Is internet dating suitable for finding a Thai woman?
The editors of Thailandblog regularly receive reactions from visitors with the question: "How do I meet a nice Thai woman?". With the explicit mention that they are not looking for a bargirl. In this article we will discuss the phenomenon: online dating with Thai women.
What is Online Dating?
Thanks to the internet, the world has become a lot smaller and faster. Trading places and other meeting places for supply and demand have sprung up everywhere. It sounds disrespectful, but a dating site is also a kind of marketplace for supply and demand.
Wikipedia gives the following definition: online dating or internet dating is an English term that refers to dating via the internet. The dates made (usually) have a friendship, love or sex relationship as a common goal.
Is internet dating suitable for finding a Thai woman?
Yes, more and more Thai women are turning to internet dating to find a Western man. There are plenty Thai who would like to get in touch with a farang. These are 'normal' Thai women.
In fact, internet dating is the only way to meet a western man. A decent Thai woman will never approach a farang just like that. If that does happen, you are dealing with an (ex) bargirl. On dating sites you will find Thai singles from all over the world who are looking for friendship, love and a marriage partner.
The benefits of online dating with a Thai
An important advantage is that you can select on a number of criteria. Consider age and education. You also have the opportunity to learn more about her background. Given the large cultural differences, it is certainly advisable to see if there are enough common ground to enter into a friendship or relationship with a Thai woman.
Some valuable dating tips:
- Protect your anonymity. Do not give personal information too quickly, you can always do so.
- When you create a profile, make sure that important personal information such as telephone numbers and address details are never included in your profile.
- Even if your online girlfriend asks for personal information, be wary and don't give it until you're 100% sure it's reliable. Of course, you should never pass on financial information such as account numbers and the like to someone you have never met.
- Create a special email account (gmail or hotmail) for online dating. This makes it easier to protect against unwanted email and email stalking.
- Don't be afraid to ask lots of questions. You first have to feel and know what kind of meat you have in the tub. If someone gives mixed answers to the same questions, they may be an unreliable person. Take notes if you find anything suspicious.
- Also be prepared that there are Thai women who will tell a sad story after a while and start asking you for money. Mother sick, father dead, buffalo crippled, brother in hospital and so on. No matter how sweet and trustworthy she seems, don't go into it. Even if it only concerns relatively small amounts, do not start. There are 'bad apples' trying to scam you. Sending money to someone you've never met is not wise, don't let your head run wild. If you still want to send money to someone you don't know, I'll give you my email address ;-).
- Report abuse and requests for money immediately to the administrator of the dating site.
- There are reliable and less reliable dating sites. But even reliable dating sites can never guarantee that the members are also reliable.
Which dating sites can you visit to meet Thai women?
There are plenty to find on the internet. I have not tried them all, but you can conclude that the larger and more professional dating sites are also more reliable. No one can give you hard guarantees. If you are not successful with internet dating, it does not have to be the dating site. Maybe it doesn't work for you for some reason.
dating apps
There are now also dating apps for your phone (smartphone), the most famous of which is undoubtedly Tinder. Tinder is one of the most popular (free) dating apps. Based on your preferences, you will see a whole series of profiles of others, each time you swipe left or right with your finger to indicate whether or not you want to get to know that person. If you like someone, you can start chatting with each other and possibly meet up. Other dating apps are:
- Thaifriendly
- Thaicupid
- Asian dating
- Seeking
- Thaiflirting
Is internet dating free?
A first registration is usually free. However, there are limitations in the functionalities. If you want serious internet dating, a paid membership is a good option. The costs are not too bad and you can do much more with your dating account.
Until then, have fun dating and maybe you'll meet your Thai dream woman!
What are our readers' experiences with internet dating?
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My experiences are, as might be expected, very mixed. Varying from people who are only after your email address and then spam it full, and a lady who only wanted to come to my room if her sister could also come along (don't fall for it, of course), to ladies who have achieved their goal, are married to a farang and only come to Thailand for vacation.
Personally, I prefer Thaifriendly.com.
There, the ladies can indicate more or less freely in their profile what the intention is, while some other sites are very difficult about this.
Furthermore, of course, never promise or transfer money and make sure that you are either in Thailand or at least can have a real meeting in the foreseeable future, and do not create false expectations.
To begin ; internet dating can certainly be suitable to find a Thai partner. I myself have quite a lot of experience in this and also got to know various Thai women via the internet. Sometimes I had a relationship with it and some have become good friends. Only the statement: A decent Thai woman will never address a farang just like that, I refer to the realm of fables. Have had a relationship with a Thai woman from high society. However, it came to nothing through my own doing. I have my current girlfriend I got to know her through a dating site and she is now in the Netherlands for the 4th time. NEVER even met her in Thailand. Must mention that I can express myself reasonably well in Thai both verbally and in writing. So it makes it a lot easier. Before she came to the Netherlands for the first time, a lot of conversations preceded it and it took at least a year and a half before she dared to come to the Netherlands without ever meeting me in real life.
But as already written before, there is also a lot of chaff among the wheat. It is true that you have to be very careful with a bargirl, but there are also good ones here. It just depends on who you meet.
The advantage of internet dating is that you generally meet highly educated ladies.
The fact that they are highly educated does not mean that they are better than a simple farmer's daughter. Anyway, I don't see any benefit in it.
When the lady in question cannot handle a computer well, an intermediary or girlfriend is often called in to do the conversation.
He then also creates the profiles.
Harry, just a comment,
The advantage of internet dating is that you generally meet higher educated ladies, this is a statement that I refer to the realm of fables.
For months I dated women on a Thai dating site.
I did not stay in the Netherlands, I had been living in another part of the world for years and was planning to make a one-year tour in Asia. I also had an account on a Malaysian dating site, where I mainly found older, highly educated Muslim women.
I myself was not interested in a 50 year old lady (I was 67 years old at the time).
I have never been interested in traveling to Thailand, but because of my tour plan I also ended up in Thailand.
For a few months I was busy (Skype and Line) with many women, the photos sent were in one word great and the age was also fine, it had to be between 1 and 40 years old, the age of the women who responded started at 45 years old, no interest in these women because that is not the age I want, but most of them hardly speak English or have a girlfriend who helps.
I made an appointment with a woman (41 years old) whom I would meet as soon as I landed in BKK. A big good looking woman with a girlfriend, my question if this was going to be a menage a trois was laughably rejected, it turned out that the girlfriend was a temporary interpreter, because my date didn't speak a word of English, with this date I had only written never spoken so I was surprised.
We spent 10 days together, saw a lot, BKK, Phuket, Kon Kaen and the conversation if there was one happened via the laptop, Google translate often makes no sense so hopeless, but despite the fact that I spent a good time with her I left on my own and had contact with another Thai, I have never laughed as much as with this woman, now again via Skype, she has a university degree, spoke very good English and has an Amsterdam sense of humour, I admit that if you are not from Amsterdam you will not understand what I mean here, but this woman really made me cry with laughter. She was then 42 years old, so my target group has a good job, we tried it out together and have been together for 4 years now. My tour never took place and I have been living together here in Thailand for 4 years now. I'm lucky with this woman because my experience through a dating site is that you don't exactly meet English speaking women.
You have to be lucky and together try to understand each other and also each other's different culture. Do not expect too much from dating sites of any country, but also what do you expect yourself because that is also important, a holiday girlfriend, then you do not need a site, a relationship for the rest of your life, success but do not expect too much from a dating site.
Again I am lucky with my Thai wife, but when I read this Thailand blog I believe I am one of the few who is still together with a Thai after so many years.
We still laugh every day (but also crackling fights), but the humor wins so far.
So again don't expect to hook up with a highly educated good English speaking Thai young beauty through any dating site because you will come home from a rude awakening.
Also keep in mind that a Thai woman has a different attitude to life than a Western woman, age and external beauty do not play a (major) role here, what is important is that you have a good heart and show it, I do not mean to to use as an ATM, not only to her but also how positive you are towards others and in life.
If you have been approved (everywhere I am regarded as Richard Gere by Thai men and women and judged as a strong guy despite my age) by your Thai, then you have the best woman you could wish for, a woman who fights for family, but also for you because you are, after all, a family member.
Once again I wish everyone a good life and a good woman, nationality does not matter.
Yak
Personally I have good experiences with the free dating sites. It is really not necessary to choose a paid site, but one thing is certain; all good things come slowly…
Whether you try a free or paid version, there is always (a lot of) chaff under the wheat that needs to be separated.
But if you use your common sense, and draw up a normal thorough profile yourself and you don't behave like a jerk, you significantly increase your chances.
Once you have found someone you can communicate with in a normal and fun way, suggest that you Skype with each other. If she dismisses this and says for unclear reasons that this is not possible, then you better look further and it is (often) a savvy scammer with wrong intentions.
Personally I am now in contact with a nice lady of 42 years from Bangkok, university educated, good job, never been married and no children whom I have already met here in NL
No nagging for money, she paid for the trip all by herself and even brought some souvenirs from her own country for my family. A treasure of a girl.
Again, it is also largely up to you. Thailand may have gotten a bad name because of places like Pattaya and other Red Light Districts in the country, but you don't go to the Red Light District or another RLD here in the Netherlands to look for a girlfriend for a solid relationship ….However…?
Note: It is customary in Thailand to bring a friend or even mother to a first date, I think you are in better circles then. People want to see who they are dealing with.
The chapperon.
I have no experience with dating sites. Through my late wife I know several ladies who are or were single. Trying to find a partner through dating sites didn't really appeal to them, not even those who had a preference for Westerners. For very understandable reasons that I think anyone who knows internet dating knows: what are the real motives of the person on the other end? Doesn't that man just want sex or doesn't that woman just want money? For example, some ladies have had contact via chat or Facebook, but what I hear was that regularly a 'pakwan' (sweet mouth, smooth talkers) man tried to talk them out of their clothes. It is understandable that they are (or have become) rather conservative with digital contacts.
Profiles can of course mainly show a rosy picture, it remains to be seen how someone is in real life. Very understandable that people prefer to meet someone in real life. The pond in which you fish is much smaller. But if you only commute between work and home, you will of course encounter few potential partners, especially if you prefer something exotic.
For similar reasons I don't see myself on a dating site yet, emotionally you wonder what the motivation is to find a farang or Thai partner. People have universal values, so attributing special characteristics to a people is nonsensical. At most you can have a preference for a certain appearance. Are you still looking for a dating site that has a wide range of people who meet your (outward) preferences?
If you do go online dating, common sense is just important. Don't trust the other too quickly, but the other way around that kite also goes up. You can be a good, honest and sincere person but the person on the other side has to wait and see! Take it easy, don't do weird things you wouldn't normally do with a total stranger. Small chance that you will go on your record.
Incidentally, I do not agree with the statement that normal Thai women do not approach strangers (farang). In daily life here or in Thailand, we all don't easily address a stranger. There is a good chance that you will be seen as creepy or wrong if you just strike up a conversation or start flirting at the traffic light… If someone in the Netherlands starts a conversation with you out of the blue to find out a few things about you, I would get suspicious as well! But in some locations or situations, that opportunity does come naturally. Whether you are in the Netherlands or Thailand, Dutch or Thai, man or woman, it doesn't matter, the moment has to be right.
That's how I met my sweet darling when I was walking late at night through a deserted street in the village where I was. She had just closed her shop at home and still wondered what that white nose was doing here the past few days. She spoke to me and that's how a short conversation started and the rest went by itself.
To come back to internet dating, I understand that the ladies are in doubt about how to find a nice partner. I have the same objections. So remember that internet dating makes your fishing pond much bigger, but that there are so many more incredibly nice men and women that you will not encounter through internet dating. What would I do myself in the long term? No idea…
That's why it's a good thing there's Skype!
Depending on the real life behavior and the corresponding answers to questions asked, you often quickly get the impression of what someone really is like.
There is nothing scary about internet dating as long as you follow the order of internet dating then Skype and use common sense!
Registered on thaicupid over a year ago, and I'm still together with the first girl I actually started chatting with. been there 3 times in the meantime, she 1 time here in BE.
so very unexpectedly happy with it, and i would like to live with her soon.
be aware of the many paperwork and waiting periods..
My experience is very positive. I once registered on such a website (thailovelinks) and soon I got way too many 'interests'. Based on a few emails, I quickly dismissed a lot of them.
I really liked one. I quickly switched from website to email and then chat with webcam, and shortly after that I traveled to Thailand; rented an apartment there with her help and spent a month together.
A few months later she visited me for a while so that she knew what kind of monkey country I do live in (Belgium :-)).
And again a few months later we got married, in Thailand. That was about 10 years ago now. Those 10 years are the best of my life (I'm now in my late fifties).
We want to live together in Thailand one day but my wife keeps putting it off because she is very happy here.
Where or how you meet someone is less important. That you find the right one and invest in the relationship, that is what counts, and the cultural difference, if you handle it well, that is interesting and fascinating.
Good advice: make a real effort to learn Thai.
Interesting that they do not go to Th. want to go back, and you do. Am curious why, because my threshold is: wasting a lot of energy on a dating site while those women are looking for a farang who lives in Th. wants to live (is my prejudice, hereby disproved a bit), and I don't want that. Has she made friends here? Does she feel rich here? I know a story of Belgians, highly educated, who took their wives with them to visit friends. She could not speak Dutch. After a while she fell asleep!
Had that with a Dutch woman who came to visit us because she couldn't speak Flemish…..
“A few months later she visited me for a while so that she knew what kind of monkey country I do live in (Belgium :-)).”
“We want to live together in Thailand someday, but my wife keeps putting it off because she is very happy here.”
Apparently she appreciates Belgium more than you.
I've lived in Thailand for 10 years now and have had countless relationships sprout and countless bursts. However, I noticed that it doesn't always have to do with where you met the girl. Most of the girls in the 'regular' bars are not really what you would call prostitutes…..most of them are girls who, just like the other 'regular' girls, are looking for a farang to start a steady relationship with…and that is a big difference with a prostitute in the west for whom sitting in a bar is really a profession.
So here I have girls from the most notorious bars start a relationship of which I thought man man farang what are you going to do…..and no…some of them are now married…living in Belgium…have a child a nice job and a good relationship …..Others who boasted that theirs from Bangkok had a job and not a barmaid……it fared much less pleasant…..Well it's all hard to predict…..And it doesn't just depend on the girl…also the farang is not always what it should be.
Internet dating has become a good and common tool in our current modern society. Whether that specifically concerns Thai or other nationalities does not really matter.
Finally, for someone who comes here on holiday for only a few weeks, with the aim of meeting a new love, it is even a great advantage to be able to selectively determine the arrangements to be made in advance. In fact, without internet dating there were few other possibilities to meet a lady outside of the nightlife. You don't just talk to a complete stranger in a supermarket, on the market... because you already run the risk that she doesn't understand a word of your story.
Internet dating, of course, just like regular dating, has its pitfalls. A guarantee that it is not a “bargirl” on the phone, for those who have something against this category of ladies, is never excluded, because they also often have access to the internet.
Someone who knows Thailand a bit, and here too it should not be a specific Thai lady, who knows or should know that a "real lady" will never make a first appointment in your hotel room. It will have to take place on neutral ground and yes: usually accompanied by a family member, friend or colleague.
So in my opinion: nothing wrong with interdating, just use your common sense is the message.
Another side note; where we can build up our file behind the PC, it seems to me that is hardly possible with a smartphone, which they often use. Keep that in mind, and that could be why they don't remember your information and forget to answer questions. I also wonder if you are a paying member, if not, they only send requests (?), and then wait to see if you respond. So a random request can be quite serious.
Can anyone give me some names of a reliable dating site for finding a thai woman. gr Hank
Dear Henk,
Through TLL I met my partner, due to circumstances I ended up in Thailand.
Many reactions from the Thai ladies on TLL, sorting it out well and my partner and I had very good conversations with each other and I went to Thailand before, I lived mainly outside Europe at the time and I was actually going to Malaysia.
Now after so many years we are still together and her children see me as their "father", sounds crazy but gives a good feeling. I have lived in many countries, but I will probably stay here in Thailand until my death with “my” family thanks to TLL.
Try it out I'd say.
Regards,
Me Yak
ThaiCupid.com
Bye Hank! I just read your question and thought I could answer it two times. First of all, I met my current Thai wife through Date in Asia 12 years ago. My experience at the time was that it was a reasonably good dating site, but that you always have to remain critical yourself. that applies to all sites, by the way. I also liked Thaifriendly. But that's all from years ago.
Now my second reaction: My (Thai) wife has a friend Tew, who also wants to get to know a decent man. She is very shy and wants us to help her with that. She has been divorced for years, has a (good by Thai standards) job and her own flat in a working-class area in Bangkok. She is certainly an attractive woman, slim, late 40s. If you are interested, you can let me know via my email address: [email protected]
Regards, Haki
A warning for the many 'fake profiles' on dating sites! If a gorgeous and very young woman takes the initiative very positively, then you have to be careful. I especially don't trust it when such a beautiful woman puts only 1 photo on her profile because a beautiful woman is proud of herself and likes to show it. It's too easy to take 1 photo from the Internet and use it for a 'fake profile! If you think soberly you understand that it is unrealistic. Especially if they immediately ask for your e-mail address, you also have to be careful because what is that necessary for?
I have had many good friends through Online Dating and have been living together in Thailand for 10 months now with a financially independent single ex-bank employee whose son is taking care of himself. Together with her I went to meet the 84 year old mother, but we didn't have to ask permission. Marriage is also not a 'must' for either of us, because what benefits does that provide? it does not guarantee love and fidelity.
I create a profile with as much important information as possible about myself and clear and specific questions about the ladies. Those who take the trouble to respond positively are worthwhile for me to go into further detail and only then did I pay for the possibilities to have maximum contact.
I never visit bars and can speak Thai and could go out into the rice paddies but have good experiences with Thaicupid.
Been together for 12 years now and married for 6 years.
Have a 5 year old.
So it can also go well!!!!
Ever created a profile on Tagged.com and introduced myself.
Supposedly already lived in Thailand and after a few reactions I visited 3 ladies.
Married for 9 years now and my wife still works for her boss in Thailand and we are still together.
My wife did not work in a bar, but as negative as many do about it, it seems very hypocritical to me because those women would also like to see it differently.
No dating sites for me. In the first instance just go on holiday, for example in the isaan and give your eyes a good living. Find out what the do's and don'ts are. Meeting live is better than through such a dating site. you know for sure who you are dealing with and what you can expect.
Nothing wrong with dating sites as long as you're not too naive. At first I only went cycling in Southeast Asia. Then I registered on a number of free dating sites and then searched for ladies in the area. If nice ladies responded, an appointment was made.
After three relationships, one of almost 5 years in South Thailand, one of 3 years in the Philippines, finally found the right one, another Filipina.
I met my girlfriend that way, 9 years now and still happy. Wedding plans are in the works, depending on the C19 crisis
Difficult to find a correct lady through online dating, but certainly not impossible. With my first there were very conflicting signals. Finally had to give up the relationship after 17 months due to unstable character and full of lies. Second lady gave up after two months because she had strange thoughts. Three and four: it quickly became clear that they were scammers. At the fifth it was hit: became my wife. How did this success come about : very long chat and video chats.
My tips :
Quickly make it clear that the lady should not count on financial support.
Everything should be negotiable, with respect.
Make it clear that you want honesty, but also give on your part.
Provide many conversations.
Be strict with yourself. In case of bad feeling, lies or inappropriate demands: end the relationship.
I used to always use Thaicupid to get in touch with Thai ladies.
As most Thais use Line for chatting and video chatting I also gave my Line Id if someone was interested or vice versa.
And then later you can choose who you want to meet which is sometimes difficult because there are so many…
In the beginning of April 2014 created a ThaiLoveLink name and a separate Gmail account, a few days later xxx responses, also from many ladies / girls under the age limit set by me. Then the 10 nicest profiles were chosen to email with outside the site. A little later the 3 best skyped along, and then 2 quickly fell off (1 too much negative about other farangs and 1 looked like a scam with predicted answers). But the most beautiful and sincere lady fortunately remained. Visited her in October of that year for 3 weeks, with some alternatives in my back pocket. It went well from day 1 and we have been together in Thailand for over 5 years now and married for almost 5 years.
ThaiLoveLink is now called ThaiCupid!!!
The most realistic site, with enough choice, and if you take an annual subscription, you can get acquainted enough.
A question to you guys here….(I am
Dutch women).
What is the reason you are explicitly looking
to a Thai woman? I mean by this too
say, it is as I read in all posts anyway
quite complicated. I'm not looking but would like me
definitely don't sign up on a foreign one
dating site, if only for all the above reasons.
Have you had bad experiences with Western
women?
Hello Desiree, Not so much bad experiences with Dutch women but more very positive experiences with Thai women.
Personally, I mainly fall for Asian looks.
In addition, Thai women are generally not difficult, like many Dutch women with their background in women's rights, etc.
I have many positive experiences. Sweet, sense of humour. Interesting cultural differences.
And… not entirely unimportant… 'crazy about love'
Regards, Rolf
Why I was looking for a Thai woman?
I am attracted to Asian/Thai women. As a child I felt my heart warm up when I saw tawny girls with dark eyes. These were Belgian girls in the 70s. It wasn't until the late 80s that I saw Asian women for the first time. It never worked out with Belgian girlfriends, until I gave up hope and after a few years turned to Asian women.
Bad experiences with Western women?
Western women are demanding, emancipated and self-confident. Nothing wrong with that in itself, but it is difficult to start or maintain a relationship. I suspect women feel the same way about us.
Western women are also homebound. Are Thai women better? No, they are different. And damn hard to find a good Thai woman, but not impossible.
The young generation of Thai ladies is equally demanding, emancipated and self-confident. In my opinion, the modern Thai woman does not differ much from the modern Dutch woman. Just want to find an equal partner, know what she wants, let her know too. Although of course there are still men who think that the grass is greener elsewhere and that the Asian woman is submissive and more of that kind of nonsense. Those (some?) men may still have a booklet from the 60s stating that the man is the boss and the woman gets on her knees once a year to ask forgiveness for everything she has gone wrong (yes, that was how it used to be in Thailand, but today's ladies laugh there).
First I wanted to write a sarcastic piece about Thai women listening so well, knowing their place, still doing the housework, still being a real woman and so on. But you may still find those women in the 50 or 60+ generation and some men and women are happy with that. If both are then fine, although it would be hell on earth for me if I didn't have an articulate woman with whom I can talk well to and fro. Everyone's thing.
The short answer: the appearance. I've found dark ladies more attractive than blondes. More often had a crush on ladies from across the border (Turkey, Indonesia China, Thailand, …). Inwardly, I think the women in the Netherlands and Thailand differ as much as they agree. If I hang out with Dutch women or Thai women, I hardly notice a difference so taken by the boat. If there are differences it is in personality. And the latter makes finding a suitable partner so difficult. I know plenty of nice ladies here and there, some who like me or more than like me. But I've only met a woman I was really crazy about once. I hope to find that again, and yes there is a good chance that a Thai (or Lao, or southern Chinese or…) has an advantage because I think I have a nice appearance more often. So the difficult thing is to find someone who is also an excellent match inwardly. Characters that complement each other perfectly. Been alone for 5 years now after losing my love, and still have no idea how to find such a wonderful personality.
Hello Desiree,
Your question itself provides an implicit answer. No, the women in Europe are not really women anymore and they don't even realize it! The emancipatory reasons are mainly in between, but also Western envy (jealousy) – not that this would not exist elsewhere, but it is different – and Western megalomania and complexity. In Asia people know how to reduce everything to the earthly things of life; also besides working, relaxing and enjoying ordinary simplicity in accordance with Buddhist mentality. The general female character is also different from Western women. Finally, there are also biological morphological characteristics that place Asian women on a podium, such as the slower aging process (less fast wrinkles and gray hair)… due to specific Asian properties of, among other things, fat in the face and different DNA structure, but on the other hand also because they are predominantly shorter and more beautiful in stature and also a little more submissive and friendlier. The Western women could learn a lot from the Asian women…. vice versa, of course, but whether that would always be in a positive sense I leave in the middle. Oh yes another thing I forgot an Asian woman prefers a more mature man and can also easily whine 10 yrs or more in her age… (but that is implicit from the characteristics I quoted) haha…
Best regards,
Serge
To please Thailand, it is best to take an older Thai woman, because there is a surplus of young men and older women.
Figures 2016 CIA factbook (those from other sources/measurements hardly differ)
Birth: 1,05 males to 1 females
<15 years: 1,05 men to 1 women
15-24 y: 1,04 males to 1 females
25-54 y: 0,98 males to 1 females
55-64 y: 0,89 males to 1 females
65+: 0,78 men to 1 women
Total: 0,97 males to 1 females.
The men die earlier (traffic, riskier work, riskier life) so how later in life there are too few men. Take a woman of 35+, and if it is true that women would like an older man, then you are well placed in the market with, say, an age of 50-55.
Although my feeling tells me that the woman (Thai, Dutch or whatever) preferably has a man she has a lot in common with: similar age, class, language and so on. The more and the bigger a difference, the more difficult things often become. But if you can't catch much in the pond with 'comparable to myself' then you cast your fishing rod elsewhere.
Unfortunately, I cannot find any research or figures showing that in Thailand women prefer a man 10+ years older. However, figures show that the average age of the woman and man in the first marriage is somewhere in the mid-20s. Logical because many people marry between the ages of 20 and 30 (although more and more women in Thailand choose to remain single). I see the claim that Thai ladies like to date an older (foreign) man on dating sites… Good for the ego of the men, that's for sure. 🙂 Is it true???
See also:
- https://www.thailandblog.nl/achtergrond/de-huwelijksmarkt-voor-gestudeerde-thaise-vrouwen/
- https://www.thailandblog.nl/column/waarom-zoeken-westerse-mannen-hun-heil-bij-buitenlandse-vrouwen-met-een-laag-opleidingsniveau/
- https://www.thailandblog.nl/lezersvraag/leven-jongere-thaise-vrouw/
- http://web.nso.go.th/eng/en/stat/gender/gender00.htm
- https://www.researchgate.net/publication/240727467_Early_40s_and_Still_Unmarried_A_Continuing_Trend_in_Thailand
Women aged 30+ are difficult to find in the market, it seems. That's why "mature Thai woman seeks overripe man" (to pick quickly?). Sounds like a funny slogan to me. 😉 555
A very short answer: yes. Have had enough, and have had enough. Most think “that they are dragging a cart of gold behind them”, and that sex is no longer necessary after a certain age.
Thai women are fun, jovial, open-minded and smooth. But so surprising sometimes.
So I have, among other things. experienced that at the end of a fantastic holiday, in the very last hours before my departure for the airport, my girlfriend deliberately drinks so much larzarus that she needs treatment just to try to sabotage my return. Some do not shy away from drastic actions to achieve their goal.
They are special characters that we would not expect.
I've had good experiences with dating sites Thaiflirting is free and Thaifriendly almost completely free.
My wife died in Belgium, then I got to know some ladies in Belgium, but they are so selective at an older age that it is still difficult to start again, which is why I made the step to Thailand and am now happily married to a Thai lady.
You can get in touch via “tagged”. Is free and just like a fb. That's where I got my Thai relationship from.
Dateinasia is one of those, don't know if it's still free, but it was.
However, at some point I just got blocked there, someone had complained??? They don't contact you and just delete you.
Thaifriendly can send you a free email every 10 minutes. So then immediately try another method skype or line.
But it is possible. Don't do this for too long, switch to line or skype for direct contact.
don't be tempted by "cheap" sites, because they charge very expensive prices for each communication, being per message to, and per message back.
Suddenly pay a good subscription, which you can send unlimited emails.
Don't believe they are more docile, but they do take better care of you.
DateInAsia is free and works great.
Dear,
I met my girlfriend “Pen” through Thaicupid on January 22nd. We are very close and very good friends, every day we see each other via Whats app. I plan my first trip to Thailand, Sri Racha more specifically, sometime in September. I have no experience with dating sites other than just Thaicupid. I had 5 to 10 candidates in my mailbox every day (no Cassanova though), you may or must be selective. I found 3 ladies “interesting” and that communication was very smooth indeed! But soon you read through the entire communication, who you trust a little more and who less… With Pen and me, she was the fourth in line, it was actually “love at first sight”. I used to never believe in “love at first sight” but now I had to reconsider my point of view. She really is a “treasure” of a woman, she is honest and sincere, she tells it like it is… I keep my feet on the ground though and keep my guard up, use a bit of “common common sense”. Then one piece of advice I would say, post 3-4-5 photos on your profile, recent photos, (you can see this with some ladies photos from 10 years ago) be selective, communicate with several ladies, some ask after 2 sentences how much you earn per month … get rid of it! And with a little human knowledge you quickly learn to separate the wheat from the chaff. Hope you find the one! Good luck ! Regards Gert
Dear Geert, how did your meeting with Julie go? Are you still together?
Finally a topic that can be discussed with all the commonplaces that come with it beautifully represented.
First get this straight: “Internet dating is actually the only option to meet a Western man.” This is of course true insofar as the Thai man/woman in the running is a “tourist” who is looking for a life partner and meets him/her in Thailand, whether or not after teledating. Note: we also include “him” because there are probably also dating sites for people of different genders.
If you work in Thailand, things will be completely different. Of course, it depends on what you do, in which work environment and at what level.
Students, usually the very intelligent ones who know the Thai male world all too well (and they don't have to be old for that), who like to hook up with a farang are not a rarity. If you have the chance, teach at a school for a year. Most schools have a particularly difficult time finding English teachers. The pay is poor but sufficient if you work outside the expensive tourist cities.
Being a volunteer or a project manager is becoming rarer in Thailand, but I have seen a number of successful marriages of co-workers in projects and I have been particularly impressed on several occasions by teachers who sleep in a hammock under a mosquito net on the farm estates and in hilltribe villages. – work their way to a better school in the cities. Young women with incredible “flexibility” and perseverance when they want to achieve something. If you have a hard head yourself, they are ideal partners.
From my own experience, I fear that Thai women who have studied outside Thailand – usually in English – do have a language advantage but are unfortunately quite confused in their personality. Their ideas about Western men are also not very sophisticated and are grounded in the society where they have lived for several years. So not adapted to the Netherlands or Belgium. The longer they were away from Thailand, the more difficult it became for them in the Thai context. On the other hand, those who have lived abroad for several years have a better idea of what kind of foreigners hang around in Thailand... and then it depends on the culture they have studied in whether you as a European can get along with them. Even communicating in English can be difficult. And: an intelligent Thai slim beauty who attacks you like a dock worker with an American or Australian accent is a total turn-off – or am I too sensitive?
In a working environment outside schools/universities you have less chance because you first and foremost have to know exactly what the relationships and customs are in working environments with staff, managers and the higher layers. There are quite a few power-hungry people, especially among those who come from the rich layers of the business world in a family business. The government administrations and up-country Thai Karachakans are still a separate chapter because of the low salaries and the associated “deals” that a farang sometimes hears (especially play the act “pasaa Thai puut mai pen, pen falang mai lue luang) .
I've never heard of successful encounters that last; I have seen many where the curiosity of Thais with some power trumps correct working relationships and that rarely results in a marriage. Besides, most Thai men are not immediately interested in entrusting their marital status, the number of mia nois, the evening drinks and the nightclubs where tourists never visit to farang ears. The only thing I have ever experienced is showing off a farang advisor to friends or colleagues in other departments. My appearance rarely gave reason for this... and working in some of the offices where "dangerous work" is done is a direct and immediate turn-off, you can still be an adonis...
What I have also often seen are marriages between unequals – I don't mean this pejoratively – such as the farang president of a private school who marries his kitchen maid, the golfer with torn ligaments who marries his nurse, the ex-bargirl, or a prostitute quietly in years, or in covid unemployment, who comes to someone's house to clean through a cleaning agency but remains stuck.
Some young Thai women look for a job in the supermarkets just so they can speak farangs and there you are in a dating situation. Only then will you know whether you are physically attractive/attracted and whether there can be communication. On dating sites, the girlfriend and a few booklets with the right turns of phrase often help to create a false image, as becomes apparent during the first meeting.
In any case, good luck, I am retired and we need many children to continue to finance social security.