Gajerun labarai guda uku daga Isan: Diyar manomin soyayya (2)

Wataƙila kwayar cutar ta mata ta riga ta barke a Thailand? Sa'an nan kuma maza masu neman soyayya ya kamata su gwada shi a (kudanci) Turai. 55

Yanzu da gaske: kafa manyan ma'auni yana da kyau, kodayake cikakkiyar abokin tarayya mara aibi ba ya wanzu. Idan kana son abokin tarayya ya sa ka a gaba - ko ma a kan tudu? - to dole ne a yi sulhu kuma dole ne mutum ya sanya wani a gaba. In ba haka ba, dangantakar za ta kasance daga ma'auni daga ranar 1.

Shin mata kullum suna yin aure sama? A cikin jaridu a cikin 'yan watannin nan an yi rubuce-rubuce game da yadda 'yan mata a yanzu sun fi maza ilimi (sun fi kwarewa a makaranta har zuwa jami'a). Hakanan zamu iya karanta cewa bisa ga binciken Amurkawa akwai matsaloli idan mace ta kawo kudi fiye da namiji. Kafofin yada labarai sun ruwaito cewa matsalar ta shafi mutumin ne da ke fama da matsalar kasancewar ba shi ne shugaban gidan ba. Koyaya, ƙarin labarai sun nuna wani abu mai mahimmanci: “Lokacin da matar ta sami ƙarin kuɗi kafin dangantakar ta soma, babu damuwa a tsakanin maza.” don haka ya zama kamar matsala (ga maza) musamman idan matar su ta kasance a wani matsayi mai zaman kanta daga gare su, amma saboda korar da aka yi masa ko karin girma, sai ta riske shi. Lalacewar girman kai? Ko da yake wataƙila za a sami maza waɗanda suka fi son mace mai hankali… (sannan kuma tafi Thailand don duba 5555).

Ƙarshe na: mace tana son aƙalla rufin kanta, ba damuwa game da abinci, farashin gidaje, ko akwai kuɗi don yara, da dai sauransu. Da zaran waɗannan sharuɗɗan kofa za a iya cika, ku a matsayin mace za ku iya ganin ko m abokin tarayya kuma yana da wanda za ka iya soyayya da shi. Yana da ma'ana a gare ni cewa dole ne ka fara samun abubuwan yau da kullun don kada ka damu da rana da rana, amma da zarar gidan yanar gizo na asali / aminci ya kasance zaka iya fara kallon abin da ke sa rayuwarka/ dangantaka mai dadi. Cewa shi ma wannan mutumin yana da kyan gani, da barkwanci, mai yawan zance da sauransu.

Matsayin zamantakewa da tattalin arziki na Thailand bai kai na Netherlands ba (Thailand ma ɗaya ce daga cikin ƙasashen da ba su daidaita ba a duniya), kuma har yanzu ba ta sami hanyoyin aminci da ake buƙata ba. Amma a Turai da Asiya muna ganin matsayin mata yana inganta. Samun ilimi, mata (fiye da maza) suna kammala karatun. Tabbas wannan yanayin zai ci gaba. Kuma idan binciken ya yi daidai, ba zai zama matsala ga dangantaka ba idan mace ta san a gaba cewa tana da takarda / aiki mafi kyau fiye da namiji.

Don haka ɗiyar manomi ta fi son kwanciyar hankali, tsaro, da ’yanci daga damuwa. Soyayya na zuwa daga baya. A gare ni da kaina ba nan da nan ba a matsayin babban ɗan takara, na fi son in sami macen da ta riga ta kasance mai yawa ko kuma gaba ɗaya mai zaman kanta, to za ta iya zabar ni saboda tana ganin ni mutumin kirki ne mai kyau wanda ta ke matukar so. Ban damu da rukunin koen knight ba wanda zai taimaki mace matalauci daga matsala…

Ko kuma na dawo a matsayin mace a rayuwa ta gaba. Kyakkyawan dama na iya samun digiri na biyu, kyakkyawan aiki da kyakkyawan mutum. Nasara-nasara. 🙂 A cewar koyarwar addinin Buddha, dole ne in fara rashin ɗabi'a domin idan kun kasance da kyau, za ku dawo a matsayin mutum a rayuwa ta gaba. 🙂

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