Mukadzi weThai pawebhusaiti dzekufambidzana
Kwemakore angangoita 1,5 ndanga ndichibatsira shamwari yemudzimai wangu kuwana murume akakodzera kuburikidza nemasaiti ekupfimbana. Uye ndakafunga kuti zvingava zvakanaka kumuudza (zvangu) zvakaitika pane ino blog. Nguva zhinji zviitiko zvevarume veDutch neBelgian zvinotsanangurwa pano. Asi sei mukadzi wekuThai anosangana nazvo zvese izvi?
Neth (nekuti ndiro zita rake) ane makore makumi mana ekutanga asi haungamupe izvozvo. Varume vakawanda vanofungidzira kuti ari muduku nemakore gumi. Haasi modhi asi anotaridzika - mumaonero angu akazvininipisa - pamusoro peavhareji inoyevedza. Anotaridzika kunge nyeredzi yeThai volleyball Nootsara, kune avo vanoziva.
Akanga akaroorwa nemurume wekuThai uye ane mwanakomana naye. Iye zvino ava nemakore 15 uye anogara nehanzvadzi yake nomurume kuIsaan. Neth anobvawo ikoko, asi anga achigara uye achishanda muBangkok kwemakore. Ane muhoro wakanaka, kambani yekuJapan yaanoshandira inewo chirongwa chepenjeni neinishuwarenzi yeutano, uye Neth haadi murume pamari yacho. Asi anombosvika pakuneta nekugara ega uye shamwari yake yepamoyo, mukadzi wangu, akaroorwa nemutorwa. Aizoda kuravirawo mufaro iwoyo. Mumwe murume mutsva weThai akabviswa mushure mekupokana neaimbova wake, uyo - mushure mekurasikirwa nebasa rake - akatanga kunwa zvakanyanya, akawedzera kuita zvechisimba uye pakupedzisira akabiridzira uye akashandisa mari yemhuri kune vamwe vakadzi. Neth paakaona izvozvo, chiyero chaive chakazara. Handife zvakare murume akadaro, Neth anofunga, saka ndoda kugara ndega. 'Hapana murume wekuThai, hapana matambudziko' chirevo chake. Iye ndiye - ndinofunga - kwete chete Thai anofunga nenzira iyi. Nekuda kweizvozvo, varume vekunze havana kufarirwa nevarume veThai.
Pamwe chete naye nomudzimai wangu (anotaura Chirungu zvishoma asi anonzwisisa kupfuura zvaanogona kutaura, nekuda kwebasa rake) ndakazadza purogiramu pane nzvimbo dzekufambidzana. Ndiani iye, chii chaanoda, murume werudzii waanotsvaka, rudzi rwemimhanzi uye mafirimu aanoda, nezvimwewo. Uye zvechokwadi kune mifananidzo pamasayiti. Hapana mapikicha ekunyepera kana anonyadza, kana katuni kana nzvimbo, asi mapikicha ake chaiwo. Ndakamujekesera kuti kana akadaro (uye nei asingazodaro kana achitaridzika zvakanaka) anogona kuda zvakafanana kubva kuvarume vanomubata. Uye kana varume ivavo vasingadi izvozvo: seshamwari dzakanaka asi kwete muchokwadi.
Makomendi
Chinondibaya ndechekuti varume vazhinji havaverenge ruzivo rwaNeth zvachose. Sezviri pachena iyo foto ndiyo 'inomutsa' kutumira meseji kana chikumbiro chekuve 'shamwari'. Varume vazhinji havanawo kunyora chero chinhu munhoroondo yavo. Huwandu hwevarume veThai hauna hombe asi zvinoshamisa kana iwe uchifunga kuti Neth akataura zvakajeka munhoroondo yake kuti haadi murume weThai.
Mhedzisiro yacho ndeyekuti Neth anogara achifanira kutaura kune ruzivo rwagara rwuripo uye anobvunza murume ari mubvunzo kuti azadze chimiro chake zvakadzama. Kana chete kudzivirira kusimudza tarisiro dzenhema kana kutambisa nguva yako nemurume asiri werudzi rwako. Ini ndinosiya maitiro ekutanga kumufananidzo wemurume kuna Neth. Mushure memakore 1,5 ndakaona kuti anoda murume anozviteerera (hapana tokkie marudzi ane tattoos) uye haadyidzane nedoro mumufananidzo (hapana murume ane doro muruoko kana bhodhoro rewhiskey patafura). Ndinoziva chikonzero nei.
Kana ukataura izvi kuvarume uye kutumira shoko rakanaka, vazhinji vavo vanotsamwa kana kutanga kugunun'una kana kutuka. Zviripachena Neth anofanira kutora murume sezvaari, uye kwete kugomera nekuti ndiye mupfumi mutorwa uye muponesi ari kushaiwa. Kunyadziswa kwevarombo, varombo, vasina kuroorwa uye vane nzara yebonde mukadzi wechiThai ari kutamba matinji pavarume. Veruzhinji vashoma vanozvitenda uye vanobvunza nezve zvikonzero zviri kuita Neth. Kana akavaudza, pachavawo nekunzwisisa kwakawanda pamaonero ake.
Ruzhinji rwevarume havasi kutsvaga ushamwari kana hukama hwakakomba, asi kugutsikana kwenguva pfupi kwechido chavo chepabonde. Zvichida ndicho chikonzero zvakare nei vasingazadzi izvo mune yavo mbiri nekuti haugone kugara uchinyora pasi zvaunoda. Varume ava vanoda kubva pawebhusaiti nekukurumidza uye vokumbira Neth chitupa chake kana nhamba yeSkype, Whatsapp, LINE, IMO uye mamwe maapplication anoita kuti 'cam' ikwanise. Sezvo achiwana 25-30 yezvikumbiro izvi pazuva, haakwanise kana kutanga. Ungafungidzira here kuti une 'shamwari' dzinosvika mazana maviri pamwedzi (200 pagore) dzekuwedzera muLINE dzinogara pasi rese. Ipapo unogona kukanganwa nezvebasa rako masikati uye hauzorari wakatsinzina husiku. Varume havana basa nazvo. Inofanira kunge iri nzira yavanoda uye vanofungawo kuti ndivo vega. Neth anotsanangura kuti anongo skypes neshamwari dzepedyo uye zvinotora nguva (sezvazviri muhupenyu) usati wataura izvozvo nezvemumwe munhu. Varume vazhinji, zvisinei, havagoni kumirira kwenguva yakareba kudaro. Mahomoni anenge (asi asingaonekwi) ari kufashaira pamusoro.
Nhamba shoma yevarume haitambisi nguva uye pakarepo vanobvunza nezve mutengo wehusiku neNeth. Kana kuti bvunza kuti zvinorevei kana Neth akavapa sevhisi yemaawa makumi maviri nemana muThailand kwevhiki kana maviri (dzimwe nguva kureba). Zvinonzi varume ava havadi zvemabhawa, vanotya kuodzwa moyo, vanotya zvirwere kana kuti havadi kuedza kurwira mukadzi. Neth anogara achijekesa kuti haafarire mibvunzo iyi uye kuti ane basa renguva yakazara uye haana hupenyu hwebhawa kana bhawa yapfuura. Varume vazhinji vanobva 'vakukurwa'. Mumwe munhu anokwidza mutengo.
Boka rinozivikanwa (kunyanya kwandiri) varume vanobva kuMiddle East nyika: Egypt, Jordan, Saudi Arabia, Yemen, Oman, Dubai, Abu Dhabi, Qatar uye vashoma vanobva kuAlgeria kana Tunisia. Vechidiki vari pakati pavo vari kunyanya kutsvaga zvinokurudzira. Kunyangwe mawebhusaiti ane zvechisikigo anowanzo kuvharwa munyika yavo (Dubai, zvisinei, ine rusununguko zvinoshamisa), munhu wese anonyatsoziva nzira yekutenderera nesoftware yakakodzera. Sezviri pachena kuona mavhidhiyo kunoita kuti unzwe nzara.
Vanoverengeka vavo vakava nezviitiko zvepabonde, asi nhamba yevaMuslim kusvika pazera remakore makumi matatu vachiri mhandara yakawanda. Saka hazvishamise kuti vane marudzi ese emibvunzo pamusoro pebonde yavasingawani mhinduro kumba. Neth haana kuda kuziva nezve izvi pakutanga, asi ini ndinopindura mimwe yemibvunzo iyi kana kutarisa kune mawebhusaiti emutauro weChirungu. Dzimwe nguva ndinotarisa seNVSH (kana ichiripo), ndinofunga. VaMuslim vakuru kazhinji havasi kutsvaga hukama asi kunakidzwa. Mumwe muMuslim mumwe chete ainamata zvakasimba akakurudzira Neth nekuti ndiyo chete nzira yekuti arasikirwe nehumhandara nenzira inogamuchirika munharaunda. Izvi zvisati zvaitika, Neth aifanira kutendeukira kuIslam. 'Ushamwari' ihwohwo hwakapera. Izvozvo hazvidi imwe tsananguro.
Uye chekupedzisira asi chisiri chidiki
Kuda kwangu varume hakuna kuwedzera. Uye ndinobva ndazvitaura ndisina simba. Nzvimbo dzekupfimbana dzinoshandiswa zvakanyanya semugero we ephemeral, unokurumidza uye wepamusoro asi zvese-zvinoburitsa sexcam contacts, nepo chinangwa chekutanga chaive chekuziva vanhu vanobva kune dzimwe nyika. Ushamwari hwepaInternet (tisingarevi rudo) hwaderera kuita hunhu hwekudongorera. Uye kana usinganzwi uchida, kazhinji uchabatwa zvisina kunaka. Kana ukaramba zvachose izvozvo, unotosekwa. Varume vanozorambwa havangatsungirire kurasikirwa, kana vachitarisa hukasha hwetsika dzavo. Kana zviri nani zvakadaro: haigone kubata chokwadi. Sezviri pachena mitemo yakasiyana inoshanda panzvimbo dzekupfimbana kupfuura muchokwadi. Murume wepi anopinzwa mumusoro make kubvunza size yebraa yemukadzi musi wekutanga kana kuti paakapedzisira kurara naye. Mibvunzo yakajairika painternet mushure mehafu yeawa yekusangana.
Varume sezviri pachena vanokuwana kwakaoma kwazvo kuzviisa munzvimbo yemukadzi wechiThai mukuwedzera kune anozivikanwa stereotypes ayo Neth haakwane zvachose. Neth anoda kukosheswa uye kuona kuti murume haamukanganwe. Asi kazhinji haagamuchire chiratidzo chekutenda pakati penguva mbiri pavanotaurirana, nepo pane zvakawanda zvingasarudzwa panzvimbo yega yega yekufambidzana: zvishuwo, mapikicha, zvipo, kutenga, nezvimwe. Neth haasati awana mudiwa akakodzera. Better hapana murume pane murume akaipa, akaudza mukadzi wangu rimwe zuva.
- Yakatumirwa meseji -
Chokwadi anotaridzika zvakanaka.Panofanira kunge paine murume akanaka,anotapira uye anovimbika kwaari.Pamwe arikutsvaga tsono muduri reuswa,asi anoziva mune ramangwana.Ndinovimba naye nekuti anogona kunge aripo uye kudada nazvo. own.
Hapana papi papi panotaurwa kuti mufananidzo wacho ndewemukadzi ari kutaurwa. Semurume haugone kunyatso taura manzwiro emukadzi, izvi zvinogoneka chete nekusangana kwakananga. Kune varume vazhinji, kuvapo kwepwere kunopesanawo. Uyewo musiyano muzera. Ini handingave nedambudziko nevana vadiki ini, asi vana vadiki kazhinji amai vadiki. Sezvineiwo ndataura nezvazvo mangwanani ano vakabva vangokwanisa kundiudza nezvenzara yemari yamai Thai.Mubvunzo waiva wekuti sei ndakanga ndisina murume.
Ndinoda kuva shiri yakasununguka. Mhinduro yaive yekuti ainzwawo saizvozvo. Iye zvino ndinotora bhasikoro rangu mangwanani uye ndinokwira kwandinoda, Hapana anondiudza zvokuita pakutanga uye zvokuita pashure Ko ndinoda chimwe chinhu, ndinotenga zvandinoda. Parizvino ndichiri (73) ndichiri muchimiro chakanaka, uye ndinoziva kuti inogona kushanduka nekukurumidza. Ko zvino, ndingaramba ndichironga nyaya dzangu ini here kana kuti ndinoda munhu wandinovimba naye?
Chris anonyora muchidimbu chake kuti Neth haasi modhi uye ini ndinogona kunzwa kuti mukadzi ari pamufananidzo unoperekedza chinyorwa ndizvo chete.
Dai waizoshandisa foto iyi sepikicha pane yekufambidzana saiti, ndine chokwadi chekuti inbox yako inoputika mukati memaminitsi mashanu.
Ini ndiri murume uye ndiri kutsvaga mukadzi sezvatsanangurwa munyaya yako, asi ungamuwane kupi? nzvimbo ipi?
Eddy, iyo yakanakisa webhusaiti ndeye, enda kuzororo, semuenzaniso muIsaan. Ipa maziso ako asiwo pfungwa dzako kudya kwakanaka. Pamwe yakachipa kupfuura ese aya (anodhura) mawebhusaiti.
Mhoro Eddie,
Kuroora ndiri kutsvaga murume wekuBelgian ane makore ari pakati pe50 kusvika 60 years. Mukuwasha wangu haana kunaka kwazvo asi moyo wake ndewegoridhe, ane makore makumi mashanu nemashanu, akarambana nemurume weThai, ane mwanakomana ane makore 55 okuzvarwa uyo akaroora mukadzi wechiThai uye ivo. ane mwanakomana mumwe chete ane 24 months.
Mukuwasha wangu anogara uye anoshanda kuPhrae (+/- makiromita 150 kumabvazuva kweChiang Mai) Anotaura zvakanaka chiThai, Chirungu uye ane ruzivo rwakasimba rwechiFrench.
Ndafarira, ndokumbirawo mundizivise..
Munguva yakapfuura, pandakanga ndichiri kugara muNetherlands, ndairevererawo vazivikanwi nemhuri yomudzimai wangu, avo vakanga vakasunungukawo kuva noukama hwakanaka nomumwe murume wechiDutch. Zviitiko zvangu zvinonyanya kuenderana nezvakanyorwa naChris. Imhando dzipi dziriko munyika. Ndakaita sarudzo yevanogona kukwikwidza mukubvunzana uye pasati paitwa, paigara paine mimwe mibvunzo uye izvo zvaisawanzo kufarirwa. So be it and those clients were clearly not zvaitsvagwa nevanondiziva. Boka diki chete revanyori rinogara richisara uye kuonana kwakaitwa nenhamba shoma kuti vaenderere mberi nekuongorora kuti vanhu vacho vanobatana here. Vamwe madzimai vakanga vatova pazororo kuNetherlands uyezve vaizosangana kumwe masikati munzvimbo yakajairika kuti vazivane. Ini ndinotenda kuti hazvigoneke kuita zvine musoro kuonana kuburikidza neinternet uye webcam. Vamwe vaigara vachitaura kuti rwendo rwekuenda kuThailand runofanira kunge rwuri rushoma rwekudyara kuti uzive. Kana izvo zvakanyanyisa kubvunza, saka iwe unotoziva zvakakwana. Naizvozvo izvi zvinofanirwa kuve hwaro hwemunhu wese. Murazvo wakapfuura nomumwe murume nomudzimai uye vave vari pamwe chete uye vachifara kwemakore zvino. Saka zvinogoneka. Hukama hwakakomba ndeyekudyara kweramangwana uye haufanirwe skimp pane izvozvo.
Ndinovimba chinyorwa ichi chichaita kuti vamwe varume vafunge uye varemekedze vakadzi veThai zvakanyanya.
Sei kumhanyirira kwakadaro kuburikidza nekutsvaga nzvimbo.
Haaizowana here mukwanyina akakodzera mukati medenderedzwa reshamwari yake nafarang?
Zvinoita semukadzi akanaka kwazvo. Ndosaka ndoda kubvunza nezve profile yake. Kunyara kudaro anogara kuBangkok. Chokwadi harisi guta rangu. Ini pachangu ndinogara muChiang Mai uye ndinoida chaizvo.
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Ini pachangu ndakasangana neaimbova musikana wangu pane imwe nzvimbo yekufambidzana mazuva mashoma apfuura.
maiva muna January 2015. Muna May 2015 ndakamushanyira tikangobaya baya.
anogara padhuze nePhichit uko kune zvishoma zvekuitira mushanyi anoshanyira Thailand asi ini
akauya chete nokuda kwake
Muna May ndakava naye zvakare kwevhiki nomwe uye ndakakurumidza kuona kuti zvakanga zvishoma
zvainakidza kuva naye nekuti nekuti ini ndichiri mudiki (53) makore aiziva kuti ndakanga ndisati ndaenda kuThailand.
aigona kuuya kuzorarama.
muchidimbu….kupera kwehukama.
zvese zvinonzwika zvakanaka kuburikidza nekutaura kana skype asi kana muchokwadi usiri zuva nezuva
anogona kuva navo hazvisi kuzogara… zviri nyore
chandangosara nacho moyo wakaputsika uye kuzvidemba kuti ndakazvitanga nekukasika.
Patrick
Wadiwa Patrick,
Kuroora ndiri kutsvaga murume wekuBelgian ane makore ari pakati pe50 kusvika 60 years. Mukuwasha wangu haana kunaka kwazvo asi moyo wake ndewegoridhe, ane makore makumi mashanu nemashanu, akarambana nemurume weThai, ane mwanakomana ane makore 55 okuzvarwa uyo akaroora mukadzi wechiThai uye ivo. ane mwanakomana mumwe chete ane 24 months.
Mukuwasha wangu anogara uye anoshanda muPhrae (+/- makiromita 150 kumabvazuva kweChiang Mai) Anotaura zvakanaka chiThai, Chirungu uye ane ruzivo rwakasimba rwechiFrench. Nenzira, ave achienda kuWestern Europe katanhatu kwemwedzi 1 kusvika ku6, nguva yekupedzisira yaiva muna 2016. (6 mwedzi)
Ndafarira, ndapota ndizivise.
mhoro Andre
ndine urombo asi kwandiri haisati yasvika nguva yekufunga nezvehukama hutsva.
Ndichiri kuda musikana wangu wekare kuti afunge nezvehukama hutsva.
Ndinokushuvira rombo rakanaka nekutsvaga kwako uye ndinovimba uchamuwanira murume akanaka.
zvakanaka patrick
Hongu iwe unogara wakatarisa mufananidzo wacho kutanga .. unofanirwa kukwezvwa nemukadzi ari mubvunzo? … mukadzi akanaka uyu kana ari!
Varume… vazhinji vavo vanogona kuvapfura kuMars. Inogona kunge iri hunhu hwekutanga kubereka, asi vamwe vanhu vane hunhu hwakakora kupfuura hutete hwakatsetseka hwevarnish. Painternet, mukusazivikanwa kunotevera vakadzi. Ndinoziva nyaya dzacho. Kana mumwe munhu akazivisa kuti ivo mukadzi wechidiki, ipapo mahomoni anosunungurwa uye zvinoratidzika kuti varume vakawanda vanogona kungofunga nemusoro muduku.
Kuwana mufaro wako pa internet kunoratidzika kunge kwakaoma kwandiri, asi semukadzi zvinotonyanya kuoma. Wedzera kune izvozvo arsenal yerusaruro uye stereotypes yevakadzi vanoda kuzviisa pasi uye vakadyiswa zvakanaka (uye farting) varume vanouya kuzonunura muchindakadzi kunge knight ari pabhiza uye wobva wazviziva.
Kwete, hapana nzvimbo dzekufambidzana kwandiri. Chidimbu chaChris ichi ibasa rebasa saka mubvunzo ndewekuti awana mufaro wake pari zvino here? Kuwana munhu wekufambidzana naye akanaka - munhu anokupedza - kwakafanana nekutsvaga tsono mumunda wemupunga. Ndinodzungaira (ndisingadiwe) kumativi ose mumasawas zvakare.
Ndakabudirira kuburikidza nenzvimbo yekufambidzana. Hukama hwekutanga hahusi, hwechipiri ndihwo.
Sei zvakashanda kwatiri: kuvimbika. Zvese, zvese zvakakurukurwa pamberi pechikumbiro changu chekuroora, kuitira kuti matambudziko mashoma sezvinobvira anomuka gare gare. Semurume zvakakosha kuve munyoro zvechokwadi. Semukadzi (weThai), zvakakosha kuti usaisa mari pakutanga.
"Luck" chinhu chakakoshawo.
Ndakaenda kuThailand kuzororo kwemakore uye handina kuwana mukadzi wandaitsvaga.
Kare kuNetherlands ndakasvika pakuziva imwe chirikadzi yokuThailand nokuibatsira pakafa murume wayo.
makore maviri gare gare, hushamwari hwakakura kuva chimwe chinhu chakanaka uye kutenda kuchiri kupenya kubva mazviri.
Ini ndichave pamudyandigere kwechinguva uye ndinovimba kunakidzwa nekuchembera kwangu naye muIsaan.
haufanirwe kushanyira yekufambidzana saiti kana bhawa kusangana neiyo chaiyo.
kune zvakare akawanda akanaka eThai akasununguka uye anogara muNetherlands.
Kazhinji vanenge vari vadiki pane murume uye kana akafa vakasununguka kutanga hukama hutsva.
shanyira shamwari dzeThai kana shanyira bato reThai.
chitoro chese cheThai/Chinese chine mapepa ezvekutamba kweAsia/mapati echikafu.
you have to make the choice wega, but vakadzi ava vatojaira nyika dzekumavirira ndoziva kuti isu tinofanirawo kushanda mari dzedu.
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