Men are lucky
Let's be honest, you guys are really lucky, aren't they? You must have been born as a woman and have to experience that annoying hassle every month. Or just sit alone at a bar somewhere and let men spy on you. Men immediately think that they can glue you with a wet finger and after offering you a drink they can seduce you.
My dear and dearest brother Joseph, when this subject comes up every now and then, strongly disagrees with me. In his opinion, we women are 'man enough' to have our say and no longer live in our parents' twenties. The annoying thing is that my own husband - his brother-in-law - always agrees with him with a smirk.
Of course we women are more than assertive and we are not inferior to the male sex. What am I saying; don't do? No, we women are a lot more sensible than men!
Now look at Melania Trump: that aunt has hooked the current, to put it mildly, well-to-do president of America. He is 23 years older, but that means nothing, nothing at all.
Women know all too well where men's minds reside.
Well, for us it is an age-old trick to win over men. I'm just using Mrs. Trump as an example because at this point everyone knows her and 'Blonde Donald'.
And with Mr Trump's description I immediately make a comparison with another woman: Blonde Dolly.
Blonde Dolly
Do you remember her?
The murder of Blonde Dolly in 1959 caused quite a stir. The woman led a double life, with every detail about her life that made the media at the time shocking. In the evening she received clients behind the window, but during the day she was in the better circles as a model and recital artist. Her prostitution work was of a high emancipatory level. For example, Blonde Dolly worked without a pimp and in 1948 she bought her own tendon building (Nieuwe Haven 498, The Hague), later followed by even more real estate. She was found dead in her bed on November 2, 1959 in her building on the Nieuwe Haven.
Feared was her blue agenda. This one would contain a handful of names of highly placed regulars. The police refused to release the notebook. This sparked rumors that one of the high-ranking people would be involved in her murder. An old story but the 'mind of men', educated or uneducated, has not changed since that time.
Yes; I also want to involve Thailand in this story. Together with my husband Gerard, I got to know Thailand well thanks to my little brother. More and more I come to the conclusion that we women have our minds better than men. Why did I include Melania Trump and Blonde Dolly in this story? Well, very simply they are and were intelligent women who know the weak spot(s) of men. And guess what: Thai women are no less intelligent. They also hook a man super fast. At least if he has what you call a little more to do and regularly shifts the necessary pecunia. Men, they only think about one thing and we women know that all too well.
Today is Father's Day and they are a bit in the spotlight around this commercial thing. I bought a tile for my Gerard. Hope he can see the fun in it. I think so because we have been together for over forty years.
Have a nice day to all fathers.
Submitted by: Josefien Jongen
If I can choose, I prefer to come back as an intelligent woman. Women are lucky, practically every woman can hook up with a partner, but not every man succeeds.
As a man, my weak spot is having a nice, smart lady with whom I can talk for hours about serious and less serious subjects, preferably while you are out together to soak up culture and nature. It is not so easy to find such a woman, will most of them be fishing at another pond? Must be a lot of fun there at that pond… However, I don't like fishing, but in museums few women walk around with a fishing rod or landing net. 🙂
Quite a lot of platitudes Rob, come back?Hang on? If not the pond, then the museums? Walking around in museums with no interest in what is on display? Talk for hours? Yes, until it becomes unbearable.
Everything is possible in love, but you have to be a bad or very calculating person to exploit that to your own advantage.
In short, the whole story revolves around the type of person you are, male or female.
It is a pity that often the vulnerable or sensitive people are the victims.
Well, Josefientje, you can eclipse your name on the day of the solar eclipse, but you still remain an admirable young boy. Have a nice evening under father's umbrella.
Being both a woman and a man has a disadvantage and an advantage.
Thinking about it is of little use and I also fail people who were born in the wrong body.
Not being able to find a partner is a newly created problem. There is no such thing as 100% perfection and water will always have to be added to the wine.
A man/woman who meets the requirements 80% is rejected during this time, while the intention is to grow those 20% together.
To me, that's the challenge in a relationship and it just goes to show what kind of cowardice has been produced. Everything has to be perfect…..get a life
Dear Josephine,
You are lucky with your brother and think/hope that you are just as much a bon vivant!
Peer
Dear Peer, you apparently know my brother, he really is a great guy to me! He told me that you met in Chiangmai recently.
I think your vision and story applies to quite a group of men. But fortunately not in part. People come in all shapes and sizes and I have to agree with Johnny BG on this. Why do people feel attracted to the other and is this always the right indicator. I think I know the answer and the examples where things often go wrong can certainly be seen daily in places such as the bars in Thailand. Man or the flesh is weak are not just statements, but reality for many. Good relationships require two people who make a conscious choice, based on love, trust, respect and perseverance, among other things. The willingness to put yourself in each other's shoes and to make an effort to be able to face the outside world together. But coming back to your bit yes, the sad reality is that many still have the priority of the mind versus the urge of the genitals out of order, with all the detrimental consequences in society. I avoid being that kind of guy and blonde Dolly is definitely not my type.
Quote: “Why is one attracted to the other and is this always the right indicator.”
A fascinating statement from Jacques.
Unfortunately, our cliché answers to that are based only on assumptions, suppositions, dogmas of the sheep herders who roamed the Sinai desert 2000 years ago, and ancient prejudices.
'The flesh is weak' is above all a humiliating but above all discriminatory statement that only originated in the morbid brain of the inventors of the desert religions. See the current demonstrations against discrimination against people of color, but especially women... 'The flesh is weak' is really a wrong statement in 2020. Reprehensible.
Apparently no one knows that evolutionary biologists have been doing and are doing scientific research on this issue since the 80s. Among other things, this has resulted in this clear law, which is called 'epigamous differentiation'.
What does it mean?
In the evolution of man, Homo sapiens, the individualization of sexual responses has come at a time.
This means that a given female is only sexually arousing for a few males, or one male. She is simply not attractive to others and they ignore her (get a bruise…).
In bonobos or chimpanzees – our closest relatives – on the other hand, the schema is still present that man has let go of with his 'epigamous differentiation', namely all males arbitrarily desire all females and will therefore randomly (want to) mate with all of them.
The evolutionary advantage of epigamous differentiation? The pairing!
Due to our increased brain mass (our thinking ability), the Sapiens had to spend more and more time raising its young.
A chimpanzee mother, for example, spends about 5-6 years raising it to an adult child - but she does that alone. Then his brain formation is complete.
A human couple, however, puts in about 22-24 years until its offspring can stand on its own two feet. Our brain takes an average of 21 years to reach maturity. (Almost everyone will be an expert by experience.) One individual can hardly do this alone.
How can a female persuade a male to stay with her for 22 years and help with the rearing?
By giving him the prospect of years of guaranteed sex without any effort, if he helps raise and feeds.
What does my contribution have to do with the essence of the article and the reactions?
That many of the above start from the wrong premise. They must realize that a relationship of an older falang with a mostly younger Thai woman is atypical and has a different necessity. That woman usually seeks "feeding food," but not raising children.
So tip: if you want to be sure of the easy accessibility of free sex… have a child with your Thai partner. That guarantees more fidelity and fewer buck jumps. Only then are men lucky.
The freelancer can always expect infidelity.
Dear Josefien, I agree with you completely, but not all men have their minds between their legs, perhaps 90% as you decide here. I have already been married 3 times, but the first one has yet to be born who has praised me. I have always worked for my money and so has my wife.! If that doesn't fit her expectations, she can gather her things and leave, which has already happened twice. I have been married to my Thai wife for 2 years now and she has no problem with having to work too. The other 16 have lasted less than 2 years.! To me, women are equal to men in everything, so I expect as much from them as I do from myself. When decisions are made on any subject, it is discussed TOGETHER. Sex is allowed but not necessary for me and I will NEVER pay for it.!!