How do I find a new girlfriend online…
To get a better picture of 'online dating' I signed up at www.dateinasia.com. I had good experiences with that years ago.
Moreover, dating there is free and you get a nice picture of the possible adored person through chatting. But what a quest I have embarked on, comparable to the Jumping procession of Echternach: three leaps forward, followed by two backwards… On the other hand, online dating is a form of addiction. Perhaps to find out its own market value again and again?
For obvious reasons I am looking for a Thai lady between 30 and 45 years old. Younger still wants to go to the disco and older just want to sleep and eat. Something in between seems like the best option. However, a lot of imagination is required in contacts via a dating site, because the ladies in question appear to be barely able to write English. It would be entertaining, if it weren't so sad.
In the Philippines, the need among women is much higher than in Thailand. Every day I get emails from Filipino ladies between 18 and 65, but often with no more than 'hi' or 'hello'. That's not the right way to start a relationship, is it?
A number of Thai ladies also appear to live at odds with the truth. Then they lie about their age, while few men with a height of 1.55 meters agree that 70 kilos should be qualified as 'very attractive'.
Most ladies are easy going, which hopefully doesn't mean they leave easily. They also have a good heart, fodder for cardiologists. And they all have the same booklet with spells about a river that trickles by or the wind that brings love. Sometimes transcribed incorrectly, so that the spell becomes completely incomprehensible. How about 'not lucky with my mary'? Or 'looking for honest media people like honesty'?
It is also funny that a lady calls herself 'below average' in terms of beauty, while in the photo she is clearly parading as a 'pretty' at the car show. It is remarkable that some ladies, sometimes 40 years old, want a man who is about the same age. That's bad marketing, because hundreds of younger women are volunteering who put the age limit somewhere near 80; one even at 99!
If the ladies immediately report their address on facebook or tagged, a red light must light up. They may have been professionally active for longer. This also applies to ladies who claim from Pattaya that they are 'employees'.
Some ladies have remarkable hobbies, such as salsa dancing, kite flying, billiards or scrabble. Sometimes you have to love the dog before you can hold the girl's hand. There is also one who would like to learn Thai boxing and one who has entered 'bald' in the hair color. So that's left soup.... If you are looking for a Thai person who loves to sing karaoke at home with the whole family, dateinasia is the place to be.
The man who is looking for a 44-year-old rice farmer will also get his money's worth here. Most of them are sweet, simple, normal and good girl. They all hate liars, scammers, playing games and talking about sex. Tattoos are not popular, although beautiful specimens can be admired in some photos. The Thai ladies come from all over the country, but the main part is based in Bangkok. Many have children, but they are often placed with grandmother in the Isan. And they almost all have the same hobby: cooking. Many ladies have graduated, but are either unemployed or have their own coffee or food stall. The question is whether they had to study for that long.
You have to be careful on this site with Thai ladies, because ladyboys are also looking for a western man. They are often attractive types and sometimes converted (post op, that's called). Incidentally, the Dutch man does not have to go that far to hook up with a Thai lady (or vice versa). Dateinasia also features Thai beauties who are in the Netherlands or other countries.
You may be wondering how the flag stands on my dating? Well, I have contact with some ladies who I like. It is now a matter of figuring out whether they can be trusted or whether I am just another farang stepping into the minefield.
About this blogger
- Almost 20 years ago, journalist Hans Bos moved to Bangkok. Almost from the beginning, he was involved in the birth of Thailandblog. As a journalist, he worked for Limburg newspapers and for the travel trade journals of what was once called Elsevier. Hans (76) has lived in Hua Hin for 14 years, with his wife Raysiya and daughter Lizzy. He was secretary and vice-chairman of the Dutch association in Hua Hin and Cha Am for about nine years.
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I do have a mother-in-law on offer, you can have it for free.
Hans,
I assume you immediately accepted the lady with a limit of 99 years? 🙂
Nice story.
Cheers,
thailand goer
Thank you thailand. I'm gvd still too young 48 years old so I won't get a year visa either I met my girlfriend in the Isaan so no personal ad, but I can still try to help my mother-in-law.
Pure self interest ha ha,
I have also had many contacts with women on dates in Asia and it is not easy to find an honest and good woman.
In any case, I have clearly stated in my profile that I am not a bank and I do not send money
But be aware that the right Thai woman will never send you a first email.
Finally found someone among the thousands of women who really clicked and after months of emailing I went to visit her in Thailand and we spent a month together that I have not regretted for a day.
We are now still together after various meetings and she will come to Holland this year as soon as the papers for mvvv are ready.
What I'm saying is don't let it drive you crazy take your time and always keep your wits about you.
Nice story Hans and also educational. As an editor you sacrifice yourself again to date all those ladies. They call it field research. The life of a journalist is not always easy 😉
active on a date in asia for some time, and first ask for monny, that's not too bad,
I'm trying to get some insight via skype.
Thought it was easy, but it's not.
a playful thai or a serious filipina….????????????????
disadvantage there is always only 1 photo
Have already posted a comment about online dating a few times before. Read often, it's a pity that the ladies don't speak English. But what's wrong with trying to master Thai yourself? Can you immediately separate the wheat from the chaff. For myself, I prefer ladies who speak almost no English, but I also understand that this is not easy for everyone.
Can also say that online dating gives a success guarantee of 1000% and not all ladies are out of money.
Keep in mind that 90-95% cannot be trusted.
Have come to the annoying conclusion that I can't master the Thai language, and that money I think for most farang, can sometimes follow it a bit, but when they start rattling, forget it.
Hello Hans , I am referring more to reading and writing Thai - since the English - also of highly educated Thai is rather meager to say the least.
Must be honest to say that I gave up about 6 times until finally the "penny" had fallen through with me how to proceed. Since then, learning Thai has become more of an addiction. I also thought I would never learn it , now my Thai is far from perfect but I can help myself quite nicely .
encouraged by your words, I have just read the book thai fever again, which is in dutch/thai, I don't see any possibility to find that "quarter", so if you have a good tip I'd like to be recommended.
And to think that my girlfriend who fell out of the treehouse had gone up to 100 within a week
could count in Dutch, English and German, so a bit of a loss of face for this farang.
Speaking of recommended, the book thai fever is an eye-opener for the farang who is looking for a thai lady and who, in my opinion, should have read it if he does not have much experience with thai culture
Hi Hans, I completely understand your problem with finding the quarter. I also gave up about 8 times. My Thai wife at the time could not explain it to me. As you can understand, this was very frustrating. As for giving a tip unfortunately I can't.
Strangely enough, I later learned the very first basics from an American, who mastered the Thai language very well in speech and writing.
In the meantime I am much better at reading and writing than speaking. Still having problems with the tones. Although a patient Thai will understand me haha
After e-mailing via DIA for some time, you can continue the contact via your own e-mail address. Then you can exchange more photos and get a better impression of her.
You pick out the non-serious ladies quite quickly: they write almost nothing or a nonsense story.
I also once met such an internet friend many years ago and thought she spoke good English because I received nice emails back in English. However on arrival it was only yes and no but then me in the wrong order. Found out that there was a lady living in the village who spoke good English and who sent all the refined and professional emails and received money for it. Don't have any yellow cards so it turned red right away and put her on the bus with some pocket money and this was again a disillusionment.
But the story is nice Peter and hope it will be of use to our compatriots, although I must say when our patients are in love, there is no stopping them.
Have a nice holiday and see you soon.
These days we chat, so that flier won't fly anymore unless she frustrates the chat in every possible way.
But that should make you think…
Harry writes that a high percentage cannot be trusted.
But so are the farangs. I know a lot of men for fun
contact and continue chatting etc with many women and girls.
I know of a case that had 150 contacts. He later realized that
it's not fair to these ladies and has stopped most of them.
Gerrit
And for the editors happy holidays and thanks for the many
interesting topics that we received in the past period.
Gerrit
Love is blind, even if you know that love is blind…
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