Tailandia: 'Yawan yawon bude ido da yawa da odar ango'
A cikin bayanin gefen - sauran k(r) ant, zaku iya karanta labarai guda biyu game da Thailand. Na farko shine game da yawan yawon buɗe ido a Tailandia tare da taken: 'Cikakken dodo ko aljanna na ƙarshe?' kuma labarin na biyu shine game da 'yan matan aure' a cikin Netherlands. Ina tsammanin kyakkyawan tsohon batu ne, amma oh da kyau.
Gaskiyar cewa masu yawon bude ido sun mamaye Thailand daga alkaluma, daga sama da miliyan tara a shekarar 2008 zuwa kimanin miliyan talatin da shida a bana. Duk da cewa rajistar tsabar kudi na Tailandia tana kara girma sosai, kusan kashi ashirin cikin dari na babban abun da ake samu na kasa ya fito ne daga yawon bude ido, a cewar marubucin labarin, sanannen tsabar kudin kuma yana da wani bangare: cunkoson rairayin bakin teku, gurbatar yanayi, lalacewar yanayi, aikata laifuka da sauransu. talauta al'adun tsibirin Thai.
Har ila yau labarin ya ƙunshi, menene kuma za ku yi tsammani, masu gunaguni. Kuma kun yi tsammani: Tailandia tana da tsada sosai kuma dokokin biza suna da tsauri. Ga wasu, wannan dalili ne na tashi zuwa ƙasashe maƙwabta. Burma, Cambodia da Vietnam suna da kyakkyawar damar ɗaukar tutar Thailand, a cewar ɗan ƙasar Irish ɗan ƙasar Barry (66). Kuna iya karanta cikakken labarin anan: dekantteken.nl/wereld/volgevreten-monster-of-ultiem-paradijs/
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"Mutanen da ke kusa da ni suna da kalmomin gargadi a gare ni." Ta haka ne aka fara labarin da ya sake sanya sanannun clichés a cikin tabo. Eef Peerdeman, dan shekara 52 daga Assendelft, ya kasance yana son mata masu ban sha'awa, don haka ya auri 'yar Thai Atsada. Peerdeman yanzu ya yi aure na tsawon shekaru tara, amma a cewarsa, aure ne mai cike da tashin hankali: "Matsalolin sadarwa da bambance-bambancen al'adu suna haifar da jayayya."
A koyaushe nakan zama dan rainin hankali karanta irin wadannan labaran. Tambayi ma'auratan Dutch game da matsaloli a cikin aure kuma kuna jin daidai wannan abu: rashin fahimta da matsalolin sadarwa. Don haka ba sai ka auri mace tsautsayi ba, masoyi Eef.
Ko da yake kuna tsammanin ɗayan ɓangaren daga Bayanan Side (bayan haka, suna alfahari da shi), matar Atsada ba ta iya magana ...
Kuna so ku karanta cikakken labarin? Kuna iya yin hakan anan: dekantteken.nl/samenleving/ik-koos-een-vrouw-uit-thailand/
Dodon da aka ci fiye da kima………….Ko da budurwata Thai ta yarda!
Yana da kyau cewa a cikin cuɗanya da dangantaka za ku iya saurin zargi bambance-bambancen al'adu a matsayin tushen matsalolin dangantaka. Amma hakika kuna da wannan tare da ma'auratan Dutch.
Babban rashin lahani na haɗin gwiwar haɗin gwiwa, musamman ma lokacin da abokin tarayya ya koma Netherlands kuma yana zaune da yawa a cikin jirgin sama, shine hujjar cewa ta bar dukan iyalinta a gare ku kuma ta bar komai. To, ba za ku taɓa yin jayayya da wannan hujja ba a idanun abokin tarayya.
Oh iya. Ta yi watsi da yawa, amma kuma ta sami KYAU.
Rayuwar da ba ta da damuwa, nesa da wannan zafi mara iyaka, damar ci gaba, tarin AOW, fansho, mafi kyawun inshorar lafiya a duniya... kuma zan iya ci gaba kamar haka na ɗan lokaci.
Idan matata za ta gwammace ta kasance tare da danginta, kawai in ce: Do ist das Bahnhof, liebchen.
Abin mamaki, matata ba ta taɓa yin amfani da wannan hujja ba.
Bata taba yin korafin yin nisa da danginta ba.
Hakanan muna ƙara fahimtar Yaren mutanen Holland a cikin Ingilishi.
Wataƙila ya faɗi wani abu game da dangantakarku, musamman idan an faɗa da sauri, akwai bahnhof.
Ina son sanin abin da takardar Marginal Note ta tsaya a kai, na karanta mai zuwa
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Dandalin watsa labarai mai zaman kansa mai zaman kansa (mujallar mako-mako + mujallu na wata + gidan yanar gizo) wanda ke ba da mahimmanci ga mahimman dabi'un aikin jarida. Muna ba da labari mai zurfi da ra'ayi kuma muna mai da hankali sosai kan al'ummar Holland, musamman kan batutuwan da suka shafi haɗin kai, al'adu, tsattsauran ra'ayi, 'yancin ɗan adam da 'yanci. Muna yin haka ne daga hangen nesa na rayuwa mai ci gaba, tare da nisa daidai da kowane rukuni a cikin al'umma. Mahimman ƙimar mu sune: kyauta, ƙarfin hali, haɗaka.
Musamman ma bayanai masu zurfi da ra'ayoyi sun dauki hankalina kuma na yi mamakin inda dan jarida Tieme Hermans ya sami dukkan hikimar sa game da Thailand. In ba haka ba ya zama dole ya sake yin aikin gida!
"rashin fahimta da matsalolin sadarwa". Tun daga kasuwanci na 1977 kuma tun daga 1994 har ila yau, ƙwarewar sirri da yawa tare da Thais. Na yi kuskure in faɗi cewa idan tushen al'adu ya bambanta, kuma idan mafi kyawun harshe ya rasa abubuwan da za su tattauna bambance-bambancen ra'ayi, akwai damar da yawa na rashin fahimta don haka ya rushe fiye da idan tare da NLe daga kusan wannan tushe.
Abokin kasuwancina na Thai da Uni ƙwararren Ingilishi, ƙwararren Ingilishi, ya sami cikakkiyar fahimta game da waɗannan nau'ikan rashin fahimta don haka ɓata lokaci yayin ziyara daban-daban a Netherlands da kewaye.
Abubuwa masu zuwa suna da mahimmanci don kyakkyawar sadarwa da alaƙa, daga mafi yawa zuwa mafi ƙarancin mahimmanci:
1 Hali: tausayi, kyakkyawar sauraro, gafara, da sauransu.
2 kusan asali iri ɗaya ta fuskar sana'a, shekaru da ilimi
Harshe 3 (harshen alamar kuma an yarda)
4 mafi ƙarancin mahimmanci: asalin al'adu
Idan 1, 2 da 3 daidai ne, 4 da wuya. Idan 1,2 da 3 ba daidai ba ne to zargi 4, wannan shine mafi sauƙi.
Abubuwa na 1, 2 da 3 sun zama dole don shawo kan bambance-bambancen al'adu da ake da su (tunani da yin aiki a bangarori da yawa, tun daga mu'amalar kudi, mahimmancin iyali, tarbiyyar yara, karbar mulki daga iyaye, shugabanni, 'yan siyasa, matsayin maza da mata) zuwa adadin da za ku iya gina dangantaka mai farin ciki tare da abokin tarayya.
Me yasa ƴan ƙasa da ƙasa za su kashe biliyoyin kuɗi don horar da al'adu ga shuwagabannin su na ƙasashen waje (kafin tura su) idan ya kasance game da ƙarin tausayawa. Shin waɗannan kamfanoni duk wannan wawanci ne?
Ee, waɗannan kamfanoni wawa ne, Chris. Zai fi kyau su kashe kuɗin akan wasu abubuwa. Me yasa? Domin maganganun al'adu na gaba ɗaya sau da yawa ba su shafi kowane yanayi ba. Abin da dole ne kasashe da yawa su koya wa ma'aikatansu su ne kyawawan halaye na ɗan adam da halaye kamar tausayawa, iya sauraro, haƙuri, nuna sha'awa, koyon harshe, da sauransu. Wannan ya shafi al'ada da tsakanin al'adu. Al'ada: Bambance-bambancen daidaikun mutane a cikin al'ada sun fi na tsakanin al'adu girma. Manajan da ke da halaye masu kyau kuma zai yi kyau a wata al'ada, ko da bai san komai ba, kuma mugun ma zai yi rashin kyau a al'adunsa. Tabbas yana taimakawa idan kun san wani abu game da wata ƙasa da mutane, amma ba lallai ba ne kuma ba yanke hukunci ba.
Kafin in fara aiki a matsayin likita a Tanzaniya na tsawon shekaru uku, mahaifin da ya koyar da mu Kiswahili ya gaya mana mu manta da duk abin da muka taɓa koya game da Afirka da ’yan Afirka. Zai hana mu koyon ainihin abin da ke faruwa, in ji shi. Kuma yana da gaskiya.
A'a, Tino, waɗannan kamfanoni ba wawa ba ne. Kuma ba shakka suna koyar da waɗancan manajojin da suka fice waɗannan halayen da kuka ambata. Kuma kun san dalilin? Domin waɗannan halayen ba su da alaƙa ko rashin haɓaka a cikin ƙasar da za su yi aiki. Kuma kun san abin da suke kira: bambancin al'adu.
Mai gudanarwa: Tino da Chris, da fatan za a daina hira. Ko ci gaba ta imel.
Kawai ƙari, Chris.
Abin da na rubuta ya shafi dangantaka tsakanin daidaikun mutane. Geert Hofstede, wanda kamar yadda kuka sani ya yi nazari sosai tare da bayyana ma'auni da bambance-bambancen al'adu, ya kuma ce kada ku yi amfani da bayaninsa na waɗannan bambance-bambance ga daidaikun mutane amma ga ƙungiyoyi masu yawa. Don haka kuna da gaskiya cewa mutanen da ke hulɗa da manyan ƙungiyoyi a kamfanoni da makarantu, alal misali, suna amfana sosai daga ilimin bambance-bambancen al'adu. Amma ina kiyaye cewa kyawawan halaye na sirri (saurare, koyo, mai da hankali, rashin yin hukunci da sauri, da sauransu) sun fi mahimmanci.
"Binciken ya nuna cewa har yanzu akwai manyan bambance-bambance tsakanin ma'aikatan Dutch da Sinawa game da dabi'un al'adu: nisan iko, son kai da kuma maza. Waɗannan sakamakon sun yi daidai da sakamakon Hofstede. Hakanan ana samun babban bambanci don gujewa rashin tabbas, amma sakamakon shine akasin Hofstede's. Bugu da kari, Sinawa da Dutch dukkansu suna kallon nan gaba sosai."
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Dear Tina,
A aya ta 2 dole na dan yi murmushi. A bayyane nake tafiya ta Jomtien da Pattaya a wuri mara kyau a lokacin da bai dace ba.
Sai dai in kaka ya kai jikarsa makaranta!
555 Kai gaskiya ne, Louis. Wataƙila shekarun ba su da mahimmanci haka. Akwai kyakkyawar dangantaka tsakanin kakanni da jikoki, ko da sun fito ne daga al'adu daban-daban.
Dear Harry, Na sami kwarewa mai yawa na sirri a Tailandia tun 2008 a cikin hanyar bikin aure. Tabbas tun da farko, yare masu kyau kamar yadda kuke kiran su, sun rasa, amma hakan bai hana ni da matata nuna ainihin abin da ba daidai ba ko abin da ya faranta musu rai. Kamar yadda yake tare da kowane hulɗar juna, ana musayar 3/4 ta hanyar kamanni, hali, da abin da ba a faɗi ba.
Idan kun yi ƙoƙari don nutsar da kanku cikin al'adar ɗayan (a cikin yanayina wanda aka azabtar da Pol Pot) za ku sami gaske, tabbas, samun aƙalla gwargwadon yadda nake da alaƙa da matan Holland. . Ko watakila mafi kyau, saboda sabani sun fi bayyana.
Don haka ban ga wata babbar dama ta rabuwa ko rashin fahimtar juna ba fiye da wata mace ta Yamma. A gaskiya ma, ban taɓa samun matsaloli da yawa da matata ta yanzu ba kamar na abokan hulɗa na baya daga Netherlands, Ingila, Amurka, Spain, Jamus da Kanada.
Daidai bukatuwar farko na gujewa rikici da mutanen Asiya suke da shi wanda ke ba da faffadan wurin kiwo wanda za a iya kawar da rikice-rikice ba tare da katsewa ba.
Ban yarda da hujjar ku kwata-kwata!
A cikin Netherlands, kusan kashi 40% na auratayya suna ƙarewa da saki. Ban bayyana "rashin fahimta da matsalolin sadarwa" a matsayin garantin 100% na gazawar ba, amma "akwai babban damar rashin fahimta saboda haka karyewa fiye da NLe daga kusan yanayi guda".
Har yanzu ina tunawa da sharhin wata mata 'yar kasar Thailand, lokacin da mijinta dan kasar Holland ya fita daga cikin mota, bayan wasu kalamai marasa dadi: "Ba ni da zabi".
Kuna tuna waccan mai kiran taron? "1/3 sun rabu, 1/3 suna rayuwa cikin farin ciki kuma 1/3 ba su da ƙarfin hali." Ina fatan dukkan ku kuna cikin tsakiyar 1/3.
Saki nawa ne ake samu tsakanin mutanen Holland da Thais da ke zaune a Netherlands da Thailand bi da bi? Idan kuna da amsar HAKAN, jin daɗin yin tsokaci mara kyau akan nawa.
https://www.siam-legal.com/legal_services/thailand-divorce.php Saki - Thai & Baƙo
Gaggawar bayyanar da Thailand a duniya ta fuskar kasuwanci da yawon bude ido ya haifar da auratayya da dama tsakanin 'yan kasar Thailand da baki. Abin baƙin ciki shine, bambance-bambance tsakanin al'adu da harshe sun lalata wasu alaƙa kuma kisan aure na Thailand ya zama babu makawa a cikin waɗannan lokuta.
Adadin saki na Thai har zuwa 39%
https://www.bangkokpost.com/news/general/1376855/thai-divorce-rate-up-to-39-.
kuma: https://www.stickmanbangkok.com/weekly-column/2014/11/the-challenges-of-thai-foreign-relationships/
Mafi kyawun zato na shine watakila kusan kashi 20% na alakar mace / Baƙi na Thai na san suna da nasara da gaske, inda kowane abokin tarayya yana farin ciki da gaske. Akwai 'yan abubuwan gama-gari:
Yawanci tsammanin sun bambanta. Mutumin Holland yana son kyakkyawar aure mai jituwa, soyayya, jima'i. Kudi na biyu ne. Matar Thai tana da wasu manufofi: 1 Don ba da tallafin kuɗi ga dangi da makoma ga kowane ƴaƴan da suka yi aure a baya. 2 Tsoffin 'yan kauye tare da babban gida a wani kauye mai talauci. "Na yi shi," kamar ta ce! Kodayake Piet ba shine mafi kyawun mutum ba, yana da kuɗi! Duniya biyu daban-daban! Yana karo? Yawancin lokaci! Wani lokaci abubuwa suna tafiya daidai. Misali, idan Piet bai yi kyau sosai ba kuma surukai na iya tallafawa kansu kaɗan… ..