhareji yezera 50+). Vanenge vese vakadzi ava vane basa renguva yakazara kana bhizinesi ravo. Nekuti ivo havana kusarudza BF vachiri vadiki, asi yekudzidza, vaive vasisafarire varume veThai panguva yekupedza kudzidza.
Kunyanya akadzidza, akawandisa mafungiro emunhu, hapana nguva nekuda kwebasa, nemhedzisiro ichiri kuroora.
Ndinoziva kanenge 2 vakarejistered accountant, 2 varidzi vemishonga, 3 vane chitoro chavo chakakura kana mafranchise emacheni ekunze, magweta akati wandei, nezvimwewo. Chokwadi havasi mapenzi.
Ndinofanira kutaura kuti boka rinozvitora zvakanaka. Kufamba munyika yose paavhareji 2 mwedzi pagore. Muna Chivabvu-Chikumi, boka re9 kana gumi rakafamba neItaly, Switzerland nekumaodzanyemba kweGermany kwemavhiki matatu nebhazi revanhu gumi nevaviri.
Vari kutoita hurongwa hwekufamba nekuchamhembe kweGermany, Denmark neNetherlands. Ini ndichaita semhando yemutungamiri wevashanyi uye mutyairi.
Kuwana mudiwa akanaka kwakaoma kwazvo, pane chivharo chehari yega yega, asi ingosangana neimwe. Ndiri kutsvagawo mukadzi akanaka, anotapira kubva kuma20 kusvika pakati pe30s (saka pazera rangu), kwaanobva hakuna kukosha zvakanyanya kunyangwe ndakatengesa moyo wangu kuThailand. Ndine vakadzi vashoma vakanaka vasina kuroorwa (Thai), vamwe vangada kuva neukama neni. Asi kuwana mukadzi ane akafanana zvakakwana chinhu chandakangokwanisa kamwe chete muhupenyu hwangu. Mukadzi akasimba, anotapira, anonakidza, akangwara anogovanawo zvimwe zvandinofarira. Mushure mezvose, munofanirawo kukwanisa kufamba nzendo dzinonakidza pamwe chete uye kwete kurarama kupfuura mumwe nemumwe munguva dzemanheru, asi itai zvinhu zvinonakidza pamwe chete (kwete, kwete kungofanana nemapati).
Ndinofunga kuti madzimai aunoziva achange achitsvagawo murume akakodzera uye kuti ari mutorwa here kana kuti kwete haazokoshesi kwavari, ndinofunga. Asi havazosangana nemunhu asina kuipa seni (555) nekuti vanopedza nguva yavo yakawanda kune imwe nzvimbo kwete pane munhu akaita seni. Uye kunyangwe mukasangana mumuseum, semuenzaniso, isu hatipfeki tag inoti 'Ndiri kutsvaga wekufambidzana naye'. Izvo zvakanyanya nezve network kana kungo sangana / rombo rakanaka? Kana kufambidzana nzvimbo, asi ini pachangu handifungi kuti ndaizotangira ipapo.
Wadiwa Rob,
Kune masaizi akawanda emagaba asi asina magumo. Uye izvo zvinoreva kuti zvivharo zvakawanda zvinokwana pachirongo chimwe chete. Iwe hauwane mudiwa akanaka, unova mubatsiri akanaka nekutaura, kufunga, kuita nekugara nemunhu. Uye hongu, kune njodzi dzinobatanidzwa. Nguva dzose kupa uye kutora. Asi chokwadi panofanirwa kuve nekudzvanya uye hwaro hwakajairika. Inogona kunge yakasiyana kune imwe neimwe duo. Vazhinji vandaishanda navo vechikadzi vasina kuroorwa - mushure mekudzidzawo kunze kwenyika - havachafariri varume veThai, kunyangwe vasina kuverengerwa 100%. Varume vekune dzimwe nyika vane mufananidzo wakanyanya wevarume vanoona mudiwa wavo seakaenzana, vasingatyi basa remumba, vanochengeta vana uye vanobuda pachena panyaya dzemari. Pamusoro pazvo, vatorwa ava vanoshinga kuita chitsidzo chaicho. Ndini ndega mudzidzisi pano akaroora zviri pamutemo.
Ini handizive zvaunoreva nekuti 'kuva kumwe kunze kwauri'. Ava vaunoshanda navo vari mumakore avo makumi matatu uye hauwanzovawana mumadhisiko mubangkok.
Ivo vanowanzove vari kubasa, uko avhareji mhino chena haiuye nekukurumidza. Uye ndinonzwisisa kuti havanyatso kuuya kudhisiko, ini handiuye ini.
Asi kana ndikaverenga maitiro, avo vakadzi vekuThai vanogona kuizunungusa kuti vawane mukomana wemazuva ano anotsvedzerera, hafu yevanopindura pano vari kutsvaga 'mukadzi wechivanhu' muThailand. Neizvi vanoita kunge vakaderera kune mukwikwidzi wavo weThai.
Very nyore.
Nevakadzi veEurope uye ZVINOGONA maDutch unofanirwa kutarisa mazwi ako nguva dzese.
Ndinodaidza kuti masunungurwa.
Aiwa, ndipe mukadzi wekuAsia.
Rukwaziso rwose.
Fred.
ZVINHU zvinoyevedza zvinoroverera panhongonya.
Zvichida tsananguro yakakodzera kwazvo ye
chiyero chemurume nemukadzi munguva dzino dzekupenga
umo varume vekuMadokero vanofanira kufamba pamatehwe emazai
hapana kushungurudzwa pagumbo ravo.
"Sei varume vekuMadokero vachitendeukira kuvakadzi vekune dzimwe nyika vane dzidzo yakaderera?"
Iro zita rinozvidza. Kutuka chaiko kune vakaroorana vakawanda vanofara vane nyaya dzandakaverenga paforamu iyi nekumwewo. Munyori sezviri pachena anofungidzira kuti ndicho chikonzero chakajairika nei varume vazhinji vekuMadokero vakaroora vakadzi veThai vakaita sarudzo iyi. Asi pane zvikonzero zana nechimwe zvekuita izvi. Kufanana neni, vazhinji vevarume ava vanogona kunge vakazviita nekuda kwezvimwe zvikonzero zvakawanda. Ndakanyatsosarudza mukadzi wechiThai. Kunyangwe ndisati ndaziva kuti Thailand iripi chaizvo uye nerusaruro rweiyo yakashata Thai indasitiri yepabonde mumusoro mangu (kunyangwe ichiri chokwadi kana kwete: rusaruro ruripo). Chikonzero chandakaita icho sarudzo ibhizinesi rangu, asi harina chekuita nehuwandu hwedzidzo, kusunungurwa kana mari (kana kushaya mari). Ini ndinofunga kuti chinyorwa ichi chinongobva pane imwe cliché mufananidzo uyo munyori ane wevarume vekuEurope vari kutsvaga rudzi rwe 'anozviisa pasi' wavanogona kutungamira nekuda kwedzidzo yake yakaderera...
"Mudiwa akakurira munyika isati yambofuratirwa nebudiriro yemagariro azvino," ... mhoro?
Munyori akamboenda kuThailand here?
Pashure pemhinduro dzakawanda, dzandinoda kuonga munhu ari wose nokuda kwayo, ndingada kupa nhoroondo pfupi yechinyorwa chacho.
Ndiko kuita chaiko kunoita kuti tinzwisise kuti nyaya iyi inoitwa sei uye kuti maitiro iwayo akasiyana anoratidza kuti inyaya mhenyu uye yakanaka. Kutanga nemutsara wekupedzisira wemhinduro yaGilbert.
Mumakore makumi mana apfuura ndanga ndiri kuThailand kanenge ka40 kwenguva pfupi kana yakareba. Ndinotaura uye ndinoverenga Thai zvakanaka. Chero zvazvingava, zvakakwana kuchengetedza hukama, hwandave ndava nemakore anenge 250, ndine musikana asina kudzidza, asi akanaka uye anonzwira tsitsi musikana kubva kuIsan, anotaura Chirungu zvishoma. Ini ndinochengetedza kuti budiriro yemagariro muIsan iri kusara kumashure kweiyo yepasirese. Izvi zvinoshoreka here? Handifungi kudaro, asi ndinoona izvi zvichinetsa vanhu vanokurira ikoko. Ndinoona vana vanoenda kuchikoro ikoko uye zvinosuruvarisa vanodzidza zvishoma zvinosiririsa. Ramangwana ravo rakaita sei munyika muno zvinoratidza kusawirirana kuri kuwedzera.
Ndakanga ndisingadi kugumbura chero munhu uye zvinosuruvarisa kuti handina kukwanisa kuferefeta nesainzi kana kusimbisa zvese zvaitaurwa. Hongu ndinoziva kuti havasi vese varume vekuMadokero vakadzidza zvakanyanya uye vazhinji vane hukama nemudiwa akadzidza weThai. Asi ini handifunge kuti vazhinji vanobatana magweta, vanachiremba kana mapurofesa, asi kuti vanobva kuIsan uye kazhinji havana dzidzo yakawanda. Iniwo ndinoziva Thais akadzidza chaizvo ini. Sezvo ndiri nyanzvi yezvoupfumi, ndakambosumwa kune mumwe mukadzi aiva purofesa wezvoupfumi payunivhesiti muBangkok. Ndakamboshamisika panguva iyoyo kuti aiziva zvishoma sei nezve dzidziso dzehupfumi nemitemo, zvekuti dzimwe nguva ndinobvunza kukosha kweizvi dzidzo yepamusoro muThailand, asi izvo hazvina kukosha. Kune avo vanofunga kuti musoro wechidimbu unozvidza, ndinoda kuratidza kuti ini pachangu ndinopedzisa hafu nzira kuti hapana chakaipa nekusarudza mudiwa wekune imwe nyika uye kuti izvi chaizvoizvo zvine zvakanakira.
Ini ndinorwiswa nekuramba kuti ivo vakadzidza zvirinani Thais vanotsvagawo hukama nemunhu wekuMadokero. Zvisinei, ini handirambe izvi chero kupi zvako. Pane zvinopesana, ndinopikisa kuti boka iri, kana rasvika kune vakadzi, rine dambudziko, nokuti zvakaoma kuti vawane mudiwa pahutano hwavo pachavo muThailand, nokuti havagoni uye varume vari pasi peboka ravo revanhu vanogona kuroora. Ini zvakare ndinoratidza kuti vanhu vazhinji vekuMadokero vanongotanga hukama nemunhu waanogara naye, asi vakati wandei havadaro, izvo zvinoita kwandiri sechinhu chinonakidza kune chakanangana neboka reThailand blog.
Ichokwadi zvakare kuti chinyorwa ichi chakavhiringika nekuti zvakaoma kubata nemazvo nyaya iyi yakaoma munguva pfupi. Saka ndinobvumirana nekushoropodzwa ikoko.
Zvirinani ndave akachenjera kubva kumhinduro, saka ndatenda nazvo,
Iwe unofanirwa kuwana chimwe chinhu chaunogona kupedza zuva rako pamwe chete. Zvido zvekuzvivaraidza uye mararamiro akafanana. Dzidzo haifanire kuve yakakosha. Vanhu vasina kudzidza vanogonawo kuva vakachenjera. Uye hukama pasina kunetseka uye kushushikana. Uye musadanane ipapo zvichanaka.
Famba uchipfuura nePattaya uye iwe uchaona kuti munhu akadzidza zvikuru wekuMadokero anotaridzika sei uye maitiro aanoita.
WoKumadokero akaroora muno, zvisinei, anorarama upenyu hwakanaka nomudzimai wake, angave akadzidza zvikuru kana kuti asina. Hupenyu apo mumwe nemumwe anotarisirwa nekuzvipira kukuru uye nerudo.
Sei varume vachifanira kusiiwa vakundwa? Hauna kumbonzwa nezve Men Going Their Own Way movement? Varume vanogona kungopfuura nyore nyore muhupenyu vachifara sevasina kuroora!
Huwandu husingaenzaniswi hweVekuMadokero muPattaya vane chitarisiko (chitarisiko, maitiro) izvo zvinopa fungidziro yekuti havana kunyatsodzidza zvakanyanya.
Zvose zvakanyorwa zvakanaka.
Asi ini ndichiri kupotsa chikonzero chakakosha, ini zvakare ndakaverenga zvishoma nezve izvi mumashoko.
Muchidimbu, kune boka rinogona kuva rakakura, pane chikonzero chimwe chete chekusarudza mukadzi wechiThai kana mumwe mukadzi weAsia.
Ichi chikonzero chakakosha ndechekuti ivo vakavharirwa zvachose munyika yekwavanobva.
Zvikonzero zvinogona kunge zvakasiyana, kunwa nhengo, kunzwa kuregeredzwa, kushata uye nezvimwe zvekudoma.
Ndinoona marudzi aya achifamba akakwana muThailand.
Mukadzi akadzidza zvikuru weThai ane basa rinonzwisisika kune rakanaka zvakare anosimudza mhino yake kumusoro kune idzi mhando dzevarume.
Saka chasara mukadzi wekuThai asina kudzidza ane basa rakaderera kana asina.
Chikonzero chete mhino idzi chena, kana booze tsvuku mhino, anogona kuwana nyore mukadzi pano iri nyore chaizvo, mari.
Usataure zvakapusa nezvazvo uchidzvanya zvakanaka pakati pedu, kana snap ikaramba yakavharwa vanogona kukurumidza kurongedza voenda.
Uye urombo, ini handidi kurwadzisa chero munhu, asi ini handidi kupinda muukama hurefu nemukadzi kubva kubhawa kana freelancer.
Makore mashanu ari mubhawa, i5x 5 mavhiki i52 mavhiki, nguva 260 vatengi pasvondo vanopfuura 4.
Ini pachangu handisi mutsvene, asi mukadzi ane 'ruzivo' urwu, handina kukwanisa.
Ndiani angagamuchira izvi? Zvakanaka, mhino chena isina tariro.
Mukadzi asina kudzidza saka haana basa zvachose kuti uri Henk wekuAlmere, James wekuLondon, Heinrich wekuMunich kana Bill wekuNew York.
Zvechokwadi pane nguva dzose kunze, ndinoda kuwedzera kuti ndirege kukurirwa nemaitiro asina kunaka.
Asi kana vachitaura chirungu chakanaka ndave kutonyumwa.
Inogonawo kuve yakasiyana, ndakazvionera ini.
Musikana wangu, asina kudzidza zvachose, asi anozvishandira ari pedyo neguta riri pakati nepakati muIsaan, anokwanisa kuzviriritira.
Hatina kutaura shoko rechirungu pamusangano wekutanga, asi pakarepo takatanga kudzidziswa mutauro pazvakazoitika kuti takanga tanyatsodzvanya.
Ane imba yake, motokari inodhura (anozvibhadharira mu60x) uye ari kutochengeta kuitira gare gare nokuti haana mwana wokumuchengeta.
Ini ndinotsigira chinhu chose.? Handina kumbopihwa kana cent.
Kunyange zvakadaro kazhinji kubvunza, kuda kukumbira, kana ndichagara naye zvachose.
Sei? Ndinofunga nerudo chairwo.
Naizvozvo ndakamusarudza nekuti ndinongoona mapoinzi chete uye ndinomuremekedza.
Uye zvakadini nevakadzi vechiThai muNetherlands?
Nezvikonzero zvakasiyana-siyana, vamwe vakabudira pachena uye vakatendeseka kwandiri.
Vakawanda vakati kwandiri, unofunga kuti ndinogara muNetherlands nokuda kwekutonhora kwemamiriro okunze, kusarura, dambudziko remutauro?
Kwete, nemari chete, ndinogona kuchengeta mhuri yangu kana kuti ndinoshanda mubhawa.
Uye zvakare, izvi zvechokwadi hazvishande kune vese.
Chengeta mashoko asina kunaka achiuya.
Anodiwa Peterdongsing,
Chikonzero chaunotaura chakanyatso kukurukurwa. Iniwo ndine pfungwa imwe chete, farang vazhinji vanouya kuno vachitsvaga mukadzi nekuti kumusha kwavo havachawaniki.
Pandakanga ndiri pamuzinda weBelgian muBangkok kuti ndigadzirise faira rangu remuchato, ndakaona nokunzwa mhino chena shoma dzichitaurirana. Mutauro wavo, chimiro chavo uye zvipfeko zvakanga zviri chimwe chinhu kunze kwekunyora kumba nezvazvo. Chokwadi izvi hazvingangove zvakangoitika!
Nyaya iri pamusoro inotaura pamusoro pebenzi reThai mukadzi, asina dzidzo, asi izvi zvinogonawo kutendeuka kana zvasvika kune vakawanda farang. Izvi ngazvijekewo. Chokwadi haunganzwe vanhu vakadai pabhurogi redu, ndiani achabvuma izvi vega, hapana? Asi sezvaunotaura iwe pachako, ingotarisa-tarisa semuenzaniso. Pattaya iyo vatorwa vanoungana pamwe chete kana husiku hwava, kunyange bofu rinoona izvi. Sezvineiwo, kunewo mamwe akawanda.
Maonero angu pamusoro penyaya iyi ndeokuti iyi pane imwe nzvimbo isina kufanira, mukadzi wechiThai, akadzidza kana asina, anofanirwa kuremekedzwa kwakakodzera. Asi zvinosuruvarisa kuti hakasi kekutanga kuti vanhu pano vatarisire vanhu veThai pasi. Asati atumira mashoko akadaro, munhu anofanira kuzvitarisa.
Zvakanaka, kune marudzi akawanda ehukama sezvakaita vanhu. Ndinoziva varume vakawanda 'vakajaira' vakapinda murudo nevasikana vekubhawa. Mushure mekuroorana, vasikana ava vaiwanzoenda kuBelgium, vakatsvaga (nyore) basa ikoko uye vounza mwana (vana) vavo. Vazhinji vevakaroora ivavo vachiripo uye, mukuona kwangu, havasati vanyanya kana kufara kupfuura vakaroorana vechivanhu vekuMadokero.
Uye chipi kana chipi chingataurwa nomunhu, vadzimai ivavo vane ruzivo rwokuzviwanira vanowanzova vadzimai vakavimbika zvikuru uye vanofadza zvikurusa. Ivo sezviri pachena vanoziva manomano ekutengesa senge pasina mumwe.
Mukadzi wangu anobvawo kubhawa rine mukurumbira. Tave takaroorana kwemakore gumi nemaviri uye ndinongobvuma kuti akavimbika uye akavimbika kupfuura mudzimai wangu wekare akadzidza zvikuru weBelgian.
Ndine makore makumi manomwe nematatu uye ndine musikana wekuThailand ane makore makumi mashanu nemwanasikana ane makore 73.
Ndakasangana naye 3 years ago through a dating site. Anobva saan.
Ndinofanira kutaura kuti akandiudza chokwadi kuti ane cancer yezamu vakamubvisa zamu 1 uye kana ndisina kuzvifarira ndaifanira kutaura saka akadzokera kumba.
Ndakamuudza kuti hazvisi zvekunze, ndezvemukati.
Ndinofara naye zvikuru sezvo ndine gomarara reprostate (kukura zvishoma nezvishoma) kuti titaure nezvazvo.
Hapana chandaizoda kumusuwa.
Iye zvino anogara kumba kwangu kuPattaya nemwanasikana.
Ndinomanikidzwa kugara mu ned. iv kurapwa.
Kana izvo zvaitwa kudzokera kuThailand nekuti ndinoda kumubata zvakare.
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Hongu Ben ndinogona kufungidzira manzwiro aunoita uye ndakapfuura nechinhu chimwe chete makore matatu apfuura. Uyewo akaenda kuNetherlands kunorapwa uye akasarudza kubviswa zvachose, kuburikidza nekuvhiyiwa kwerobhoti, pamwe chete nepamusoro pe29 glands / nodes nekuda kwengozi yezvinokonzera metastases kana ikasiyiwa isina kuvharwa. Iitirwe pachipatara cheAntonie van Leeuwenhoek muAmsterdam. Yakakura nzira iyo vanhu vakaita nayo basa ipapo uye kutenda kusingaperi nekuda kweizvozvo. Mushure memwedzi mina ndakakwanisa kuenda kuThailand zvakare uye zviyero zve psa zvakaramba zvakanaka mumakore achangopfuura. Sezvineiwo, ndakanga ndiripo nekufamba kwenguva uye kenza yakanga isati yapararira. Ndinovimba iwe unogona kusangana zvakafanana uye wodzokera kumudiwa wako munguva pfupi. Ndinokushuvirai simba rakawanda.
Kuti nditaure muchidimbu kuti sei varume vekuMadokero vachitsvaga vakadzi vechiThai vane dzidzo yakaderera uye nekuwedzera kune zvandakambotumira, zvine mubvunzo kana izvi zviri izvo zvakajairika. Zvechokwadi pane zviitiko apo izvi ndezvechokwadi. Mukuona kwangu, ruzhinji haruna hanya nedzidzo sechinhu chakakosha pahukama. Manzwiro haagone kuvharwa uye ivo varipo uye vanosarudza kuita sarudzo. Kunyanya pakupinda muhukama hwechigarire, hunosanganisira zvakawanda, manzwiro aya achaita basa guru. Kumwe kukwezva, asiwo moyo wakakura uye kuda kuvepo kune mumwe munhu, ane hanya uye achida kupa chimwe chinhu kune nyika isina kuenzana, uko vanhu vazhinji vanoziva nhamo nerima. Sei munhu ari kutaurwa achikukwezva, ndiwo mubvunzo mukuru. Kukwezva kwenyama hakushandure kuita madhigirii. Pamwe kunze kwevamwe vane mazita Mr, Dr, Drs, ING, etc pamberi pezita ravo uye vanozvikudza pamusoro pazvo uye vanodawo mudiwa padanho rimwe chete. Mari inotsvaga mari zvakare magumo pachayo kune vamwe. Kune chaiwo maitiro mumunhu wese ari (kana anogona kuva) anoyevedza uye kana akapinzwa mukati, uku ndiko kutanga kwakanaka kwehukama hwechigarire. Asi chokwadi kune zvakawanda kwazviri. Vanopikisa vanokwezva uye izvo zvakare zvakanaka kuona. Vanhu vakaoma kunzwisisa uye mumamiriro ezvinhu aya hukama hwakaoma uye hunokosha. Handikwanise kuita kuti ive yakanaka uye ndinoshuvira munhu wese hukama hwakanaka.
Ndakabva kuNetherlands ndiri ndoga ndichienda kunyika yandakanga ndisati ndambosvikako, Indonesia munyaya yangu. This was 12 years ago and am still single, kazhinji unoona machembere achifamba nemumwe ane age wise anogona kuva muzukuru wavo, chiona ndirwo rudo chairwo. Ini handina basa nazvo, mhuri yemusikana nayo yave gwindiri nekuda kweizvi, rarama urarame,
vamwe pano vanoti varume vazhinji vanorambwa munyika dzavo uye
vachizvichengeta zvakashata.
Kuzvichengeta kwakashata hakungori munyama chete.
Pamwe ivo vari pakati pavo, asi farang zhinji dzinoita sarudzo.
Mushure mekurega kwavo kana vasati vayambuka muganhu, vachitsvaga mufaro mutsva? adventure, mamiriro ekunze anofadza? Kana rudo rutsva.
Vanhu vangani vakasurukirwa pasi rose.
Kana mumwe munhu achifara nemukadzi weAsia, pasinei nezera kana mamiriro ezvinhu, saka chii chatinotarisira.
Ndinoziva vazhinji vanonzi Thais vakadzidza zvakanyanya, kunyangwe gavhuna.
Vanotaura Chirungu zvishoma kana kusatombotaura zvachose.
Nyangwe vadzidzisi vane bachelor's degree.
Nguva nenguva ndinosangana nemunhu anotaura zvine musoro kune zvakanaka uye anotofarira mamiriro etsika dzekuMadokero.
Hwaro hweukama hwose hwakanaka hwevanhu kuremekedzana uye kuvimbana. Nhanho inotevera inogona ipapo kuva ushamwari uye zvechokwadi zvakare hukama hwechigarire.
Saka regai nditaure pfungwa dzangu pane izvi.
Chiitiko changu ndechekuti seanonzi mupfumi wekune dzimwe nyika muenzi wezororo muThailand (uye ndinofunga munyika dzese dzine urombo) unosvikirwa nekukurumidza nevanhu vari (nekuda) kutsvaga mari. Izvi zvinoshandawo kune nzvimbo dzekufambidzana. Izvi zvinoshanda kune imwe nhanho shoma kune kushanda expats, nekuti ivo vanowanzozviwana vari mune imwe nharaunda.
Izvi zvinoreva kuti mukana wekuita zororo akadaro kupinda muukama hwepedyo hwechigarire nemurombo weThai wakakura pahuwandu kupfuura neasiri murombo Thai.
Sezvingatarisirwa,
Munhu wese anoda ramangwana rakanaka kuvana, ivo pachavo nemhuri.
Kana izvi zvikasakurumidza kuitika nekuda kwekushaya basa rakanaka uye mari yakanaka, vanhu vachatsvaga dzimwe nzira.
Apo farang, kunze kwokuva nechokwadi chokuti mhuri inova nani, vana vanogona kufarikanya dzidzo uyewo imba itsva inovakwa uye ine muhoro wenguva dzose wakanaka, chisarudzo chinoitwa nokukurumidza.
Sezvineiwo, inogona kuve sarudzo yakanaka kune ese ari maviri.
Kana mukadzi wechiThai akapinda muukama nemurume akura zvakanyanya nekuda kwehupfumi hwake (chaiyo) kana (netariro) kuzvipa ramangwana riri nani, saka ndinoshamisika zvakanyanya kuti ungafara sei.
Ukama hwakadaro huchakundikana, kunyanya kana farang achirova mudyandigere wake mwedzi wega wega, achisiya chero chinhu chasara kuna amai nemukadzi. Mudzimai wangu anondiudza kuti kune vakadzi vakawanda vekuThai vari kufamba vasingatombozivi kuti murume wavo anotambira marii mwedzi wega wega. Zvinosuwisa handizvo here? Chavanongotarisira ndechekuti kana afa, atore penjeni yake (kana akaroora).
roger,
Zvichida iwe unofanirwa kufunga nezve pfungwa yewanano yehupenyu hunofadza zvakare iyo pfungwa yekuroora yekudikanwa.
Ehe mudiki Thai haadi murume akura, kana wechidiki ane maonero akafanana angagoneka.
Sarudzo inowanzova pakati pemudiki Thai asina basa rakanaka uye murume akura wekuMadokero ane mari anogona kuchengeta vana nemhuri.
Dzimwe nguva zvose zviri zviviri zvinosarudzwa.
Asi neizvozvo, mubvunzo weiyi colkumn: 'sei varume vekuMadokero vachipotera kune vakadzi vekunze', hauna kupindurwa newe kana TheoB.
Sezvineiwo munhu wese akasiyana.
Sekuona kwangu, zvinhu zvidiki zvamungaitira kuti mumwe nemumwe aenderere mberi pamwe chete uye kana chido chiripo nezvose, saka zvakawanda zvinogona kukundwa. Mufananidzo wakakwana hautombovepo, asi kukwanisa kana kuda kubata nawo kunoda kurwa, kuzvipira, kutaura uye kutamba pachena. Kana zvisina kudaro, mhedzisiro yacho iri nyore zvisinei nedzidzo kana mamiriro uye mhedzisiro yemunhu.
Nekuti kazhinji zvingava nyore kuti varume vane mari yakawanda vawane wekuroorana naye pano.
Kune vakadzi vazhinji pano zvakare, zvakakosha kuti murume ave nechimwe chinhu chekupa, basa rakanaka rine mari yakanaka kune yakawanda, imba yakanaka, mota inodhura, nezvimwe.
Hazvisi zvenhando kuti unogara uchiona mukadzi akanaka achityaira mota inodhura pano kwete vakadzi vese vakatenga mota nemari yavo yavakashandira.
Kune mukadzi anobva kunyika ine urombo, murume ane mari shoma shoma pano achiri kazhinji akapfuma mupfungwa dzavo, uye mukana wokuuya kumadokero.
Uye kana vakakwanisa kushanda neizvi, ivo vanowanawo yakawanda kupfuura, semuenzaniso, iyo Isaan uye ivo vanogona kutumira iyo mari kumba, voidaidza kuti win-win mamiriro (kazhinji ipapo)
Saka hongu, chii chakanaka uye chakaipa, mukadzi wechiDutch anoba chiratidziro pano mumotokari yakakora yemurume wake.
Kana kuti mukadzi wokune imwe nyika ari muOpel anobatsira murume wake nemhuri kuti vawane chouviri nokushanda pamwe chete.
Pane chimwe chinhu chinofanira kutaurwa kune zvese uye ndinofunga kuti chinonyanya kurarama uye rega kurarama nguva dzose.
Pamwe isu tese tinofanira kubvuma kuti vakadzi vazhinji vekuThai havatombowani mukana wedzidzo yakanaka nekuti vabereki vavo havana mari.
Asi uyu mumwe muenzaniso wakanaka wekuti vanhu pano vanotarisira pasi maThai kazhinji.
Vazhinji vaFarang vanouya pano kuzotsvaga mudiwa mutsva (mudiki ari nani) nekuti hapana anovada munyika yavo. Uye vakadzi vakawanda vanoona Farang sechigadzikiso chokupedzisira chezvinetso zvavo zvemari. Chavasingazive ndechekuti muchinda wavo ane mari shoma yepenjeni, asi ivo havaudzwe izvozvo. Asi hubby anogona kuratidza musikana wake mudiki.
Wadiwa Josh,
unoshandira SVB here kana homwe yepenjeni kana imwe institution inokupa nzwisiso yemamiriro emari efarangs?
Unozvimisira pamaitiro ekupfeka here kana kuputa fodya kana kunwa doro kure?
Penjeni shoma?
Unofanira kunyara chaizvo.
Zvitsigire uye ndinobvumirana newe.
Kutarisa pasi paThai? Dai izvi zvaive chokwadi kwandiri, kunyangwe ndikatsoropodza zvimwe zvezvinhu zveThai, ndingadai ndisina kumbotamira kuThailand.
Zvakanaka tarisa KhunTak, ini pachangu ndinoziva akati wandei pano muPattaya vanonyunyuta zvinosiririsa nekuti mukupera kwemwedzi vanenge vasina kana chinhu chasara papenjeni yavo.
Vazhinji vavo vanotobvuma kuti havana nzira dzekutora inishuwarenzi yehutano pano uye, zvakanyanya kuipa, vanofanirwa kuvimba nezvipatara zvehurumende.
Vazhinji vakasiya zvinhu zvose munyika yokumusha kwavo uye havana chokudzokera nacho. Vauya pano vachitarisira kurarama zvakanaka, vakachata kuno asi vasina pfuma, vachifamba nemidhudhudhu yavo uye vanotarisira kuti havazosangana nechirwere chakakomba kana tsaona.
Saka zvinotorwa naJos pamusoro ichokwadi. Handizivi kuti sei achifanira kunyara. Chii chaanofanira kusimbisa, izvo zvaunoona uye kunzwa zvakakukomberedza mazuva ese mudenderedzwa rako reshamwari hazvidi humbowo.
Pavanongowedzera kuomesera pakubvakacha (semuenzaniso inishuwarenzi inosungirwa uye hombe yemari garandi pabhangi) uchaona kuti vangani vachasiya nemakumbo akarembera.
Ndinofunga kuti unofanira kurega munhu wese ari muhunhu hwake uye kana vamwe pano vakakurumidza kuita rusaruro, ini ndine dambudziko nazvo.
Munharaunda yangu munogara chiverengero chakati chamafaranga akararama upenyu hwakanaka zvikuru mune zvemari.
Yakaiswa mukati eg imba, shopu, akati wandei rai uye yakarasa zvese nekusaziva kana nekuti pfungwa dzakadonha mita pasi.
Uye ndinofungidzira kuti kune vazhinji vakarasikirwa zvakati wandei nenzira iyi, zvinosiririsa.
Usakanganwa kuti izvi zvinoita sei kumunhu mupfungwa.
Vakawanda vakapindwa muropa nedoro uye vari kunetseka kuti vawane chouviri.
Ikoko hakurevi kuti icho munhu ari wose mufananidzo ari kunze ndichowo chaichoicho chaichoicho.
Semukadzi weThai iwe uchave nerombo rakaipa rekubatana nemupfumi farrang anoita senge jerk.
Ndinoda kutsanangura chikonzero nei ndine hukama nemukadzi wekuAsia.
Ndave ne16 years ndarambana nemurume uye ndaizvifarira.
Rusununguko uye kusununguka kunokosha zvikuru.
Vaya vakadzi vechiDutch vandakasangana navo gare gare, mumaziso angu, vainyanya kufunga nezvevakadzi.
Ini handidi mukadzi uyo, toti, anofanirwa kushandisa kiyi yekugovera kune chero chidiki.
Uye pandakatamira kuThailand ndakahaya mukadzi wekuchenesa mavhiki maviri ega ega.
Ndinogona kuzviita ini, asi nei zvakaoma kana zvichigona kuitwawo nyore.
Ndagara ndiine kunzwa kwakanaka pamusoro pevakadzi vekuAsia kana vemuAfrica, mupfungwa.
Ndave nemakore matanhatu ndichigara nemuAsia. Izvozvo zvakanzwa uye zvakayerera pakarepo.
Hafu yeshoko inokwana. Rarama uye rega kurarama, shamwari uye rutsigiro rweumwe neumwe.
Haana kuvimba neni, asi anoda kugara muhukama hwemurume / mukadzi.
Nemamwe mashoko, anofarira kusiya danho neni muzvinhu zvakawanda, asi panguva ino anonditungamirira nemanomano uye ndinozvifarira.
Handisati ndave nazvo kune chero mudiwa muNetherlands.
Unodawo rombo rakanaka nazvo.
Mudiki kwandiri zvishoma, asi ane njere uye njere, ndizvo zvandinoda.
Ndichiri chirango zvakadaro. Iwe unofanirwa here kushandira SVB kuti uwane chokwadi? Ndiani anofanira kunyara nemashoko ake apa?
Ndine denderedzwa reshamwari pakati pemafaranga uye ndinoda kuenda kunonwa doro. Zvakawanda zvinoudzwa pakati pepoto nepindi uye ndimi dzinosunungurwa.
Ichokwadi ndechokuti kune vatorwa vakawanda vanofamba-famba vanouya pano kuzotsvaga rombo ravo, asi vachiri kubvuma vachizeza kuti hazvisi zvose keke nezai. Avo vanofanira kurarama nemari shoma yepenjeni havafaniri kupenga kuti vasvike pakupera kwemwedzi. Kutaura chokwadi, kune vamwe vazhinji vanayo pano, asi zvirokwazvo HERE munhu wese.
Josh,
Unogona kuona kuti chinyorwa ichi chinopa mhinduro dzakati wandei.
Ndinofunga kuti wakarurama, asi havasi vose vanoda kugamuchira izvi kana kugumbuka.
Nekudaro, ini handitendi kuti vanhu vazhinji veThai havazive mari yemwedzi nemwedzi yeFarang.
Inowanzova musoro wehurukuro kana vakadzi veThai vanoungana.
Zvirinani muNetherlands, iyi inyaya yakakurumbira yekukurukurirana padyo nechikafu.
Izvi zvakasiyana muThailand.
Ikoko, maThai anowanzoziva huwandu hwemari, asi usaudze mhuri, nekuti zvino zvinotarisirwa kuti mari inofanira kutamiswa, izvo zvinozotungamira mukupokana nemurume ari mubvunzo.
Mudzimai wangu anoziva kundiudza kuti vakadzi vakawanda vekuThailand havadi varume verudzi rwavo nekuti havavimbe navo.
Vanhu vazhinji veThai vanobiridzira, vanonwa zvakanyanya uye vanopambadza chikamu chikuru chemari yavo mukubhejera. Kurambana muThailand kunotenderwa nguva dzese.
Vakadzi vazhinji vanoona mutorwa semurume akavimbika uko musiyano wezera usiri dambudziko kwavari. Chandisiri kunzwisisa munyaya ino ndechekuti dzidzo yemadzimai ndeyei. Kune mafarang akati wandei akaroora mukadzi ane dzidzo yakanaka.
Sekuziva kwangu, vazhinji pano vanongonzwa uye kutenda shanduro dzevakadzi vechiThai. Mafaranga mangani anoteerera vhezheni yevarume vechiThai pano? Kana ndichifanira kutenda vasikana veThai bar, varume vese veThai havana kutendeka vane hasha uye zvidhakwa. Anonwa shavi uye iye tsiva unozviziva here?
Ivo pachavo vatsvene vose. Iye zvino mudzimai wangu ane mwanakomana mukuru. Mukomana akanaka uye anoshanda nesimba; Iye zvino ari muukama hwake hwechipiri. Mudzimai wake wokutanga akabhejera uye akanga asina kutendeka uye aigara achinwa kusvikira afa. Zvisinei, nyaya dzemwana wangu wokurera hadzimbosviki munzeve dzeavhareji.
Ndakaona chinyorwa ichi kubva muruoko rwangu chichidzoka zvakare. Mukutarisa, ndinonzwisisa kumwe kushoropodzwa. Zvisinei, ndinoda kuziva kuti handioni munhu akaderera seakadzidza sebenzi, akadzidza akaderera. Ini zvakare ndinonzwisisa kuti kune varume vane vakadzi vakadzidza kwazvo veThai, asi izvi zvaive zvisiri izvo. Ndinogona kunge ndisina kufunga zvakakwana kune chokwadi chekuti varume vazhinji vekuMadokero muhukama uhwu havanawo kudzidza zvakanyanya.
Ini ndaida chaizvo kugadzirisa chirahwe kuti nei shamwari dzangu dzakawanda dzakadzidza uye neni tichisanganisira, tichifara nemukadzi asina kusimba, izvo zvisiri kutaura chero chinhu chinopesana nevakadzi ava, pane kudaro. Mamwe emashoko anojekesa izvi, saka kutumira kwanga kusiri pasina.
Zvinoita senge chidimbu chekufunga, asi chine divi rimwe chete.
Inouya kwandiri sechidimbu chakanyorwa nekuda kwekushushikana (?). Mafungiro mazhinji ayo mubvunzo ndewekuti zvese ndezvechokwadi here. Handifungi kuti generalizing yakakodzera kana uchinyora chidimbu chakadaro. I
Ndinofunga kuti pane musiyano mukuru mukuzvibata pakati pematanho akasiyana edzidzo yevarume nevakadzi kwese kwese, mutsika dzakasiyana munzira dzakasiyana.
Nezvemamiriro angu
Ndakasangana nemukadzi wangu panguva yebasa rangu, yakadzvanya. Pashure penguva yakati takasarudza kupfuurira pamwe chete. Handina kumbozvibvunza kuti 'level' yake yaizova yei, kana kuti kusiyana kwezera kwaizova kwakadini kana kuti kwete. Ndakamusarudza, akandisarudza…
Mudzimai wangu anoshanda, akazvimiririra, anowana muhoro wake uye akasarudza panguva iyoyo zvichibva pakunzwa kwake kuenderera mberi neni. Ndiwo maitikiro andakaita 'zvakajairika'. Tave tichizivana kweanoda kusvika makore makumi maviri uye takaroorana kweanenge makore 20.
Sezvineiwo, ndinoda kuona kudzidza kwakazara nezve 'hukama muThailand'. Wobva wada kuziva, semuenzaniso, zvikamu zvevaMia Noi, hukama hwemubhawa, kusiyana kwezera, kuti vanotora nguva yakareba sei, michato yakasanganiswa, kuvimba nemari, nezvimwewo. Pane zvakawanda zvekuongorora. Tese tinoziva nyaya dzega...
Kana, semuenzaniso, mabvunzurudzo ekuti sei muThai(se) achiroora mutorwa/se, kana kuti sei asiri muThai(se).
Saka, kwadoka, uye… mukadzi ari kufona!
Kudzidzira ikoko kunoita musiyano wei? Kungofanana nemusiyano wezera, handiyo poindi yacho zvachose! Isu takafanana nemafarang neaya vakadzi vadiki vechiThai vakanaka nekuti vanotapira, tichengete zvakanaka uye usanyunyute sevakadzi vekuMadokero. Mukuwedzera, ivo vanokuchengeta zvakanaka munzvimbo dzese. (Whonya)
Kunyangwe ndave ndisina kuroora kwehunenge hupenyu hwangu hwese, kusanganisira mumakore angu makumi matatu ndiri muno muThailand, ndakasangana nemusikana akanaka wekuBuriram mwedzi mitanhatu yapfuura. Akanaka musikana mutema ane makore 30, akanyarara, anogona kubika zvakanaka uye anotaurawo Chirungu. Chii chimwe chingadiwa neoctogenarian? Akangopedza chikoro chepuraimari uye ndakairavira mubhawa redoro muno muPattaya, asi ndinonamatira zvakanyanya kuna Dr.
Mari handichina basa nezera rangu. Ndagara ndichishanda nesimba uye zvino ndiri kunzwa kudziya chaiko. Kana ndikagona kufadza musikana iyeye nazvo, zvakanaka, handiti?!
Kwaziso kubva kune zuva Pattaya, Piet