Online dating with Thai women: the experiences
There is a kind of taboo atmosphere around Thai women. Not only because of the fact that people here think negatively about Thai women (I will come back to this later), but all the more because people look at you with suspicion. Are you so hopeless that you are dating a woman Thailand need to search? Is the frequently asked question. Negativity at its peak.
Don't let that put you off at all. Go your own way and experience these kinds of opinions and statements as criticism without anyone having any knowledge or experience with them. So this is my first tip. So don't go ice cream overnight. Concerns reactions from the environment.
Dating Site ThaiLoveLinks
The fastest and most normal way to find a Thai woman these days is of course through a dating site. Or not specialized in the ethnic origin of your dream partner. On Thailandblog.nl you will find various tips and experiences about the three largest dating sites that put Thai women first. I only have experience with ThaiLoveLinks.com. That is a dating site specialized in matching Thai women with Western men.
The site itself is part of Cupid Media. In addition to a dating site for Thai women, it also has versions for African, Latin American, Russian, Ukrainian, Korean, Filipino, Chinese, etc. The registration is free. You can send and receive messages for free, but opening them costs you money. The cheapest subscription is EUR 29,95 per month. The disadvantage is that you only pay for the website where you paid. So if you also want to meet Chinese women, for example, you will also pay 29,95 EURO per month for that. So I stuck with the Thai version.
Young beautiful women
After I created my profile, and neatly posted an honest picture of myself there, I immediately received a lot of 'interest' messages on the first day. They are interested, but have nothing to say. I found that out pretty quickly. You definitely get four or five a day. In the beginning I was a bit confused by these many interests, partly because I was not used to it. Many of these interests came from women much younger than me (I'm 27). They look very beautiful, neatly made up, often with provocative photos they try out as many men as possible.
I think they are real, but they send dozens of interest messages a day to anyone who signs up with a photo. So in the beginning it can confuse you, because what to do with this attention? Well, very simple, punch through it. Because getting in touch with such a woman or girl is very difficult. Often because they send random interest messages. Of the more than five hundred messages I received in two weeks, I only picked three that are serious. The women or girls who send random interest messages don't know who you are, they don't know you anyway, and they are interested, but to a certain extent. So after a week I burst through that bubble. Young, wild, provocative to erotic looking photos and profiles say even less than that one Thai woman who is waiting for you.
Three women
So after two weeks and many messages, I am in contact with three women. Two of which are very handsome and one less so. But believe it or not, I have the best contact with the less handsome one and I notice that she is very interested in me. There was already a click at the first meeting. I actually wanted to get rid of her, but she kept on pulling. Until I talked to her more, yes that first click was no illusion. I have little contact with the other two, they come online when it suits them (I take THEIR time into account). And if they say anything at all, it's often for lack of inspiration, no sense or even worse, they don't know who you are. To drive you crazy. Don't get discouraged now, because as mentioned earlier, you should invest in a Thai. So this is a second tip, do not rely on appearance and / or young age. Because my mother always said, you can't eat from a pretty table.
Invest in that one woman, that is, talk to her as much as possible. Talk to each other about small talk, but also how she feels, what she did that day. Ask her about the family, show your respect for her family, they really appreciate that. Thai women want nothing more than a man to show interest in them. At least that's what I notice all too often. Give them a little attention and they will do anything for you. I don't mean to denigrate Thai women, but that's how they are. Unlike Western women, who don't have enough with a lot of attention and still sit and complain about everything that is not good. While Thai women do not look at flaws, but at what is good in a man.
Respect
If it could all be simpler, whether it's getting here or going there, I'd have the time of my life right now. Thais don't look at material, but at affection and love. Since they don't get that from Thai guys, they look for it in Western men, who do have tenderness, affection and love for the woman in its purest form. Showing respect for her family is a good thing, and that respect is richly rewarded.
Family in Thailand has a different concept than we know here in the Netherlands. Where we put our troublesome (in-law, grand) parents here in a retirement home, people live there in colonies. I can't explain, or properly explain, exactly what's going on there. But the word respect does not exist there. Because the overall term respect is in their genes. Those three women I interact with (two of them friendly) have something in common, which is that they work for their families, not even for themselves. As a Western man, if you show interest and respect for a family of your 'future' wife, that will be appreciated even more than usual. Exceptions.
Miscommunication
The language barrier is also a horror. The chances of you speaking to a Thai woman whose English is so good are nil. I am often annoyed green and yellow by miscommunication as a result of that language barrier.
A recent example of a conversation. Me: "How was your day." She: “Good, I work, how you?” Me: "You mean how was my day?" She: “Yes I meet you.” Me: “No, I mean, what do you mean…” She: “What you mean, I don't understand.” Well, this raises my temperature quite a bit. By the way, this is not an incidental case, this is a daily occurrence. Fortunately, there are also exceptions, women who do have a reasonable basic knowledge of the English language. Fortunately, love knows no boundaries.
How does your environment deal with the fact that you have found a Thai woman with whom you think you can be happy. Usually, from my own experience of recent times, I detect a lot of mistrust and sniggering. You bring a devil into your house, who eats your skin and hair bald financially. Why don't you find a nice Dutch woman. I am not looking for a Dutch woman because I believe that a love relationship should be based on mutual respect and inner feelings. Might sound romanticized. But I do have a good point. Dutch women all think I'm very sweet, but never see a relationship because of my less handsome appearance.
Marry a Thai
Okay, I admit, I'm not Brad Pitt. And yes, I am very sweet and gentle by nature. Let Thai women look at things the other way around. You're not the prettiest, but you're very sweet and gentle. There are also Thai women who unfortunately marry for the money, but I have not yet had any contacts where people talk about money or money, otherwise if I started talking about it myself. So don't worry too much about what people think about these kinds of complicated matters. You know what you want, and you can only prove the opposite to those critical people if you have a very strong and ultimately marital bond with a Thai woman.
Of the three women with whom I am now in contact, I feel that only one remains. The least handsome. But I strongly notice that I start to respect her more and also see the external beauties. I think that's a very nice sign of how a love is actually developing.
Thai woman, also for you
I think there is a nice but good looking Thai woman for every man. Give your eyes and ears a living. Do some research, talk to as many women as possible, from as many categories as possible. I bet you will eventually end up with an average looking Thai woman who can happily give you everything. So don't get confused by all the interest messages from those dolls, because they do that randomly. You are, as silly as that sounds, a passer-by to them. Even if you speak to them briefly a few times, they will have already forgotten about you when you log out. The real one knows who you are even after dozens of sessions.
Sometimes I respond to a message I get through ThaiLoveLinks. I know every detail of what they ask and answer, and it matches exactly every time. Looks mean nothing, neither yours nor hers. But that sweet Thai woman exists, also for you.
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Hello
I also met my girlfriend through a dating site, but I would say don't use Thai love link or another expensive paying site, where there are indeed a lot of made-up profiles
I have good experiences with Thai Friendly, free with some restrictions, but if you click, switch to Skype, whats app, line or the like, free and used by almost everyone in Thailand
And yes I had some girlfriends in Thailand before I found the right one, but that is also the case here, if you are looking for a girlfriend
good luck in any case
Herman
http://www.dateinasia.com
Totally free!!
Yes Hank,
“You never know how a cow catches a hare”
And Melvin doesn't have to be Brad Pitt!
Just look at Ben Mandemakers or Eric Berkhof, certainly not Brad Pitt.
They also managed to hook a nice girlfriend, but coincidentally they are in the Brabantse Quote'100
as said above avoid paying dating sites. There are very good free dating sites that are mainly frequented by middle class ladies with a good education.
Online dating is and remains a gamble. The vast majority of the ladies you meet on Thailovelinks
especially the beautiful works in the nightlife. Just check when they are online.
A normal week-end lady is not online at 2:3 am.
I would also like to give advice. Consider it a means of meeting (dating) and a relationship that
don't look at you until you've met. Make no promises and keep all options open.
If there are a few ladies that you like. Then go to Thailand and make it a nice tour.
Your heart will then tell you how it will continue.
ThaiLoveLinks is now called ThaiCupid.
I've been on it for years and pay once for 3 months and then nothing for a while. When I still lived in Thailand I had quite a lot of women visiting for a weekend. Not because I wanted to have several wives, but I lived 300 meters from the beach and had rooms to rent. So they also came for a free weekend at the beach. When it comes down to it, there is always something that stops it. Even one who went to a doctor for a blood test at my request when I heard that her ex cheated a lot and had unsafe sex. So it turned out that he had given her HIV. She didn't want to put me at risk because of my 3 young children…. The difference with a dating site here in the Netherlands, it strikes me that 95% of those women smoke and 95% of the Thai women do not smoke! To smoke or not to smoke makes a big difference to me, not just because of the stench and foul breath but why are they smoking? Mostly from stress. Do you understand what I mean?
I have had a 9 year marriage with a 20 years younger Thai who initially spoke no English and I hardly speak Thai, communication with full understanding is very important. I am a bit older now, after the divorce from my Thai ex who turned out to be gambling, assigned the 3 children I raised alone for 15 years and might now be interested in a Thai 40+ lady. I am not dependent because I have lived in Thailand without a Thai wife for 15 years. I have a very clear profile about myself and what I am looking for. It's a pity that most only comment on my photos without having read the profile. I learned a lot from the contacts on ThaiCupid , formerly ThaiLoveLinks.
Indeed, those who are online at night cannot have a 'normal working day' during the day so they work in a bar that closes at 02.00 and then they go online for a few more hours, or they work in nursing and have a night shift or they live abroad where they are separated. I just think it's a fun and educational activity and now I have a special someone who meets 'my standards' and who promises that she will pay off her debts when I arrive, only she has to explain to me how she is going to do that because I have I don't feel like 'unpleasant surprises' and wasting my time on something 'unrealistic'.
Just create a profile with a few photos and start dating, pretty fun and there is plenty of choice because there are on average around 1000 online during the day.
Hi Melvin
I have also been a member of thailovelinks.
The english was poor and those who spoke good english had often worked in the bar or still worked there.
And it wasn't for me it just didn't work, me in the Netherlands and then the lady in Thailand.
A hefty phone bill and then you saw that lady it didn't work out anyway.
When I went to live in Thailand, it was easier, but you can see how the ladies are here.
I've been in a serious relationship twice, but in the end it didn't work out.
Because it's money they're looking for anyway, if it's not the lady then it's the family.
They must have the latest phone and dad wanted a toyota vigo etc etc.
There will also be good ladies but I have lived here for 7 years now and I hear and see it too often.
Now I went to look at FilipinoCupido on the advice of someone.
And that made a world of difference.
Almost all of them speak and write English.
And I have chatted with and met several ladies.
It was really surprising how the ladies are there.
I have now since 2 years a darling girlfriend happy with everything and she never asks for money.
Now I think you should do them the same as with a Dutch one.
So what you consider normal in the Netherlands you should also do here.
But no houses give cars, etc
And if someone is in need you help them, but that's it for me.
Good luck with your search, you will find a nice girlfriend, but use your brain.
also a nice site is dateinasia is completely free
I have a lot of experience with internet dating in Thailand and I have never paid for a dating site, simply because I make sure that only the first conversations go through that site, the rest I do via skype, yahoo or Gmail.
I know at my 1st appointments that I only had to do it with a picture, before we actually saw each other in real life, I remember a nice girl in the picture who was 10 kilos heavier in real life than in the picture, I told her that I searched a little further, many ladies are really only after money and make no mistake, they are about to get that too,
Have sex without protection with everything and everyone, you are just one of many….
I also ALWAYS say right away that I'm not a rich falang, but they don't want to hear that.
that has been one of the reasons never to respond to ladies from pattaya, i am not interested in bars or bargirls.
I remember the story of a sweet girl who told me she had absolutely no money to eat, in the same conversation she told me that she bought a tube of face cream for 7000bht.
When I suggested that maybe she should have saved that money for food, she reacted very aggrieved and our relationship was over.
There was a girl who saw me drinking a glass of iced tea (online) but she was convinced that I was drinking whisky, I don't drink because I take drugs that do not mix with booze, and I told her that too, but she knew sure i drank whiskey, end of relationship !!!
The best free site for nice Thai ladies is goodtthaigirl for me, then you can make an appointment with the ladies to video chat on Skype or the like, you both see what kind of meat you have in the tub, and you know quickly whether you want to continue with each other.
Then you run the risk that they don't show up, but you have to factor that in.
Many ladies have bad experiences with dating, both with falang and thai, it also makes sense many men want cybersex and treat women without respect, so if you date over the internet treat the ladies with respect and don't lie.
Sooner or later they will find out and then you are fucked…..
Now I also met a Thai girlfriend through a dating site namely ThaiCupid.com. After communicating on skype for a few months, I went to visit her in Udon Thani (Issan, poor area of Thailand). The first real contact went smoothly, we slept together but never had sex, she didn't want that before marriage. Afterwards I had to decide that this was not the woman of my life, she visited the Temple daily. If you have someone like that in front of you, it usually means that this person is not right in the head.
After my return home I started looking again but now on GoodThaiGirl.com and I approached several ladies myself.
Sparks flew with one, she herself proposed to come to me in Belgium after chatting on Skype for 2 months, accepted that and after staying here with me for 3 months, we made the journey to her home together in Sakon Nakhon (also Issan and even poorer than Udon Thani) Have met her family, especially show A LOT of respect for her family, she will do the same for your family. Meanwhile, I know that a retired person gets only 500 Thai baht a month from the Thai government as a legal pension. (500 Thai baht is +/- 11 euros and they don't take into account whether you have earned much or little during your career - everyone gets the same amount, also a doctor or a director at the bank only gets 500 THB)
My girlfriend has never asked me for money, neither for her nor for her family. It is assumed that, in her case, her mother is retired, you will occasionally deposit, for example, 200 euros into her mother's bank account. If you do that for them, you will get that back in your current life.
We have decided to get married in November 2015, but not in the traditional Thai tradition, she does not want that, it is too expensive in her eyes, but only for the State (town hall) and only a dinner with the families. I am currently disabled and hope that one day I will be able to go back to work. My girlfriend, future wife, does everything for me, the physical that I get, I have never experienced that from a Western woman, nor the household, when we go out (she never goes alone, she never goes shopping alone, afraid to take something that is too expensive) she does look at the display cases but always says, let's wait for the last moments of the sales, then it will be cheaper. She can afford it with such a size (S and sometimes M) but if this is really nice I step straight into the shop or boutique. (I'm lucky I don't have to flip every penny ten times before spending it)
When you hook up a Thai woman, treat her with great respect (no violence) and with great love. Respect her family and you are their supreme god.
When you travel to Thailand and you meet your girl/wife never kiss her on the mouth in public or with the family, only when you are alone with her in a room can you kiss her on/in the mouth.
I wish you luck in your search…..
The nail on the head. I met my girlfriend through Thai cupid, a whole
Dear wife, speaks fluent English, and I was also suspicious in the beginning, but I have been very honest and open to hate, and I also told her immediately that I was not rich at all. We have been together for 6 months now and she is a real dream woman. And her parents are such lovely people. Certainly not out for money as many claim, respect jen and their culture and you will get it back threefold, but you have to be open to it, family always comes first. I am a happy man, thank Thai Cupid.
Gosh, I got my now pregnant wife from a bar on Patpong and we've been together and married for 30 yrs, yes thirty. I have more confidence in a so-called bargirl than someone from a dating site. Someone you've never seen and told your whole life on the Internet. Can you make sense of everything. Each his / her lust or life. As an old tramp sailor (16 years old to 60 years old) I don't feel any better than a Bargirl, whatever that means.
If you are 27 years old then you better just get on the plane. Choose a nice place. Go to a local Thai disco. And use an app on your phone to meet potential dates, almost always prize.
As Aart writes, a woman who prefers to spend 7000 baht on a beauty cream instead of buying food. That is stupid in our western eyes, but on the other hand you don't understand the Thai dating game. Go on a Friday night or Saturday night to a trendy disco that is booming and then you just see how it is played. Girls stand in line and one wants to be even more beautiful than the other because they know that the first impression is worth a thaler and if they can catch a rich man with it. In their eyes, that beauty cream is also something they do for you. Conversely, the men do their best to look their best because if you look successful, it almost automatically means attention from the women. Bar bills of 5000-10.000 baht on a night are no exception, even though the men have to die for the rest of the week. Or show up in a fat BMW even though he has no food for the rest of the week due to the financing. The women here dream of a successful husband and a rich life. You want the girl, sell the dream 🙂
Dear readers,
It goes without saying that you come across many scams on the internet, that there are many risks associated with online dating and that you quickly lose your money without results.
I read the word “taboo” here in the header of the above article, well, allow me to break that taboo and the surrounding negativity by telling my story. Because how do you actually want to build something positive when there is so much negativism around? It does not work.
Dating a Thai lady can all be much easier, without the risk of meeting a bar girl who is only after your money, and with much more success. And – with much less financial risk and at a lower cost than hitting the bars every night or running the risk of getting scammed on websites we won't name.
I met my Thai wife at Meet Me Now Bangkok (www.meetmenowbangkok.com). Feel free to visit this website. FYI: At the top you will see a purple bar with 8 photos of happy Western-Thai couples. My wife and I are in the leftmost photo of these 8 photos, I'm wearing a white shirt and she's wearing an orange blouse, and we're both holding the red word “Love”. Click on the blue Testimonials button and scroll down to see us again. This is just to indicate to you who we are and also to indicate that you can put your trust in what I write here.
My story in short: I met Kanyada (Yaya is her nickname), my wife, through Meet Me Now Bangkok in early February 2013. I took the trouble to thoroughly study Thai culture beforehand. After verifying my profile (including sending copies of my passport, and proof of good conduct and morals, and a few other things) I had the "Platinum" status on the Meet Me Now Bangkok website, which means "trustworthy" . The ladies you get to know through Meet Me Now Bangkok also all have this status, they have all been checked in the sense that Nathamon, the manager, checks whether they do not work in prostitution, have not been convicted of anything, etc.
Kanyada and I would then start skyping, sometimes those were skype calls from 10 am and she would go home from the internet cafe at 2 am.
In June 2013 we met each other for the first time in Bangkok.
How does Meet Me Now bangkok work?
– You enter your details on the website
– You can download books from the website (it was 2 years ago) with crucial information about Thai culture and what you need to do to have success with a Thai lady. NOTE: study these books thoroughly, because they lay the foundation to build a happy life with a Thai. Without knowledge of Thai culture, you have a 99% chance that things will go wrong! If your Thai lady has no knowledge of your culture, or is not willing to learn about it: ditto, it has to come from both sides. In almost all Western-Thai relationships that fail, this can be traced back to a lack of knowledge of each other's culture, so take your time to study this crucial info and do some further online research on Thai culture (and honestly, I got already the newsletters of Thailandblog.nl and that has given me a lot of insight, for which I am very grateful)
– You will be contacted by Nathamon
– You can register on the dating website that belongs to Meet Me Now Bangkok
– You achieve platinum status by sending copies of certain documents in PDF, 2,5 years ago in my case that was my Belgian identity card, my passport, an electricity bill proving that I live at the address I gave to Nathamon, my driver's license, and also a certificate of good behavior and morals, as we call it here in Belgium, and which you can therefore easily request from the municipality. Scan everything and send it by email.
– You will see that on the dating website there are also ladies with this platinum status, which means that they have been checked in the same way. No platinum lady gets past their screening process and also knows that if she "rides a crooked skate" after achieving platinum status, such as contacting men for sex, and Nathamon finds out that she will be taken off the website.
– Make contacts with ladies on the website for several months and take the time and effort to talk to them (in our case that was lengthy conversations, whole weekends and evenings)
– Make an appointment via Skype with Nathamon
– Together, make a shortlist of the ladies you wish to meet, if these ladies also agree, this will be planned.
– Travel to Thailand, take a holiday with your employer if you work for an employer
– Nathamon picks you up at Suvarnabhumi airport, in my case it was at Meeting Point 3
– Culturally speaking, it is “not done” in Thailand that you just meet on a date without a third person. If you've studied Thai culture (and I hope you have, otherwise expect to fail) you know this by now. In concrete terms, it means that Nathamon will certainly be there at your first meeting
– Relax, enjoy, talk about anything and everything, … and don't forget the lessons you learned while studying the culture, show respect for the local people, smile, maybe make a wai too much then too little, learn the expressions” sanook”, “mai pen rai”, “koh tood”, “kop khun krap”, “sawadee krap” and you will get very far (this is about all I know of the Thai language, and the whole neighborhood where my wife lives greatly appreciates these simple basic words)
Cost: I paid Nathamon USD 5000 at the time. That's not a lot of money if you compare it with what you potentially lose on some dating sites, on bargirls, on scams, … Plus here you go straight to your goal: a happy relationship with a serious Thai lady. And that's what Meet Me Now bangkok stands for, nothing more and nothing less.
Result: I can of course only speak for myself here:
– I entered my details on the Meet Me Now Bangkok website between Christmas 2012 and New Year 2013.
– Nathamon contacted me by phone at the beginning of January 2013.
– I got to know Kanyada through the website in early February 2013.
– I had platinum status in mid-February 2013
– Kanyada and I talked continuously on Skype until June 12, 2013 and then I traveled to Bangkok
– On June 13, 2013, we met for the first time in Bangkok (editors, I am willing to provide you with dated photos as proof that I am not telling lies here)
– Kanyada came to Belgium in the second half of October (Oct 11, 2013 – Oct 26, 2013)
– I traveled to Thailand again from 14 or 15 December 2013 to 27 December 2013
– We got married in Bangkok on 19-12-2013 and kept talking via skype, line app, email, …
– Kanyada lives with me in Belgium since 30-05-2014 (family reunification visa)
– make sure you have good documentation for research into marriages of convenience and talk to your wife about this!
I sincerely hope that this story gives you the right mindset to make positive contact with a serious Thai lady and that you can become very happy together. Admittedly, this method also requires a lot of effort, time, and has a financial price tag, but if you are (perhaps not) willing to put in this effort, then as a man you also know that you are (perhaps not) willing to invest in a good relationship.
Best regards,
Bruno
Sorry Bruno, I wish you all the luck in the world but I think 5000 USD is a lot of money for an intermediary acting as a matchmaker there are many other ways (see others' comments) to achieve the same thing without such a big investment
Piet
Well, before you blow $5000 through the traditional method, you've got to put in some serious effort. This way will also work, but it also comes across as very businesslike, there is little room left for the adventure, which also has its charm. Furthermore, the way this is written sounds a bit advertising-like to me, perhaps business ties with this organization?
Quote from Melvin: 'Family in Thailand has a different concept than we know here in the Netherlands. Where we put our troublesome (in-law, grand) parents here in a retirement home, people live there in colonies.' Oh yes, is that right?
In the Netherlands, 85 percent of all people over the age of eighty live at home, half without any help, the other half with some or quite a lot of help.
In the Netherlands, some children run wild to take care of their parents, and I know many elderly people in Thailand who have been abandoned by their children. I don't believe that there is much difference between these two countries when it comes to 'respect for the elderly'.
It strikes me again that the bar girl is mentioned again between the reactions. What's wrong with it ? met my wife years ago at the bar where she worked and we have had a great time in the Netherlands for over 10 years. Always that negative about the bar girl no those addicted computer ladies they will all be the best at my hula .
I agree with you.
I have 3 friends living in Holland who are now married to an (ex) bargirl.
And that's fine. I'm not into dating sites.
I myself have had a number of relationships with women in Thailand. And not just bargirls either.
Also with a hairdresser and a masseuse. I am just not ready for a permanent relationship with a Thai woman as long as I still live in the Netherlands. Possibly I will emigrate next year and then I will look for a nice woman at my leisure. And I don't care if she works in a bar or not.
Hans
Personally, I think that a so-called bargirl might be the better choice.
They are the types who have intercourse with a Farang, who comes from a different culture.
I myself had an office job in Bangkok and most of the ladies were extremely conservative.
Very businesslike, not an ounce of humour.
Bit of staphorst types, so to speak.
I can therefore wholeheartedly recommend a bar girl.
Be honest with each other.
Ls,
Make nice experiences but there is a lot of chaff among the wheat.
Once when I was teaching English in rural Thailand, a group of ladies friends came to me to do translations for them. They were also on ThaiLoveLinks but didn't understand what the 'farang' wrote. I offered to create Profiles and to put together an English course. I also took care of their correspondence and pretended to be the ladies because they had asked the question, who is a good man and who is not? They thought I could judge that, better than them. They came to class 2 x 2 hours a week and I showed them which of the men I had selected, they could then choose who I would continue with until a personal introduction was made. In the end I had a class with 15 ladies. Normally the gentlemen don't look at the men's side so we don't know what kind of men are on the site and how they behave but I've seen a lot of them. I have also seen one who informed all 15 women within 15 minutes that he was seriously interested?! I hear from the ladies that they are requested to go naked and that there are also men who are proud of their genitals! I have experienced that men go on vacation to Thailand and visit many women in different cities. The visits usually take place in local hotels. We call that (the Thai women and me) a 'Free sex tour' and that's not what they want. There's a lot going on but it's also fun.
I myself have been married for 23 years to a Thai woman who suddenly died of a cerebral hemorrhage 4 months ago. A few weeks later my mobile broke, so I started using hers. That thing could also app, I had never done it, but never mind, it doesn't matter! And then I got an app request a week or so later. Accepted, why not and we chatted a bit, although no dating site we fell in love with each other. Always laughing and joking Falling in love over the internet is not possible, well I know better. I'm going to see her on Thursday.
Dating sites make searching a lot easier, after all a larger pond to fish in and you can already filter / search on characteristics. But a dating site specifically for a certain target group is a bit against me. Whether that is for "higher educated people", "a size more" or a certain nationality. Yes people have preferences but love can surprise you. I admit, I also find Asian ladies more than average attractive, but to search on a website specialized in Asian ladies or even specifically Thailand? My second concern would be that you meet a lady who apparently has a farang in her wish list. Then something of the spontaneous takes away. If I lived in Thailand, I would rather choose a regular dating site, so that you are less likely to meet someone who apparently attributes certain advantages to a farang. And you yourself should not assign certain advantages to a woman (or man) purely on the basis of country of origin. But everyone does their thing, after all everyone deserves to be happy with a significant other.
Now that I'm involuntarily alone I don't know what to do yet, my suddenly deceased sweet darling accidentally found me on the street. I would have laughed at people if they had just said “you will have a Thai later”, and said I didn't expect to meet a farang either. You can find true love by chance. Dating sites can help a bit with that, but they can also increase the chance of illusions. I have absolutely no idea what love will bring in the future. Thailand is a beautiful country, my wife was fantastic. I would like nothing more than to have my sweet darling back by my side. An impossible wish. Who, where and how I will discover a new love, no idea. Being alone is no fun. But I don't attribute any special qualities to “the Thai”. The Thai, the Dutch, etc. don't even exist. I just hope to meet another nice, sweet woman and if all goes well I won't stay alone for years because then I think I'm going crazy. We'll see who crosses my path, the future is unpredictable in all its splendor and horror.
NB: I agree with Tino about the unjustified cliché images about the elderly.
Got something from my heart:
Maybe I'll go to other bars… (in Pattaya) And yes, there are some ladies just out for money. Especially the (very) younger ones. But many "bar girls" are just very nice ladies. Don't forget they work there because they are usually family sent. And if you start a normal conversation with them, and speak several times, they turn out to be very ordinary nice women. At least, I see quite a few. Even when I walk through Soi 6,7 and 8. I don't stop very often to have a drink, just walk through, but there too I meet very normal, normal nice ladies. But you will only find out if you don't want a quick fuck and look closely at the ladies. Aren't they pushy but just look friendly from their place, good chance they are nice.
Very probably most of the 'barmaids' would also like to leave there asap. I think it's a pity that on websites this word is usually given a negative connotation. Even on Walking Street. I walked into Angel's Place or something like that. Was assigned a table, and the young lady who was dancing on it came to have a chat and turned out to be really nice and ordinary. But you have to talk a bit further than "where are you from", etc. For me no negative connotation to 'bar girls'.
Look for a bar that is a bit quieter, for example on the other side of Second Road in a side street. And strike up a conversation at your leisure. And come back tomorrow, you'll have normal friends in no time.
I met my wife through Thaikisses.com. My wife only speaks Thai so we communicate with each other in Thai. If I don't understand something, let me know. My wife then repeats what she said or uses different words. This has led to us always understanding and understanding each other.
The best is just to go to Thailand. Meet your ladies enough. I didn't get to know my wife through a dating site, but just met her in no park. After some chatting we go out for dinner together and go out in the evening. Had her taken home in a taxi and agreed again for the next day. Did that for a vacation. Stayed in touch after the holidays. Continued next holiday. After that she wanted a holiday in the Netherlands and I arranged that. She immediately started Dutch lessons after the holidays and she has been in the Netherlands since 2010. To full satisfaction. Moving to Thailand in 3 years.
Been on Thailovelink for 3 months, had 1 meeting, and married after 2 months, Already 5 years, super. A needle in a haystack!
You reap what you sow. This has been rightly said here several times.
If you are sweet, polite, respectful and considerate, in other words act normal, it is with any Thai lady, you will get a "normal" reaction (action equals reaction) and it soon becomes clear that many of them do not act differently are than you or me.
Without any ulterior motive sometimes, say often, spent hours with bargirls, sometimes even ladyboys, drinking or even eating (no more or less) and sitting or lying for hours talking about anything and everything, so about life in general, and at the end it is amazing how small the difference is between the two ways of thinking or culture and how cool they can all be, read "ordinary people" like you and me .. have made friends from this,.
Of course there are vipers in “those” circles” but there are also many farangs with their “FFFF” macho behavior, let them “play” each other's game (for me both are quantité negligeable).
Speaking of dating site now, is Tinder different here in Europe than in Thailand? I wonder.
In any case, the "click" with the woman of your life can take a long time to come, but it can also happen very quickly .. it's all a matter of "mutual respect and attraction at the right time", as it is written in the stars . ... and is that through dating or during a visit to a Mall, Bar or massage parlor in Thailand? Who knows ? .. But somewhere “she” is walking around and somewhere “he” is walking around, the question is “where do they meet”? on a date site or on a “face site” ?